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Boasting In-Laws

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Coo5 · 25/04/2021 18:12

I'm genuinely shocked that an in-law family member of mine has taken to social media, specifically Facebook, to brag about being mortgage free, at a fairly young age. We knew they were, but it seems in such poor taste, even more so in the middle of a pandemic when families are struggling. My ewww factor is off the charts, I thought she had class.

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Iheartbed · 25/04/2021 18:13

Let me guess, she also put something along the lines of “all our hard work paid off” when in fact she just bought at the right time

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Coo5 · 25/04/2021 18:21

Nope, just garb, about how she never thought it would be her!

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krustykittens · 25/04/2021 18:38

I have friends on FB who are hanging onto their homes, and their lives in general, by their fingernails. We are VERY lucky in that Covid hasn't affected our income and being forced to stay at home means we have saved money. I wouldn't shout about it in front of people who can't sleep for worrying about how they are going to pay their rent/mortgage, though.

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Coo5 · 25/04/2021 18:49

Exactly, perhaps she only has well off buddies in her friends list, I doubt it though. We have not been affected either, but I am forever mindful of just how difficult it has been for some people. It just seems so utterly tactless.

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FizzyApricot · 25/04/2021 18:52

Just seems a really weird thing to share with people. Most people keep their financial situation off Facebook.

SeasonFinale · 25/04/2021 19:04

Her facebook page, her choice.

Personally I feel it isn't great when a family member comes on to a forum to slag off another family member even if anonymously.

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Coo5 · 25/04/2021 19:05

I know, right, that's why I was gobsmacked, who actually does that?!

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drpet49 · 25/04/2021 19:05

I think this is in poor taste too. Just bragging. Probably paid off with mummy and daddy’s money

NorthernMC · 25/04/2021 19:08

There’s a whole debt free movement on social media. These people who pay their mortgages off early usually do so by never using debt, working side hustles, living on the bare minimum and making good financial choices. Good on them if this is how they’ve done, I hope they inspire others.
If it’s through pure luck then yes insensitive.

PanamaPattie · 25/04/2021 19:08

Two things - bragging and Facebook. Not classy at all.

rosesarered321 · 25/04/2021 19:09

Awful behaviour

Orchidflower1 · 25/04/2021 19:11

@PanamaPattie

Two things - bragging and Facebook. Not classy at all.
Oh my- spot on!

I think your relative @Coo5 is thoughtless and vulgar.

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Coo5 · 25/04/2021 19:12

@SeasonFinale

Her facebook page, her choice.

Personally I feel it isn't great when a family member comes on to a forum to slag off another family member even if anonymously.

In law by marriage, and its better to vent here, than tackle her head on. Which I have no problem with, but out of respect for my other half I don't. Family dynamics are a strange thing, and to keep the peace I share here instead.
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Coo5 · 25/04/2021 19:13

Inheritance, I'll say no more.

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NorthernMC · 25/04/2021 19:14

@Coo5

Inheritance, I'll say no more.
Yeah that’s crap then. Insensitive idiots.
KarensChoppyBob · 25/04/2021 19:14

@PanamaPattie

Two things - bragging and Facebook. Not classy at all.
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

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waitingforthenextseason · 25/04/2021 19:15

@Coo5

Inheritance, I'll say no more.
Then it's even more distasteful than it already was.
emilyfrost · 25/04/2021 19:17

YABVU. It’s their Facebook, they can do what they want and they shouldn’t have to worry about what they post in case someone gets upset/offended over it Hmm

They’re posting happy news - just be happy for them.

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Coo5 · 25/04/2021 19:19

I already was. I already knew. It put their good news in a bad light boasting about it. At least use the audience selector.

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Neonprint · 25/04/2021 19:20

Yeah it's really tacky behaviour.

ClarkeGriffin · 25/04/2021 19:21

I wouldn't brag about being mortgage free based on an inheritance. Did someone have to die for this to happen? Odd thing to be happy about, more happy about the money than anything else. Her morals I guess, I prefer mine.

Catswithflamingos · 25/04/2021 19:23

How dare people celebrate their achievements 🙄

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Coo5 · 25/04/2021 19:23

They don't worry, that's the whole point. I in turn can choose to be offended, because that is MY choice. It was in poor taste.
You say "happy" I say "braggy"!

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LolaSmiles · 25/04/2021 19:25

YANBU boasting is unpleasant whether it's on social media or in person

However, we're on page 1 and if this thread goes like any other Boasting on Social Media thread does, I anticipate the following:

  1. Some reference to the fact you must be utterly jealous in every way
  2. Someone telling you not to be on social media / why do you have them on social media when you clearly hate them / a random comment about how they only have their guinea pigs on social media so never have any problems
  3. Some people claiming they have no idea what boasting is because surely people are just sharing nice things (insert fake wide eyed innocent look here + tilty head)
  4. Some people claiming that the world has gone mad if nobody can every post anything, like ever, just in case someone else doesn't have it. Includes some silly examples about how if people shouldn't brag about their finances then people shouldn't upload that they've been to the park because not everyone is able to go to the park
KarensChoppyBob · 25/04/2021 19:26

Perfect Lola Grin.