To think fuck you to those living in big houses who are following the rules?

[Hammyhamster92]

I have noticed swathe of happily married friends, in jobs they could do from home, in big houses with big gardens bitching about people not following the covid rules.

There seems to be no sympathy from these people that a large number of people not following the rules are, ( from personal experiences I know of)

1. Sharing a one bedroom flat with their two children, and no garden.

2. Living in a shared HMO where the landlord has turned the living room into another bedroom and there isno garden and no communal area.

3. Living with violent, abusive, toxic people.

4. Are bereaved.

5. Are unable to share or bubble with their partner, but don't feel they should have no contact for months.

I had a massive row with a friend today, ( call her lucy). Lucy asked what I was doing for the weekend, and I said I was going to visit ( "charlotte") as Charlotte has had a very horrible bereavment recently, ( cousin she was very close to died unexpectedly in a road accident) and was really struggling and has asked for a visit.

Consequently , I've been called all the names under the sun, I'm selfish/ horrible etc, and more so because I have to travel by train, ( I can't drive for medical reasons). Utterly sick of this shit, and it seems that some people who are living in a middle class bubble of perfection can't imagine the difficulties lockdown has caused others.

Well, it's a "Check your Privilege" thing.

I don't think it's very fair to generalise but Lucy sounds like a right dick.

I should add, I do check my own privilege. That enables me to empathise with those in less fortunate circumstances.

Your friend is horrible.

Lucy should count her blessings and realise life isn't black or white.

Some people really their heads so far up their own arses.
I hope your poor friend is ok.

It's a sad world we live in when going to see a recently bereaved friend to offer support is branded as "selfish".

So messed up.

Lucy sounds just delightful.

Massively generalising there op ,my parents live in a big House and sticking to the rules because both are nearly 80,and CEV, I don't live in a big House but I'm sticking to the rules as I have a disabled child to care for and a CEV DH,

I do sympathise and realise life is difficult. However, it's against all the rules of lockdown to go and visit a friend. We are told to stay home to save the lives of those around us.

I’ve experienced this judgement too, as I’m no longer following all of the rules religiously, and you’re right, it has only come from people who have nice houses, with jobs that they can still comfortably do, and happy loving families at home. So yeah fuck ‘em.

I agree with you. I live in a large house , albeit though blood sweat and tears to get here, not everyone is like Lucy she just can't see beyond her world,
I think unless you've been there you really can't imagine how it really is
I hope you bring some comfort to Charlotte

Oh and I say that as someone who does live in a big house and understands this makes me more privileged during lockdown, and therefore I wouldn't dream of branding anyone "selfish" because they wanted to support a bereaved friend.

You should be angry with your friend for being a twat not with people who happen to be in a more privileged situation

Prie are allowed to meet one other person outside walking every day for unlimited time and bubble up with anyone if single or a child under 1.

This takes into consideration the situations you have brought up. So I don't agree that it's ok to break the rules and do what ultimately people in larger homes can't do either.

The problem is people who don't care to follow the rules will always find areas in why they shouldn't apply to them.

you’re right, it has only come from people who have nice houses, with jobs that they can still comfortably do, and happy loving families at home. So yeah fuck ‘em.

Well, no. It hasn't. It's come from all types of people. In fact, I've seen the most Covid judgement in my circles from those who aren't the stereotypical "privileged" type.

I meet all those criteria you list, and I've never judged anyone for doing what they need to for their own mental health and sanity during this lockdown.

Not all people in large houses are like that! (Do we need a new #hashtag??)

What does Lucy being a dick have to do with people living in big houses? We live in a tiny house and have followed all the rules.

@londonscalling

I do sympathise and realise life is difficult. However, it's against all the rules of lockdown to go and visit a friend. We are told to stay home to save the lives of those around us.

But if the bereaved friend commits suicide is that okay as it’s not a Covid death?

YADNBU - this pisses me off no end, the "we're all in the same boat" comments I've heard made my blood boil.

Pretty sure supporting someone who is vulnerable is allowed and surely a bereaved friend counts. Ignore this ‘Lucy’.
I have broken lockdown a couple of times to see my friend who is currently separating from her abusive husband. Shoot me.

Not everybody who lives in Houses, with gardens and wfh jobs are like Lucy... I'd say Lucy is narrow minded and needs to be a bit more aware of others situations!

Hmm, I see your point. I try not to bitch about other peoples actions as I understand I have it ‘easier’ in ‘some’ respects than others (decent sized living space, garden space, working from home, etc) - while still hating it when people deliberately break the rules and put the lifting of lockdown at risk.

@rainbowfairydust

Not everybody who lives in Houses, with gardens and wfh jobs are like Lucy... I'd say Lucy is narrow minded and needs to be a bit more aware of others situations!

NAPPALT
(Not all privileged people are like that).

Absolutely. You’re absolutely right OP.

It has been hard for everyone in very different ways, but let’s not pretend that people with money and office jobs that can be done from home, who can sit there and order in their shopping (without even noticing the delivery cost) and travel everywhere by car, arent clearly (from an infection perspective) at less risk than those who have no option but to work out of their home, travel by bus (or in circumstances where it’s a toss up between paying the supermarket delivery charge and switching on the heating that day).

@dontdisturbmenow

Prie are allowed to meet one other person outside walking every day for unlimited time and bubble up with anyone if single or a child under 1.

This takes into consideration the situations you have brought up. So I don't agree that it's ok to break the rules and do what ultimately people in larger homes can't do either.

The problem is people who don't care to follow the rules will always find areas in why they shouldn't apply to them.

Being able to form a bubble as a single person is an adequate solution for a month or so, after nearly a year of this shit, a bubble doesn’t really cut it.

As a widowed, single person, most of my friends and family have friends and family of their own. Is it really reasonable to expect one family, comprising of a husband, wife, and three children to be entirely responsible for all my indoor social interaction over the entire winter, considering that I’m only really friends with one of them?

That’s just one example of many, but I really wish people would stop using the bubble excuse as if that makes this situation ok for everyone. It doesn’t.

YANBU OP, some people have lost their sense of empathy and humanity during this pandemic.