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Original poster

To wonder what it is about “no overnight stays till 17 May” that is so hard to understand?

821 replies

HaveringWavering · 29/04/2021 16:22

So many colleagues and acquaintances merrily talking today about plans to go and stay with relatives for the bank holiday. Nobody has any shame. We’re waiting till the 17th. Does nobody care any more?

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name674398 · 29/04/2021 16:23

Can honestly say I don't give a flying fuck.

Original poster
HaveringWavering · 29/04/2021 16:23

About following the rules yourself or about what others do?

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Hiphopopotamus · 29/04/2021 16:25

You do you OP - let other people make their choices. People are at the point of making their own risk assessments rather than wait to do exactly what the ‘one size fits some’ directive from the government. All power to them I say

Lamentations · 29/04/2021 16:25

Shame? Get a grip.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 29/04/2021 16:26

No, people don't care any more. Including myself.

JengaNonConfirming · 29/04/2021 16:26

Honestly? I just can't get worked up over it, not even a little bit!

Smartiepants79 · 29/04/2021 16:26

Of course some people still care.
But many can’t really see the point of waiting for an arbitrary date, it is very difficult to see or justify why it’s going to make any difference for me to see my family this weekend or in two weeks time.
This is especially true if your talking about groups of people who have been vaccinated and when it only involves 2 households.

OhKnackers · 29/04/2021 16:27

I don't care. I have nowhere to go overnight but I would go somewhere if I could!

deliciousdevilwoman · 29/04/2021 16:28

@name674398

Can honestly say I don't give a flying fuck.
This
MadMadMadamMim · 29/04/2021 16:28

Don't give a fuck either way. We're not planning on going anywhere personally, cos we've nowhere to go.

But bleating nobody has any shame made me laugh.

People have (mostly) decided that they don't believe the government's roadmap and decision have any real logic to them and that they've had enough after this year. Many have had Covid. Many have had vaccinations. Many have carried on working at great risk and yet haven't been allowed any personal freedoms.

Many have just had enough. I don't blame them.

Thedogscollar · 29/04/2021 16:28

No people have had enough now. It's time to live a normal life. The levels are so low across the country now and normal life has to resume at some point. I don't think a few days matters tbh.

WhatTheFlap · 29/04/2021 16:28

I’ve stayed at my mum’s house twice this year so far and plan to again the weekend before 17th. You’re NBU to do what you’re happy with, but I’m past the point of caring what others do!

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HaveringWavering · 29/04/2021 16:29

They’d all be the first to complain if their employers asked them to come back to the office a millisecond before the government relaxes “work from home if possible”.

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VegCheeseandCrackers · 29/04/2021 16:29

Because covid won't magically disappear on the 17th!

Bluntness100 · 29/04/2021 16:30

“Shame”...are you feeling ok? That’s a drastic reaction.

Lamentations · 29/04/2021 16:30

And to your second question to a PP - neither. I've minded my own business from the start. The people who should feel ashamed of themselves are the people who have curtain twitched, reported their neighbours for 'breaches' and generally been over invested and spiteful about what other people were doing. I remember early in the pandemic a poster saying that she now understood why the Hitler Youth had thrived in Nazi Germany and she got slated but she was bang on.

Original poster
HaveringWavering · 29/04/2021 16:30

@Bluntness100

“Shame”...are you feeling ok? That’s a drastic reaction.
Why, is breaking the law not shameful?
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VegCheeseandCrackers · 29/04/2021 16:30

@HaveringWavering

They’d all be the first to complain if their employers asked them to come back to the office a millisecond before the government relaxes “work from home if possible”.
That's just because WFH is class (for those who enjoy it) and is a money and time saver.
4PawsGood · 29/04/2021 16:30

Are you sure they aren’t staying in an Airbnb?

HunkyPunk · 29/04/2021 16:32

Nothing magic is going to happen on 17th May to make overnight stays suddenly drop from high risk to low risk. I imagine the risk level (whatever that might be) won't differ hugely between now and then.

Takemetothebar · 29/04/2021 16:32

Nope, don’t care. And certainly no “shame”involved- what a bizarre thing to think!!

You hold out for your arbitrary date. Make sure you secure the ladders on your way up the moral mountain.

80sMum · 29/04/2021 16:32

I think we're at a similar stage to where we were last August, where Covid transmission is low, cases are falling and deaths from Covid are close to none. Under those circumstances, there is a collective feeling that "it's over".

Last summer, the government fell for it as well and initiated the (with hindsight, idiotic) "eat out to help out" scheme. This year, they are rightfully being a lot more cautious with the guidelines. But people are doing as they did then and "following their instincts", to coin a phrase.

Voomster953 · 29/04/2021 16:32

What do you think is going to be different on the 17th to the 16th?

YesItsMeIDontCare · 29/04/2021 16:33

@HaveringWavering

They’d all be the first to complain if their employers asked them to come back to the office a millisecond before the government relaxes “work from home if possible”.
You do realise that only a small percentage of those who have carried on working throughout this pandemic have had the luxury of wfh?
1milk2sugars · 29/04/2021 16:33

In a lot of cases all individuals will be vaccinated and little risk, I can understand people now making their own judgements and decisions.