to think that DH should be contributing our rent?

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So my DH has decided to move out for three months to try and sort out his depression. He also has a bit of an issue with alcohol.
He left giving me about two days notice.

I am studying full time so have little to no income.

He has now told me he cannot pay any rent this month and some next month. My DS and DD are with me.

His lack of repsonsibility towards money has been an ongoing problem. He spent £200 on some slots app in January and each month runs out and then Im the bad one as i dont give him money.

What is fair in this instance? How much of the rent should he be paying whilst he is not here, given it is for three months and then he intends at this point to move back.

I am just so upset right now.

He did this before. He will do it again.

You aren't putting your children first by believing in him instead of basing your decisions solely on the likelihood of him leaving.

He is an addict, financially irresponsible, stole your inheritance to pay his debts off then got in debt again and is someone who disappears when the going gets tough.

Don't you think someone who has fucked off to live somewhere apart from his children, spending all his money on that instead of making sure the rent for the home his children live in is paid for, is a shit dad? Don't they deserve better? Don't they deserve stability instead of this up and down rollercoaster relationship you're both dragging them along on? I couldn't even look at him if I was you, i would be so angry.

Your children have had their security (safety around someone who is intoxicated, financial stability as he's fucked off leaving you with no money) and emotional security (don't need to explain that one) jeopardised for over a year and a half now since you previously posted about him.

This man is not a good partner and not a responsible or good father.

Someone needs to put the kids first and it isn't going to be him, so you need to step up and stop thinking he will change or that the 'beautiful' man you married is going to return.

This is who he is. This is it. You cannot base decisions that hugely affect your children's lives on the hope a man who has proven himself over and over again to be untrustworthy and selfish will decide to be a decent partner and father.

I am trying my best to work through this. It is hard seeing this person turn into someone completely different

But this hasn't been a sudden change, it's been going on for at least 18 months. That's why people are frustrated, because it's not a one off. He's even done the 'I'm leaving for three months' thing before! Shit partner, rubbish dad.