@Yolo89
NeverDropYourMooncup - what does PWC mean?
I am still yet to reply to all of your messages. I hear what you are saying.
A few things to add.
Facts - he is a low level drinker. he will drink 1-2 cans per day and sometimes weeks without. Yes He still has a problem but as I have worked in the field of drugs and alochol - it is on the lower end. At the moment.
He has a disability - since birth which has meant he has suffered from depression before he met me. I did not know about the depression. His trauma/depression/self medicating all stems from this.
I know he needs rehab.
Why can people say as clear as day he is leaving? We spent today together with the children and it was a good day.
He has one child at least most nights.
He is seeing an alcohol counsellor.
There are lots of things wrong. I know, I know.
But he is not a passing out every night drunk.
AnD NO HE DOES NOT DRIVE.
Parent with Care - you. It'll be handy to know the terminology for putting in your application to CMS (Child Maintenance Service).
1-2 cans. Bullshit. That was when he had to keep it on the low because you were on his case. He's got free rein now. One of the reasons he left (and obviously to punish you).
Everything's due to his disability. Bullshit. Otherwise every disabled person in the UK would be fucking over their spouse and children to steal their money, move out to continue to spend it and, quite frankly, we don't.
Why if you worked in Drugs and alcohol are you falling for the bog standard addicts' script? He doesn't want to change. He wants you to change according to what he wants more booze and gambling money, mostly.
He isn't coming back if he doesn't have to. It's great where he is now. All your money, all his money, all the booze he wants, no need to feed himself, you can't say he's lying because he's somewhere else. He's happy as a pig in shit on the money that should be feeding and housing you and your children.
He has taken the money to house and feed your children to house himself, buy himself drink and gamble the rest away. He's only being nice to you because he knows he's committing benefit fraud, financial abuse and abuse/neglect of the children, he doesn't want you to stop 'his' money and doesn't want to spend any of what he's stolen from your children on feeding himself.
Once he's got 3 months out of you, he'll come up with excuses why you've fucked it up so he 'has' to stay there longer. And when you get evicted for his not paying the rent, he'll say you've fucked up by not paying it. Or he'll be planning for you to get a council house and then he'll 'visit' whilst keeping his drinking pad going. Just because you made him depressed or stressed, obviously.
Unless you get the money transferred over to you as a single parent right now.
Then he'll graciously permit you to try to make it worth his while to come back. Which will require you grovelling at his feet, apologising profusely for all the wrongs you have done him and generally promising to never, ever expect the bare minimum of a decent human being, husband and father of him ever again.
Until you see that this 'just a can in a blue moon' liar is deliberately punishing you, stealing from your children, bullying and abusing you so that he can get what he wants, you're fucked.
Oh, and by the way, if you don't make a separate claim now and you get evicted, the council won't rehome you at all, as you have made yourself intentionally homeless by not paying the rent. Separating properly and financially from him is the only way to prove that it is not a deliberate decision to try and get a council house (and then have him moving straight back in).
REALITY CHECK: He will see you on the street and the children in care before he puts his hands in his pockets for money that has been paid to him for you and your children.