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Original poster

To wonder what it is about “no overnight stays till 17 May” that is so hard to understand?

821 replies

HaveringWavering · 29/04/2021 16:22

So many colleagues and acquaintances merrily talking today about plans to go and stay with relatives for the bank holiday. Nobody has any shame. We’re waiting till the 17th. Does nobody care any more?

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Tal45 · 29/04/2021 16:33

People are selfish OP, that's what it boils down to. I haven't seen any of my family for over a year and a half but can still manage to wait till the June half term. Numbers are going up in our nearest town unsurprisingly.

KizzyMoo · 29/04/2021 16:33

No don't care anymore. I'm a keyworker not had 1 day WFH and want to visit family now, had enough of it.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 29/04/2021 16:33

@HaveringWavering

They’d all be the first to complain if their employers asked them to come back to the office a millisecond before the government relaxes “work from home if possible”.
I work in a factory so I've been going out to work throughout, putting myself at risk of catching Covid to make sure people get their online shopping. So you are not going to shame me for seeing my family indoors.
minniemomo · 29/04/2021 16:33

I'm with you @HaveringWavering

It was people not following the rules that have prelonged this nightmare. 8 cases in my development, turns out a parent allowed their kid a sleepover party at Easter. We all need to do our part nobody is special

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HaveringWavering · 29/04/2021 16:33

@Lamentations

And to your second question to a PP - neither. I've minded my own business from the start. The people who should feel ashamed of themselves are the people who have curtain twitched, reported their neighbours for 'breaches' and generally been over invested and spiteful about what other people were doing. I remember early in the pandemic a poster saying that she now understood why the Hitler Youth had thrived in Nazi Germany and she got slated but she was bang on.
You do understand that the whole point of controlling a disease is that it doesn’t work unless people collectively follow the rules? Trying to compare Covid-related measures to Nazism is such a juvenile argument. We’re not in sixth form.
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lazylinguist · 29/04/2021 16:34

I won't be breaking the rules myself, but tbh I can't get too worked up about other people doing so at this stage.

poppycat10 · 29/04/2021 16:35

@WhatTheFlap

I’ve stayed at my mum’s house twice this year so far and plan to again the weekend before 17th. You’re NBU to do what you’re happy with, but I’m past the point of caring what others do!
Me too. I won't going again before 17th but that's just timing.
YetAnotherHastyNameChange · 29/04/2021 16:35

Lots of people are vaccinated, people have been allowed to stay in AirBnB’s, holiday parks and campsites for weeks. Most people are able to realise that 17th May is just an arbitrary date and no one really gives a crap anymore apart from the permanently outraged.

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HaveringWavering · 29/04/2021 16:35

You do realise that only a small percentage of those who have carried on working throughout this pandemic have had the luxury of wfh?

Yes. But not the people who have said to me that they are going away. The ones I was taking about @YesItsMeIDontCare.

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poppycat10 · 29/04/2021 16:35

It was people not following the rules that have prelonged this nightmare. 8 cases in my development, turns out a parent allowed their kid a sleepover party at Easter. We all need to do our part nobody is special

Sleepover parties are a bit different to one person staying with one other person, or one household staying with one other household.

RedcurrantPuff · 29/04/2021 16:36

@Waxonwaxoff0

No, people don't care any more. Including myself.
This

It’s legal in Scotland anyway, what difference is an extra 2 weeks going to make.

Takemetothebar · 29/04/2021 16:36

It feels a bit like sixth form. The government successfully made it illegal to see your own mother on Christmas Day. They managed to limit and ban you from having visitors on your own private property. Sounds closer to school rules than consenting adult decisions to me.

latebreakfast · 29/04/2021 16:36

The government's role is to ensure that the NHS doesn't get overwhelmed not to make individual judgements about what's safe. They promised "data not dates" but have done exactly the opposite.

I really feel for the small businesses that have been devastated by the last, unnecessary part of this lockdown and have no problem at all if people decide that it's safe to start meeting with each other.

TheOneWithTheBigNose · 29/04/2021 16:36

@HaveringWavering

They’d all be the first to complain if their employers asked them to come back to the office a millisecond before the government relaxes “work from home if possible”.
No I don’t care anymore. And I’ve gone back to work in the office. Couldn’t wait to get back in.
YetAnotherHastyNameChange · 29/04/2021 16:37

haveringwavering are you happy for two families to sleep in adjoining caravans on holiday? Is it just when they step inside a house at nighttime that they become grossly irresponsible?

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HaveringWavering · 29/04/2021 16:37

In a lot of cases all individuals will be vaccinated and little risk, I can understand people now making their own judgements and decisions.

Someone didn’t listen to their pre-vaccination briefing.

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Takemetothebar · 29/04/2021 16:37

@TheOneWithTheBigNose I’m jealous- our offices aren’t open yet :(

AryaStarkWolf · 29/04/2021 16:38

@HaveringWavering

They’d all be the first to complain if their employers asked them to come back to the office a millisecond before the government relaxes “work from home if possible”.
I think a lot of people can't wait to get back to the office and away from being home all day everyday tbh
Takemetothebar · 29/04/2021 16:38

@HaveringWavering

It’s very irritating when posters assume that responders don’t understand something, when really they just disagree.

IHaveBrilloHair · 29/04/2021 16:38

Also don't care, I had Dd to stay the other week, ironically as she needed to get her vaccine early the next day but she's welcome here whenever.
I say this as as CEV person.

PoTheDog · 29/04/2021 16:38

@HaveringWavering

They’d all be the first to complain if their employers asked them to come back to the office a millisecond before the government relaxes “work from home if possible”.
Lots of people (including me) have been asked to do just that by their employers!!
LST · 29/04/2021 16:39

I don't care. I've been overnighting in my van since the 12th, with other families with us. That is allowed, so I couldn't get worked up about someone stopping their mums

tildaandjo · 29/04/2021 16:39

I do find it annoying as the people I know saying they don't care anymore have had two vaccines. I have never been scared of covid but have followed the rules as believed I was protecting others. I've not been vaccinated but don't think I will change my behaviour when I am. I'm not getting worked up about it though.

Soubriquet · 29/04/2021 16:39

What’s the point?

What’s the point in saying “no I won’t do this until the 17th”

What’s the difference between today and the 17th?

Nothing

katienana · 29/04/2021 16:40

Is it "safer" for our household to go and stay with another household tonight or, after May 17th, to stay with one household on 17th, another on the 18th, another on the 19th, and so on? Yet one is allowed and the other isn't!
Follow the rules if you like and let other people make their own judgement