Boasting In-Laws

[Coo5]

I'm genuinely shocked that an in-law family member of mine has taken to social media, specifically Facebook, to brag about being mortgage free, at a fairly young age. We knew they were, but it seems in such poor taste, even more so in the middle of a pandemic when families are struggling. My ewww factor is off the charts, I thought she had class.

I think people who are generally a bit happier with their own lot in life, would just eye-roll and scroll past
Perhaps, most people probably see bragging and think 'oh that's nice dear' whilst moving on, changing the conversion, scrolling on by, although AIBU is largely filled with 'here is something mildly annoying'.
I wouldn't say starting the thread shows any more jealousy than when people wish a colleague would shut up about their gap year, or think their brother in law should realise he's the only one interested in discussing house prices.

I'm not saying she definitely isn't jealous, just that any thread about bragging on here turns into claims an OP is jealous.

I'm not saying she definitely isn't jealous, just that any thread about bragging on here turns into claims an OP is jealous.

I get what you mean but I'd say that's because more often than not, it becomes clear that they actually are.

Or at least bitter that their own life is very different.

People on social media can only be tacky because they are braggy, attention seeker because they are drama llama, or bitchy because they only go on social media to judge others.

You have chosen your camp

He came back from work this evening ashen, and livid.

how does he react when there are real problems?

I tend to wonder if it's less jealousy sometimes and more that there is some history between an OP and the bragger that makes mildly annoying boasting seem like nails down a chalk board.

I think people who are generally a bit happier with their own lot in life, would just eye-roll and scroll past.

This is it representative of RL at all, death & money creates big rifts in families.

In what circumstance is the OPs DH expected to be happy about the situation.

how does he react when there are real problems?

He lost a parent!

but that's not what the OP is moaning about, her issue is the "boasting"!

@apooagnuandyou

He came back from work this evening ashen, and livid.

how does he react when there are real problems?

It's his parent that died, not hers, what's wrong with you?

but that's not what the OP is moaning about, her issue is the "boasting"!

boasting in the context that the windfall is a result of a death!

OP, we get it, you don't like people disagreeing with you.

No need to try to go for the drama when you chose to start a thread not about a family loss, but your need to feel superior because you don't approve of someone's social media post.

@apooagnuandyou

but that's not what the OP is moaning about, her issue is the "boasting"!

Because life is so black and white, my in-law should have given him due consideration, but instead BRAGGED that they are mortgage free, shocking, actually disgusting.

@rarat

but that's not what the OP is moaning about, her issue is the "boasting"!

boasting in the context that the windfall is a result of a death!

read the OP's posts.

From the start, it's not a shock about the bad taste following a sad loss, its about her superiority about someone "lack of class". And none of her business!

I agree with her & think it's batshit to post about happiness re inheritance when someone has died & I also think it's batshit that some posters think the OP is the one who is in the wrong.

The opening post is all about 'class' (again the irony) and about families struggling in a pandemic.

The ashen and livid husband post appeared much much later.

Crass.

@WorraLiberty

The opening post is all about 'class' (again the irony) and about families struggling in a pandemic.

The ashen and livid husband post appeared much much later.

So what if it appeared later, life is a story not a paragraph.

The OP clearly didn't plan to go into the exact detail of who died & posted the below hours ago

Inheritance, I'll say no more.

Because life is so black and white, my in-law should have given him due consideration, but instead BRAGGED that they are mortgage free, shocking, actually disgusting.

But again, this only came up when the thread wasn't particularly going your way.

If you'd opened with how upset your husband is about the death of his mother and therefore it was in poor taste, instead of 'ewww-ing' about class etc, you might've had some different responses.

So what if it appeared later, life is a story not a paragraph.

😂😂

Oh come on, the thread starts about how superior you are,

forever mindful of just how difficult it has been for some people. It just seems so utterly tactless.

Funny how being upset about a husband suffering a loss wasn't important let alone mention until too many posters disagree with the OP...

And none of her business!

Why is it none of her business? That's literally applicable to virtually every AIBU thread but only comes out on the social media & benefit cheat threads. Odd.

So what if it appeared later, life is a story not a paragraph.

but you have now replied to your own question, now you too are trying to make yourself feel important on social media with this thread

But again, this only came up when the thread wasn't particularly going your way.

Are we on the same thread? before the OP mentioned inheritance virtually every poster agreed with her.

@WorraLiberty

Because life is so black and white, my in-law should have given him due consideration, but instead BRAGGED that they are mortgage free, shocking, actually disgusting.

But again, this only came up when the thread wasn't particularly going your way.

If you'd opened with how upset your husband is about the death of his mother and therefore it was in poor taste, instead of 'ewww-ing' about class etc, you might've had some different responses.

I couldn't give a s**t whether the thread is going my way, and you somehow seem to have taken on the role of judge and jury here.