AIBU?
To think fuck you to those living in big houses who are following the rules?
Hammyhamster92 · 20/03/2021 10:50
I have noticed swathe of happily married friends, in jobs they could do from home, in big houses with big gardens bitching about people not following the covid rules.
There seems to be no sympathy from these people that a large number of people not following the rules are, ( from personal experiences I know of)
- Sharing a one bedroom flat with their two children, and no garden.
- Living in a shared HMO where the landlord has turned the living room into another bedroom and there isno garden and no communal area.
- Living with violent, abusive, toxic people.
- Are bereaved.
- Are unable to share or bubble with their partner, but don't feel they should have no contact for months.
I had a massive row with a friend today, ( call her lucy). Lucy asked what I was doing for the weekend, and I said I was going to visit ( "charlotte") as Charlotte has had a very horrible bereavment recently, ( cousin she was very close to died unexpectedly in a road accident) and was really struggling and has asked for a visit.
Consequently , I've been called all the names under the sun, I'm selfish/ horrible etc, and more so because I have to travel by train, ( I can't drive for medical reasons). Utterly sick of this shit, and it seems that some people who are living in a middle class bubble of perfection can't imagine the difficulties lockdown has caused others.
Am I being unreasonable?
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NailsNeedDoing · 20/03/2021 10:59
I’ve experienced this judgement too, as I’m no longer following all of the rules religiously, and you’re right, it has only come from people who have nice houses, with jobs that they can still comfortably do, and happy loving families at home. So yeah fuck ‘em.
SimplyMarvellousDarrrrrrling · 20/03/2021 10:59
I agree with you. I live in a large house , albeit though blood sweat and tears to get here, not everyone is like Lucy she just can't see beyond her world,
I think unless you've been there you really can't imagine how it really is
I hope you bring some comfort to Charlotte
dontdisturbmenow · 20/03/2021 11:03
Prie are allowed to meet one other person outside walking every day for unlimited time and bubble up with anyone if single or a child under 1.
This takes into consideration the situations you have brought up. So I don't agree that it's ok to break the rules and do what ultimately people in larger homes can't do either.
The problem is people who don't care to follow the rules will always find areas in why they shouldn't apply to them.
LucieStar · 20/03/2021 11:03
you’re right, it has only come from people who have nice houses, with jobs that they can still comfortably do, and happy loving families at home. So yeah fuck ‘em.
Well, no. It hasn't. It's come from all types of people. In fact, I've seen the most Covid judgement in my circles from those who aren't the stereotypical "privileged" type.
I meet all those criteria you list, and I've never judged anyone for doing what they need to for their own mental health and sanity during this lockdown.
Not all people in large houses are like that! (Do we need a new #hashtag??) 
Donotfeedthebears · 20/03/2021 11:05
@londonscalling
But if the bereaved friend commits suicide is that okay as it’s not a Covid death?
Purplecatshopaholic · 20/03/2021 11:07
Hmm, I see your point. I try not to bitch about other peoples actions as I understand I have it ‘easier’ in ‘some’ respects than others (decent sized living space, garden space, working from home, etc) - while still hating it when people deliberately break the rules and put the lifting of lockdown at risk.
Elsia · 20/03/2021 11:09
Absolutely. You’re absolutely right OP.
It has been hard for everyone in very different ways, but let’s not pretend that people with money and office jobs that can be done from home, who can sit there and order in their shopping (without even noticing the delivery cost) and travel everywhere by car, arent clearly (from an infection perspective) at less risk than those who have no option but to work out of their home, travel by bus (or in circumstances where it’s a toss up between paying the supermarket delivery charge and switching on the heating that day).
NailsNeedDoing · 20/03/2021 11:10
@dontdisturbmenow
This takes into consideration the situations you have brought up. So I don't agree that it's ok to break the rules and do what ultimately people in larger homes can't do either.
The problem is people who don't care to follow the rules will always find areas in why they shouldn't apply to them.
Being able to form a bubble as a single person is an adequate solution for a month or so, after nearly a year of this shit, a bubble doesn’t really cut it.
As a widowed, single person, most of my friends and family have friends and family of their own. Is it really reasonable to expect one family, comprising of a husband, wife, and three children to be entirely responsible for all my indoor social interaction over the entire winter, considering that I’m only really friends with one of them?
That’s just one example of many, but I really wish people would stop using the bubble excuse as if that makes this situation ok for everyone. It doesn’t.
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