To be really sad - he wants me to cancel
Tomorrowmustbebrighter · 28/03/2021 17:53
I’ve name changed incase he gets wind of this. DH and I are not exactly flush. I’ve been wanting to buy a couple of bits of cheap furniture for ages but we’ve not had money. Recently I was surprised that he told me to go for it and order what I wanted. I tried really hard to keep the pieces under total of a couple of hundred which he’d said was fine. He liked what I’d picked. I ordered it this morning and was so excited to spruce up the house a bit. He’s just called me through to the bedroom where he’s been sleeping off a hangover to act extremely annoyed about why I’d ordered this stuff claiming he didn’t think I’d be spending any where near that amount ( this isn’t true) and I need the cancel it. He was smirking. There’s a history of abuse for years( name calling, gaslighting, belittling, jealousy drinking too much, refusal to help with the kids, swearing at me) it’s got worse and worse over lockdown . So many people think he’s super charming and hilarious. They literally have no idea what a monster he really is. I don’t know why I’ve stayed in all honesty. I don’t know how I’m still here some days. It’s so hard to explain. Just today I feel utterly heart broken that he thinks it’s fun to take this from me. He knew how much it meant to me. I have been measuring up and looking on Pinterest etc. All for nothing . Just that bit of hope.
Am I being unreasonable?AIBU
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CloudFormations · 28/03/2021 18:01
Just stop it OP. Stop this relationship. Why ever would you stay? Why are you sacrificing your happiness and well-being, and wasting your life? When you look back on your life from your deathbed will you be happy that you wasted it on this shitty relationship?
Kittykat93 · 28/03/2021 18:05
This made me so sad for you op. This is no way to live, how would you feel if your children end up in relationships like this? It's so so hard but you need to leave, he will never change and is more likely to get worse rather than better. You deserve more, your children deserve more.
OysterMonkey · 28/03/2021 18:07
Just a few things in your short post :
- you’ve namechanged in case he gets wind of it. Why? Does he habit of tracking your internet posting history?
- he’s sleeping off a hangover at 5.30pm
- history of abuse (and all the things you list)
So the question is why are you still with him?
Mif4 · 28/03/2021 18:12
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23PissOffAvenueWF · 28/03/2021 18:15
Every time you roll over and accept this sort of shit from him, you just green-light more shitty behaviour.
He is never going to change. He enjoys being cruel to you. You don’t leave, so he gets his kicks from continuing to do it.
How much more of this are you willing to put up with? The rest of your life? When he gets his kicks out of doing it to your kids, too?
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