To hate hugs?

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Apart from DP hugging me (which I love), I absolutely hate hugs.
Dreading when restrictions are eased and all the huggers come out.
Aibu?

Me too! And it’s going to be such a big deal isn’t it, I’m dreading it

Same! Hopefully Covid has seen that kind of shenanigans off. Actually, the cheek kissing is worse - that can fuck right off.

Same I’m all about personal space it’s a running joke at work if anybody was leaving or anyone came to visit our office that they did not hug me didn’t matter who you were

I remember my parents have hugged me at times of bereavement a couple of times as an adult and it’s been horrifying

I don’t understand this physical need for hugging that so many people seem to need through this pandemic

I'm not a hugger either, so YANBU.

I'm not a hugger. I love my friends/family but I don't need to squeeze them.

Great from immediate family (parents, husband, children, even my wonderful in laws).

Hate it when it’s friends, randomers etc.

A total stranger at church once held out her hand to shake mine then pulled me in, got me in a bear hug then planted a massive slobbery wet kiss on my face. It was horrific. I can’t fathom why she might have wanted to do that. It put me off even shaking hands!

I've seen a meme on FB that made me feel seen:

"When all this over... when we can hug again... rest assured I didn't do it before and you can be damned sure I'm not starting now."

Oh my goodness I love a hug. I’m a serial hugger I’m afraid - you’d hate me

I'm not a hugger.

Anyone steps in towards me and I immediately step back with my hands up saying, I don't hug!.

I did this before Covid and will be doing it after. It's always worked fine. I don't care what other people think.

I've found my people!

This was one of the pluses of covid! I only like hugging my kids and my partner. Anything else is just awkward and people always go in on the same side and urgh!!

Don't like it either. But all my friends and neighbours do - so just comply

I can't stand hugs. I only like to hug my kids. I hate those people who totally disregard your boundaries because they're "a hugger". Go away!

I quite like hugs, but I absolutely hate that awful foreign cheek-kissing nonsense. I really, really hope that dies a permanent death. In normal times, what’s wrong with a proper British handshake, anyway?

Why do people assume that everyone wants a hug? It’s awful.

They hug you and you feel ick. Like you want to die inside.

They go to hug you and you step back and they get hurt feelings. So it’s easier to accept the overwhelming nausea and grossness of a hug.

There should be a “please don’t hug me”
lanyard.

Huggers and bump touchers creep the shit out of me.

I’m like a cat. Leave me be, I’ll come to you and test the waters. If you touch my belly or pounce and hug me I will bite you.

Then you get your slow mo huggers. The arms stretch out like an eagle coming into land and they walk slowly towards you while screeching “JENNNNNNNYYYYYYYYYY” and all the while the bottom is falling out of my stomach and my internal monologue is “shit.shit.shit. RUUUUUUUUNNNNNNNN!!!”

Bloody huggers. I’m not ready to deal with this shit yet.

I love hugs with family and friends!
I even adore the cheek kissing! But rest assured OP, I do not do it with people that are adverse to it. I have learnt very quickly to read the clues.
And you are perfectly entitled to be spared the touchy-feely octopuses like me.

Can we have a separate group where we can whinge about this! 😂 Why does everyone wants to suddenly hug you! Piss off and leave me alone!!! My friends and I have a WhatsApp group and they all think we are going to give each other a big hug in April! They are all thinking incorrectly, I’m staying away if hugging is involved, they know me well which is also confusing

I'm not a hugger and neither are my adult children. I loved hugs with them when they were small but we're equally standoffish with each other now (I do love them really)
I used to get a handshake from my parents on my birthday and at Christmas/ New Year which suited me fine 🤷‍♀️

I used to get a handshake from my parents on my birthday and at Christmas/ New Year which suited me fine

I’ve found the thread for me!! Can’t stand hugging apart from DH and my DDs. DH’s family know I can’t stand hugging but insist on hugging me every time we see them.

It’s a running joke at work that I don’t hug.

Is it a newish thing? I'm 48 and I can't remember everyone hugging each other all the time years ago.

BiL made it known very soon after he met our family that he didn't like to be hugged.

Fair enough, when saying goodby I now make sure that I am hugging someone else, look up and say goodbye to him.

Reader, I am that hugger.

When my mother got older, really a lot older, her mind would wander a bit and she would often mistake us for family members we knew to be long dead.

One day she opened her eyes wide said hello to me and then said ' I never liked hugging people then I had you and you just needed lots and lots of hugs, right from the start' Any picture of me as a child, even more recently, I would have at least one hand holding or touching my mother. I always assumed she liked it as much as I did.

@MadMadMadamMim

I'm not a hugger.

Anyone steps in towards me and I immediately step back with my hands up saying, I don't hug!.

I did this before Covid and will be doing it after. It's always worked fine. I don't care what other people think.

You are my kind of woman!!

I'm forthwith determined to follow your lead but I'm not-so-secretly hoping that it will be advised against anyway. If it isn't, I'm going to start a rumour

No touching! No hugging!

Ugh, all these people saying they can't wait to hug can stay away from me. I love hugging my DP. And my kids are older now and don't really like hugs so I don't get any from them often, which actually suits me fine as I remember how much I hated family forcing me to hug when I was younger.

There is one friend I will hug when I see her as it's been ages and she has had a really hard time. She's joked about hugging me, but I actually don't mind if she does.

That's it. No one else!

I love and miss hugs, though not from strangers; and I would never press hugs on anyone who didn't want them.

YANBU for yourself, as everyone has a right to their own feelings and preferences. You hate hugs; I hate, for example, to have my birthday acknowledged , which many people love.