Would you keep that you’d inherited 10k a secret from your husband?
MoonBaby1 · 21/03/2021 17:57
In a generally happy, good relationship?
I have and it feels a bit weird but also really freeing. It’s been a tough few years money wise but we’re both in a position where we’re earning and working.
We both contribute to the household bills about 2/3 him and 1/3 me (I’m still part time as youngest is 2 yrs) and he’s in charge of all food and drink bills.
Just having this money up my sleeve has been very freeing. I’m not going mad but I bought the dc some strawberries and ribena from the shop and he saw me disposing of the rubbish in the outside bins with raised eyebrows. I want to sneak some other bits bought on amazon (socks, some chocolate and a scarf) into the house but feel guilty. If I own up he won’t condone this kind of spending and will insist it gets saved. I just want to enjoy about £500 over the year on little things and save the rest. AIBU?
Am I being unreasonable?AIBU
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PotteringAlong · 21/03/2021 18:02
No, I would never ever hide that from my husband. Nor would I hide Ribena or socks though so I suspect you have got bigger issues at play here.
If you are hiding this from him and think it is freeing your relationship is neither as good nor as happy as you think it is.
flapjackfairy · 21/03/2021 18:02
What ? If you cant buy straw berries without your husband having a pop then there is something seriously wrong. Having said that it is a bit tight to keep this money all to yourself when he contributes more to the running of the household.
I don't understand modern family finances tbh . Dh and I have never kept money from each other. Everything is pooled and shared as family money.
We are old fashioned no doubt.
DarlingCoffee · 21/03/2021 18:02
Wait, he won’t condone you spending money on socks do I have that right? I think everyone should have a little money that they can call their own to spend as they wish. £500 to splurge on if you’re saving the rest sounds more than reasonable, but are you going to tell him about the rest OP?
LawnFever · 21/03/2021 18:03
I think it’s more worrying that your husband raised his eyebrows at strawberries & ribena and ordinarily you wouldn’t I assume have cash to buy little bits like that?
No wonder you want to keep this money a secret, do you not have access to cash? Why would you need to hide the packaging from him?
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