To be shaken up by this and insistent over it not happening again?

[Boursinfan]

So my 2.5 year old DS’s grandparents look after him once a week. They dropped him back home today and said there had been an accident. He fell into their garden pond, luckily they were out there and got him out straight away. He was soaked, so his grandma gave him a bath and put some dry clothes on him.
She just messaged me and said she felt dreadful and it was a genuine accident etc.
My mind is now going over the what ifs. I gently asked if they were going to get a cover for it now and she said they’ll “try to”.
They’re my DP’s parents, I feel like maybe he should speak to them. But he’ll brush it off as no big deal, as DS is fine, apart from a little shaken up. I’m also concerned he swallowed some of the water by accident and might get ill. There are algae and newts in there.
Should I insist they get a cover if my partner won’t? I feel awkward, but at the same time I’m not going to be able to relax when he’s at their house otherwise. They’re usually very diligent and careful, so I’m very surprised it happened at all really.

Shouldn’t think they want their dead grandchild on their conscious either!!
Just look at some of the post ‘back in my day’ and ‘when we were small, we jumped in ditches and sewage plants etc’ .... what is it with some people, try being a paramedic and resuscitating a drowned child!!! 👹

My god.

What ridiculous posts.

OP, has everyone given your family members enough of a pounding yet?

Maybe try buying one yourself if she is looking after your child. It should be covered yes

My son fell head first age 2 into grandparents pond. We were right with him. He was fine. They went out and bought pond mesh that day and fitted it . My son never went near the pond again. Had we been indoors he would have died.
My friends two years old drowned in minutes slipping through the fence into the neighbours garden. My guess is that they will be on the case now getting a cover / mess sorted.
Please don't wallow in what ifs... its not good for you x

@Bebethanyand the worst type of people on these posts are the ‘nah it’s fine’ because they are ignorant to real and scary things that can happen and probably the type of people who I’ll be reading about online that something awful has happened to .., and I’ll think ‘why on earth didn’t they ’

Maybe they can't afford it. It can't be cheap. I think you and your dp should offer to pay for it.

Prices vary but they are not that expensive.

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Your inlaws are idiots.
All toddlers ever do is fall over.
And they are attracted to the most highly dangerous things - like flies on shit.
It's almost impossible to keep them away from unfenced bodies of water. It's the first thing they run for.

I know of a small child who quietly drowned in a backyard family unfenced pond at a first communion party.
Loads of people there milling around the place, no one saw the child drown, even though they were all out in the garden and near the pond.

but had turned their back for just a second apparently.

Exactly ..NO child should be in a garden with an uncovered pond!!

Exactly ..NO child should be in a garden with an uncovered pond!! Yet I see lots of parents taking their children to see the ducks. Is the difference that one has a temptation to relax one's vigilance when it's a shallow pond in a garden as opposed to the obvious danger of a lake in a park?

The point is that at home there is more chance of focus being distracted onto other things ... when out in less familiar places, vigilance and lack of other distractions ( eg phone, doorbell, neighbour calling, ) makes it safer per se. Its not about doing nothing to avoid literally all risk, but to have a home set up with a known high risk item whilst doing regular childcare of your own or another's child, should not happen

Yet another stupid idiotic comment local

Children can drown in less than 2” of water ... maybe just think about that before posting a dangerous, misinformed comment.

Buy the cover for them. As soon as my parents became grandparents (I wasn't first) they covered the pond with a metal grid, it's so strong nothing could get through it.

Offer to pay for a safety cover or fence . You could stop worrying and they perhaps couldn't afford it