DH swore at me for waking him up. Was I unreasonable?

[Dazzband]

DH wakes up at 5.30 am everyday to go to work. He did some overtime on Saturday. He fell asleep on the sofa last night - I woke him up at 10 am to help me with our 2 DDs. He went mad
and said I was selfish for waking him up. Was I in the wrong?

If he is up at 5:30 am to go to work, how would OP ever get a lie-in? He gets off at 3:30 pm but has a 1 hr 45 min commute so he doesn’t make it home to after 5:15pm if he’s not stopping anywhere. Depending on the ages of the DD and when they go to bed, I doubt he has them long the two days OP is off work. He picks them up from his mum on the days she works which could be anytime he chooses after he gets off. Is he doing dinner and the bedtime routine or is his mother?

He chose to stay up knowing his own schedule. Also, did he choose to go in for work or was he told to go in because it is ridiculous to go to work for two hours when you have an almost 4 hour commute. Does he drive or take public transport?

*at work not off

@Carbara

You posted a thread asking people to judge you and are whining that has happened? 🥴 Your boyfriend has a loonnggg commute and wakes up for work really early, he should get sleep. You both chose to have several kids, so no surprise that your lives are tiring. 🤷🏻‍♀️

The bf also stayed up until 1.30am after a week of getting up early. Who does that when you also have a 1yo in the house? I mean unless you also think you have absolutely no responsibility what so ever with looking after your own child....

And who does a 3 hours commute for 2 hours of work?? I mean it’s not just the me involved. But looking at how much you are paid vs cost of a 3 hour commute, is that even worth the money?

I dunno, for me, this guy looks entitled and thick. 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

@Happinesscomesfromwithin so it's OK for him to speak to her the way he did because he couldn't be bothered to get his arse off to bed. Then she apologises to him for his idiotic behaviour. No, that's not OK.

The point is, there is no reason for him to be ignorant to her. He lay like a slob on the sofa (while I'm sure she is tired too) she asked, for help because she need it. Yet some how she is being unreasonable.

Also - when you have a 1 year old and someone says "go back to bed" and wakes you in an hour/90 mins - that's completely reasonable. An extra lie in.

@Whitegrapewine exactly. My friends with children would be super happy another 60-90 minutes sleep

He was unreasonable. No one likes being woken up but he shouldn’t have been shirking. Has he got too used to you doing all house and child things? Time for him to get with the system and step up

I don't think you were BU - my husband gets up early every weed day morning and to be honest; our DS's are soo loud he'd never be able to sleep properly in the living room.
I get that he's tired but if he wants to sleep; he should go upstairs and sleep on the bed. It's unreasonable to expect you and DC to tip toe around him all morning.

Why are people saying oh poor him he gets up at 5:30am everyday give him a break.

Sahm job is just as hard ( I don’t know if this person is) how do you know she doesn’t have babies that wake up all through the night. Also children get up pretty early so maybe she needs a break and some help. Unless your in a really hard demanding job work is easier than being a sahm. 10am is a massive a lay in he’s being a twat.