Boasting In-Laws

[Coo5]

I'm genuinely shocked that an in-law family member of mine has taken to social media, specifically Facebook, to brag about being mortgage free, at a fairly young age. We knew they were, but it seems in such poor taste, even more so in the middle of a pandemic when families are struggling. My ewww factor is off the charts, I thought she had class.

Cross posted, we've already had "But they're just HAPPY... why can't anyone share anything niiiiicccceeee" on the first page.

Facebook bragging of any sort is just tacky particularly boasting about personal finances is plain weird, up there with those who post their DCs school reports online. Things can come back to bite you

@Coo5

They don't worry, that's the whole point. I in turn can choose to be offended, because that is MY choice. It was in poor taste. You say "happy" I say "braggy"!

How awful that we now live in a world where posting celebratory news is seen as bragging rather than just sharing happiness.

If you stop being offended over the little things OP you’ll be much happier yourself

Yeh, strange thing to advertise. Disclaimer. I am mortgage free and I'd never boast about it in real life. Certainly not on facebook. I was with an xbf for about a year before I ''confessed'' it to him. ONly because he was extremely generous with dinner and treats and I felt bad knowing that he had no foot on the ladder himself. I had to tell him, but I only told him when I knew he wasn't an opportunist.

I'm perfectly happy, and stand by tacky as.......

Thanks for the giggles @LolaSmiles

I still empathise with the have nots too strongly. Even when I moved in to my house after over a decade of the worst uncertainty I'd ever experienced, I didn't post a picture of me by my new front door because I have facebook friends who'll never own their own house.

But. I post articles that nobody 'likes'. I post book reviews that nobody 'likes'.

Maybe if I did occasionally post something normal and boasty I'd get a like for being normal!

@emilyfrost Sharing happy news is one thing like having a baby or passing an exam but stealth boasts particularly financial ones during the current climate is a bit thoughtless and also completely unnecessary. Its perfectly possible to be happy and share news with those closest to you without broadcasting on social media.

YABVU. It’s their Facebook, they can do what they want and they shouldn’t have to worry about what they post in case someone gets upset/offended over it

People can post what they like just like others can be annoyed/upset at it. Donald Trump subscribes to the same opinion as you though so 👍🏼

I always find it odd when people act like bragging on fb is normal etc as no one thinks it's an attractive trait in real life

@LolaSmiles has nailed it

Donald Trump comparison is lame, go you for being deliberately antagonistic.

By the same definition I have come here and done the same. Tick tock.

Why is it bragging ?
I will be mortgage free this time next year. Assuming we are back in the office I will be buying my team cake.

Never had a penny off parents or inheritances, I won't be that young (57,) I've simply done my 25 years and it will be a big turning point in my life. I don't do social media but I intend to mark the occasion.

Well then you can't say you lost 2 stone: Hurrah!! as overweight people might be upset.
Or you got a new job : what about the poor unemployed etc
I don't think being happy about it is an issue or mentioning your excitement but pretending you worked hard to pay it off when it was an inheritance is questionable

Guess it depends on how you mark it....personally don't get it myself, but sounds as if yours is through hard graft, so people tend to respond to that element better.
Perhaps I am just sad that we had to lose someone dear to us for her to be mortgage free. While this dearly departed relative would be pleased for them, as was I, boasting about it on Social Media just seems wrong on too many levels.

I don't think being happy about it is an issue or mentioning your excitement but pretending you worked hard to pay it off when it was an inheritance is questionable

Particularly if someone died!

I will be mortgage free before I'm 40. I did so by buying a flat when they were cheap, with a 100% mortgage as the outlay was less then a deposit for renting. I've never sold and upsized which many my age have.

It won't be on facebook, but too right I'll mark the occasion somehow.

While this dearly departed relative would be pleased for them, as was I, boasting about it on Social Media just seems wrong on too many levels.

Wow somebody did die, I'm sorry. That is really crass.

Talking about money is never good.

Unless you want to look an utter nob...

That's even worse that it is an inheritance

@Coo5

Inheritance, I'll say no more.

That is so bad. They might as well be saying "Wahoooo relative died I'm in the money!"

I would slightly understand them celebrating if they had grafted from very little and earnt their money.

Hard graft ? I've just worked a job like many other people and stayed in the same Victorian terrace instead of 'trading up' for ensuites or extra bathrooms or whatever and saddling myself with a huge mortgage

Get over your hideous selves.

I am increasingly aware FB is going out of fashion in this repressed country but I happen to like sharing my achievements with friends and family. I put all good things on there and I love it. I'd put on if I was mortgage free and also share holiday pics.

So what can you celebrate on fb?? You sound jealous to me. You can say its classless but she has more money left over each month than you I'm guessing. Waits for comment re being super rich

All the money to pay off her mortgage but not enough to buy a little class.

So what can you celebrate on fb??

Best to avoid death me thinks

@LolaSmiles you missed the one where someone always sneers at everyone else's comments.