Kids peeing in public AIBU

[yasmin0147]

Just wondering If I was being unreasonable or not, bit of back story, when I am waiting outside the preschool pretty much every morning, a child needs the loo and the mums let their boys pee behind the bins (that we all stand next to in line before the kids go in) this is making me really angry for some reason, I won’t let my son do this at all, and make him wait.
Am I being unreasonable?
How I see it is you wouldn’t be allowed to pee like that as an adult and it’s a bad habit to teach your kids.
Imagine them doing that when they are a bit older, they could get into trouble.

YABA- they are kids, get over it

YANBA- it’s a bad thing to teach your kids because they aren’t actually allowed to do that when they get older.

Peeing down drains isn't ideal either as the pee goes into the water courses with the rainwater.

I think you need to be more concerned with the discarded used needles dumped down them. Seen loads round here and had to report them when they were flooding

My mother used to make fun of me because I was a prudish child and didn’t want to pee in public. When I was living in Brighton m, I saw some strange things, little girls with their fanny towards a street full of people (instead of turning their back at least) and little children playing in the park around a fully naked grown man that wasn’t with them...

@AutomaticMoon

My mother used to make fun of me because I was a prudish child and didn’t want to pee in public. When I was living in Brighton m, I saw some strange things, little girls with their fanny towards a street full of people (instead of turning their back at least) and little children playing in the park around a fully naked grown man that wasn’t with them...

What the actual fuck?

If kids and adults can't hold it they need a shee pee or urinary bottle and bag to keep it in. A nature wee is one thing but a public pee is unhygienic, especially against property in view of others.
With small children they don't always give plenty of notice, so a secluded spot in a purpose built urinary device with a lid - hand gel to finish is surely the way to, err go? Empty at home or in public toilet when one can be found.

I have no issue with my children needing a wee out in the countryside (in long journeys we’ve often had to pull up as the kids don’t give you much ore-warning!) it’s unacceptable in a public place, by bins that people have to handle or queue next too. Behind a bush or a tree seems ok by me as dogs do it all the time. If the parents are doing this every day, they need to make sure their kids wee before leaving the house, they’re just encouraging a very bad habit as kids at preschool can get into toilet routines and timings quite well at that age. It’s not acceptable and very indiscreet by the sounds of it.

As a one off, okay in public (eg) a bush in a park for a pre-schooler. Not okay every day outside a school. One day you make the mistake. The next day, you make sure DC goes before they leave the house.

Forming a queue and making this a habit encouraged by quite a group is not good at all, it's seems it's becoming an accepted & supported bad habit having a knock on effect not to mention the new pop up toilet! In cases where it can't be helped to prevent accidents... especially with little ones who can't hold it.. It should be allowed with as much privacy as you can.. Though this situation around the bins regularly occurring is a bad teaching,& an undesignated urinal that is probably becoming fairly vile by now.

@AutomaticMoon

My mother used to make fun of me because I was a prudish child and didn’t want to pee in public. When I was living in Brighton m, I saw some strange things, little girls with their fanny towards a street full of people (instead of turning their back at least) and little children playing in the park around a fully naked grown man that wasn’t with them...

Blimey! Well, it was in Brighton.....

I once walked down an alley near Piccadilly Circus in London and came across a bloke making his daughter who was about 12 squat on the pavement to pee. She was red in the face and crying. I was horrified. Talk about lousy parenting. I was only in my 20s at the time. These days I’d give him a bollocking and find her a loo.

Ok so most kids have an emergency once in a while .We have an expandable bottle designed for peeing into, handy for trips, camping etc. (Haven't needed it for a while though but useful to keep in the car). I think if it's a regular occurrence she really ought to invest in one, even if it is used behind the bins for a bit of privacy, then tipped into a toilet later, or a drain if needed. The smell behind the bins would get a bit much if everyone did it otherwise.

YANBU. Little boys wee outside because they can, not because they need to. Miraculously little girls do not do this, not because of some superior natural holding ability that boys don’t have, but because they can’t wee just anywhere, so they learn to hold on. I have a daughter and a son. My son was toilet trained in the same way as my daughter. No outside wees required. Going an hour between wees really isn’t onerous and if they can’t do it then they aren’t ready to be toilet trained IMO.

We went in holiday with some friends who had two boys. We stopped at some roadside conveniences which weren’t dirty or unpleasant. Not that our friends would have known as they didn’t step inside them. Their boys weed into the gutter outside the toilets. They mocked our then 3 year old for going into the toilet to wee. I mean imagine actually using the proper facility when you can just spray it around?

It's actually quite bad for you to hold it in, and really none of us should do it if it can be helped.

Remaker

How dare those friends mock your little boy for doing the right thing.
They'd be going on holiday on their own in future.

I was once in a queue for toilets in a large store. A woman came in carrying a small child and asked to let it wee in the washhand basin. That did not go down well with the queue.

Young children toilet training when you're a long way from a toilet fine. Any other time no. It's grim. And would make me angry too. Surely they have just left home if they are waiting at the school gates? And they are about to go in where there are toilets. I really think mums of boys need to step up and teach them this is not ok.

Every day?
That’s exaggerated I would put a bet on it!!!

I am curious, can anyone tell me when the normal age for a child to stop getting caught short is please? My sons being referred to peadiatrician for bedwetting and am wondering if this is also something I need to be bringing up, have 18 weeks to wait for referal to go through but would like to know.

www.eric.org.uk/

Try here wildchild.

@FourTeaFallOut thankyou :)

@FourTeaFallOut can't find the information I'm looking for on there but have found a factsheet on sensory processing disorder and autism which my son has I think I will bring it up with occupational health whilst we are waiting maybe they have some ideas that we haven't tried yet. Thankyou :)

Glad it helped

I wee outdoors quite a lot. Can’t see the harm really. Always try to do it in nature I wouldn’t do it anywhere concreted. It’s always best to let little ones do their wee if they need to. Don’t understand why anyone would get angry because someone needs to wee! Strange.

Oh god, this thread reminded me of the time my mother let my (then) 3 year old nephew wee in the middle of the zoo. I was so embarrassed as was my partner who was shocked.
It's no wonder men urinate everywhere in public when the parents let them.
Absolutely disgusting.

wildchild554

Try not to worry about incontinence. My young ward was 7 before she was dry at night. A friend's brother was 11 and incontinence seemed to run in their family.

It's vile antisocial behaviour.

@tommyhoundmum my sons 8 and regularly wets the bed, has to be taken to the toilet at home, he jigs about instead of just going and has accidents still. Have followed all advice given but getting no where. Thats why I have asked for him to be reffered back to peadiatrician for that and the fact he doesnt sleep :/ But also don't know whats normal as both my children have special needs and makes it dfficult to work out when more intervention is needed. It's the daytime issues that worry more. He already gets picked on for his reigns and ear defenders.