To think referring to your partner as your fiancé is a bit naff?

[RosieGuacamosie]

Lighthearted

I have no idea why I find this irritating 😂 I suppose I just find it a bit naff when people refer to their boyfriend/girlfriend as fiancé in general conversation as in “oh my fiancé is a teacher too”. The majority of people I know say boyfriend/girlfriend/partner until they actually married.

Is it a bit cringe or am I a miserable bitch?

I’ve used it once or twice but I don’t now - it felt really awkward and then people (strangers!) congratulate you, which is even more awkward!

@bloodywhitecat

I'd piss you off then. I refer to my partner as my fiancé because he is, we are getting married in four weeks because he is dying. You can cringe all you like but I am glad we have been able to have a short engagement before we marry and I want to celebrate that fact in an otherwise really shitty time.

Oh Lord, so sorry to hear that, kind of puts it all into perspective doesn't it. Best of luck, I hope you have longer together than you think

Fiancé is fine, as long as it's accurate (as in, the couple are engaged). 'Other half' really irritates me, so does hubby/wifey.

Me too. I don't think I ever used this when we were engaged. I always cringed when someone said oh my fiancé, I don't know why. I just don't like it.

I feel a bit cringe saying partner too. Tbh I find partner, fiancé, boyfriend all a bit odd personally. I think it's because I'm divorced soon used to saying husband.

I'm getting remarried at the end of the year and can't wait to say husband as that seems to feel better for some reason.

Cannot abide partner - to me that is a business term not what I want to call my significant other.

I call my fiancée my partner most of the time because I do think fiancée sounds a bit pretentious (no idea why as it’s the correct terminology if you are engaged).

What I find cringey is people calling their boyfriend of a few months their OH or partner, you’ve only been together a few months, you barely know him, how is your other half or partner??

Yeah, I must admit I didn't love using fiancé when I was engaged (and I know my husband didn't either).

I struggle with partner as a term but only because I'm a solicitor and so have difficulty getting my mind away from the work context!

Yeah, I think it is a bit cringe. Something about the phonetics and having to draw out your jaw screams I'm trying to sound posh and failing badly.

I referred to DH as my "partner" because I found that every time I said "fiancé" I was immediately interrupted with "ooooohhhhh, you're eeennggaaaaaggeedddddd, how did he ask you???" and I'd never actually get to say what I was going to say in the first place. Unfortunately, by saying "partner", people tended to assume I'm a lesbian. Swings and roundabouts I suppose - much easier now I'm married.

“Partner” really annoys me and I don’t know why!

I hate it too. We used to have a laugh about Jay-Z introducing his partner; ‘this is my fiancée, Beyoncé’ but said in an Essex accent. No idea why we found it so funny, but that’s what it reminds me of, something a bit naff! Also agree that hubby/wifey is equally as tacky.

I find everything other than husband a but cringe, not when other people use it but just for myself. Boyfriend made me feel like I was a child, fiancé just didn’t feel right and partner too formal. I usually just call him by his name, but am happy that as we’re now married I can call him my husband

I don't think about any of this until I see these daft threads... what are people supposed to call their shag-ee then? I think the term wife/husband is a bit smug and awfully naff, but other like to use those terms so what?

The Italians do it best; I prefer inamorato. I'll use that from now on.

I used 'partner' when we were engaged, the word fiance just grates on me. It just sounds a bit cringe in that way French words often do when anglicised. "Fee yon say." Ugh.

It does sound rather old fashioned
Is it dying out?
If you live together then 'partner' if not married

Using "partner" for every guy you hook up with is worse. "Moving in with my new partner that I've been seeing for three months...my kids adore him".

@MsTSwift

There is something cringey about the word - can’t put my finger on why but there is.

This.

People referring to some bloke they started dating 5 minutes ago as a 'partner'. No one is just seeing someone or has a boyfriend/girlfriend anymore, everyone's a fucking 'partner'.

@choli

Using "partner" for every guy you hook up with is worse. "Moving in with my new partner that I've been seeing for three months...my kids adore him".

Yep! And having to sprog with every 'partner' you get with.

Fiance/fiancee is quite normal if people are engaged to be married. Boyfriend/girlfriend if you are 'keeping company' with someone you like; partner if you take it further - usually live together but some partners in a committed relationship do live separately.
Husband/wife = married.

I don't like 'my other half' because it implies you are incomplete without your partner.

Fiance/ee doesn't bother me if it's accurate. Boy/girlfriend sounds too casual or teenage, and partner I tend to assume same sex couple.

I hate the term partner everyone different I suppose

It's not naff, as long as they are your fiance.

Partner makes me cringe.

Boyfriend/partner/fiancee/husband was the route I went. I've never said 'better half' or 'other half' because I'm already a complete human being, not half of one.