To think this is rude? Friends not replying to invite
Weareunloved · 03/04/2021 18:24
I know this sort of stuff has been done before.
I've moved house recently and nobody's seen it yet. With the better weather and rule of 6 I've invited a group of friends for a BBQ at mine, in 2 weeks' time. Invite was sent Thursday, read by all on WhatsApp and nobody's replied.
I understand if they are busy but surely you'd message to at least say so?
I know some are on furlough ATM, most don't work weekends and only 1 has a kid.
Just pretty upset tbh, plus we haven't seen each other in months. See all these groups of people meeting in the park now and I feel sad.
Am I being unreasonable?AIBU
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milinhas · 03/04/2021 18:27
Yeah, that is annoying, YANBU. Being generous, perhaps on Thursday they were at work trying to get everything out of the way before the weekend and thought they would come back to it and forgot?
It’s a weird transitional time with planning and seeing people, I’m sorry they made you feel this way.
Weareunloved · 03/04/2021 18:34
Haha yeah, luckily I do have a lovely group of ex colleagues who I should be meeting on the 12th.
Yeah, they seem to do that, like they're waiting for someone else to answer first. They texted each other once to make sure we were 'all wearing dresses' before going for a meal.
SecretEaterer · 03/04/2021 18:47
Hmm. 2 things come to mind:
It's still going to be pretty cold. Maybe they're not keen on the idea but don't know how to say so politely without pissing on your chips. Tbh I was a bit when a friend suggested a picnic on the 17th. It's still meant to be cold even in the south east. I think 12 degrees is forecasted.
They don't feel comfortable socialising outside of bubbles yet, even outside. A couple of my friends with vulnerable family members have said they won't be doing such things until they're vaccinated.
Billandben444 · 03/04/2021 18:48
It's rude. If they think it's a long way to travel to "stand in the cold eating a burnt sausage" then they should have the good manners to regretfully turn down the invite. Give them another 48hrs and then let them all know that you're very sorry but something more fun has cropped up so you're rescinding the invite.
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