Boasting In-Laws

[Coo5]

I'm genuinely shocked that an in-law family member of mine has taken to social media, specifically Facebook, to brag about being mortgage free, at a fairly young age. We knew they were, but it seems in such poor taste, even more so in the middle of a pandemic when families are struggling. My ewww factor is off the charts, I thought she had class.

[quote rarat]@ClarkeGriffin I was agreeing with you but that is how some posters think. Lots of things that aren't acceptable in RL somehow are fine on SM. [/quote]
Ah sorry I read that wrong, too early in the morning for me clearly.

@apooagnuandyou

ClarkeGriffin

but that's not what the thread is about...if you read the actual OP, there's 0 mention of the loss of a family member. The drip feed only came later when not everybody praised the OP for having such impeccable taste, being morally superior and right to be bitching about her in-laws.

When you read the last post, you have the whole story!

As soon as you stand up for yourself in here, that awful pack mentality kicks in this is classic
I mean, it's one way to describe bitching about a family member on a public forum and others disagreeing with you!

She did say it was from an inheritance. Most of the time, an inheritance is because someone died. You'll get the odd time if isn't, but usually that's more called a gift legally, not an inheritance.

@Orchidflower1 I agree, I think a timeframe on grieving is ludicrous. Also you don't need everything to be sorted to know about inheritance. My fil had discussed his will & wishes with DH.

Just comment ‘so glad I didn’t need a mortgage, must be a huge relief x’

ClarkeGriffin

there's NO mention in the inheritance in the OP at all.

The detail, which rather change the whole story, came later, that's my point. The mention of the pandemic, when families are struggling is just patronising bull crap.

If the OP had started a thread about in-laws celebrating a death in the family and the inheritance to come, she would have got very different replies... and she knows it, that's why the thread is moving nicely.

[quote rarat]@Coo5 just ignore them. As I said above most people would find the circumstances hurtful & distasteful. People who do these sort of things don't like to be judged though although they love to judge others 😆[/quote]
Thanks 😊 I needed some kind words, we are still reeling, the death was unexpected and my kids lost their grandparent.

Came off Fussbook years ago, best thing I ever did. It's been the cause of so much trouble, envy and bad feeling. There is also no way I'd be putting any personal , financial information on it. It can be a target for scammers who go there for people's information.

@Coo5 the grief of your dc and your dc must be so must harder to deal with when the outlaws are flaunting it like this. Do they have cousins? I wonder how they would feel to know their grandparents death was being portrayed like this?

*dh for second dc - sorry!

[quote Orchidflower1]@Coo5 the grief of your dc and your dc must be so must harder to deal with when the outlaws are flaunting it like this. Do they have cousins? I wonder how they would feel to know their grandparents death was being portrayed like this?[/quote]
Yes they got their own dc to hold a glass up too.

Different worlds.

Putting anything about finances on FB seems pretty distasteful but then so's being bitter about someone else's good fortune. Roll your eyes and let it go.

It took a lot of willpower not to comment, but my DH would not appreciate it, and I totally get it, that's why I vented here.

@TubeOfSmarties

Putting anything about finances on FB seems pretty distasteful but then so's being bitter about someone else's good fortune. Roll your eyes and let it go.

How am I bitter when we had the same windfall?

@TubeOfSmarties op is not bitter about the money- her family have the same amount!

She is saddened and frustrated that her money grabbing sil thinks that posting a showy off message about clearing their mortgage with the inheritance from her late father in law is acceptable. It’s still a grieving period for her family but no shame sil thinks showing off about her windfall is a good way to honour the memory of a loved family member.
Apologies @Coo5 if I’ve overstepped but I’m getting annoyed on your behalf!!!

I was responding to your original comment in which it is neither clear that it’s all in relation to a bereavement (in which case of course it’s insensitive to post on FB) nor that you received the same sum of money which in any case is fairly irrelevant as it’s about paying the mortgage off.

Drip feeding feels like you’re looking for arguments tbh and I’ve no time for that.

@TubeOfSmarties

I was responding to your original comment in which it is neither clear that it’s all in relation to a bereavement (in which case of course it’s insensitive to post on FB) nor that you received the same sum of money which in any case is fairly irrelevant as it’s about paying the mortgage off.

Drip feeding feels like you’re looking for arguments tbh and I’ve no time for that.

Apologies I didn't divulge my life story in the first sitting.....if you can't be bothered to read the thread, which is fair enough, then don't comment.

rip feeding feels like you’re looking for arguments tbh and I’ve no time for that.

glad I am not the only one to notice!

The timing is weird too, you don't become "mortgage free" on the day your parent dies, and let's be honest, if someone was really such an attention seeker as the OP claim they are, they would have filled their social media with news of the loss, to which people always respond.

Which is fair enough, if a friend loses a parent, you get in touch.

I'd love to hear the story told from the in-laws side

Apologies I didn't divulge my life story in the first sitting....

oh come on, it's rather relevant and more than an important "detail" that you chose to forget to start with.

We get it

[quote Orchidflower1]@TubeOfSmarties op is not bitter about the money- her family have the same amount!

She is saddened and frustrated that her money grabbing sil thinks that posting a showy off message about clearing their mortgage with the inheritance from her late father in law is acceptable. It’s still a grieving period for her family but no shame sil thinks showing off about her windfall is a good way to honour the memory of a loved family member.
Apologies @Coo5 if I’ve overstepped but I’m getting annoyed on your behalf!!![/quote]
You haven't overstepped the mark, it's just frightening how few get it, or when they do pride stops them changing direction. Empathy is shockingly lacking, but then I have a confrontational personality so I suppose that is getting in the way of seeing the bigger picture.

@apooagnuandyou

Apologies I didn't divulge my life story in the first sitting....

oh come on, it's rather relevant and more than an important "detail" that you chose to forget to start with.

We get it

Jeez you're antagonistic, with a very over active imagination, oh and not forgetting a dog with a bone disposition. Can only imagine the damage you cause to people in your own life. Not once have I said she was attention seeking, but there you have written it in black and white for all to see. A tad irresponsible. Shame on you. Forget, again your own interpretation, I would very much steer clear of you in RL.

Coo5

wow.. You do not like people disagreeing with you on social media about what other people post on social media, do you!

Coo5

If you need me to spell it out for you:

There's a HUGE difference between someone celebrating being mortgage-free on their FB - which is the subject of YOUR thread,

and people publicly opening the champagne on the day one of their parents has died, and cheering about the inheritance coming their way.

Do not pretend you can't see how different the 2 scenario are.

I am very amused that your thread started with scenario 1 and somehow ended on scenario 2, with the children being roped into it for good measure.

Thanks for helping me see the error of my ways