To think fuck you to those living in big houses who are following the rules?

[Hammyhamster92]

I have noticed swathe of happily married friends, in jobs they could do from home, in big houses with big gardens bitching about people not following the covid rules.

There seems to be no sympathy from these people that a large number of people not following the rules are, ( from personal experiences I know of)

1. Sharing a one bedroom flat with their two children, and no garden.

2. Living in a shared HMO where the landlord has turned the living room into another bedroom and there isno garden and no communal area.

3. Living with violent, abusive, toxic people.

4. Are bereaved.

5. Are unable to share or bubble with their partner, but don't feel they should have no contact for months.

I had a massive row with a friend today, ( call her lucy). Lucy asked what I was doing for the weekend, and I said I was going to visit ( "charlotte") as Charlotte has had a very horrible bereavment recently, ( cousin she was very close to died unexpectedly in a road accident) and was really struggling and has asked for a visit.

Consequently , I've been called all the names under the sun, I'm selfish/ horrible etc, and more so because I have to travel by train, ( I can't drive for medical reasons). Utterly sick of this shit, and it seems that some people who are living in a middle class bubble of perfection can't imagine the difficulties lockdown has caused others.

My mum lives in a tiny retirement flat by herself and follows the rules, probably in part because she is afraid for herself. I suspect those who don't follow the rules probably don't believe that they will be one of the people it kills. And, as nobody will ever be able to trace any deaths they cause back to them directly, they don't really accept that they could be killing someone else. So they don't see any consequences from rule breaking.

So they come on threads like this, trying to whip up sympathy for their decisions to see family and friends.

ThereOnceWasANote:
Your mum is very sensible. Retirement flats, as I understand it, usually have a bit of pleasant outside space and there is someone on hand if a resident needs help. It's good to know she is keeping to the guidelines. I too am not going out.

Lucy sounds like a nob. Obviously we all want to stick to the rules but at the same time we have to think about each other's mental health and weigh up the pros and cons of sticking to those rules. In your case I'd say it's more than justified to go and see your friend. Ignore Lucy.

@ThereOnceWasANote

My mum lives in a tiny retirement flat by herself and follows the rules, probably in part because she is afraid for herself. I suspect those who don't follow the rules probably don't believe that they will be one of the people it kills. And, as nobody will ever be able to trace any deaths they cause back to them directly, they don't really accept that they could be killing someone else. So they don't see any consequences from rule breaking. So they come on threads like this, trying to whip up sympathy for their decisions to see family and friends.

Yes.

All of the "it's up to everyone to decide what risk they can handle" bullshit ignores that they are endangering the rest of us with their self-indulgent ways.