Me or friend AIBU?

[aibu2021]

My children are off school with very bad colds (not covid!)
I want to see my friend at her house tonight we had this arranged however she's backed out last second saying that it's not a good idea to meet while my DC are poorly as she can't risk being unwell at the moment which has upset me as it's not covid and I'm not unwell.
Whose being unreasonable?

@TheBigBazookasOfBrendaBurgess

OP, it's your friend who is being unreasonable. Bloody Covid and its cheerleaders. There are all kinds of things still doing the rounds, and children need to build up immunity, or far worse things than Covid will emerge.

Even if you think the friend is being over-cautious, she's still not being unreasonable in asking OP to stay away. You don't have a god-given right to infect other people with colds against their will, pandemic or no pandemic.

Of course yabu
We all need to be a cautious at the moment

YAB very unreasonable.
I get very annoyed when friends invite us round for dinner and one or both are full of the cold, as has happened in the past. We have then been really ill with a stinker of a cold virus. Not amused! Next time it happens I’m going home straight away.

You

The only good thing (as a parent) over the last 12 months is we haven't had sickness or cold bugs(..or nits!! ) please keep your germs to yourself!!!!

@JustDespair I don't disagree at all, but I know I've hauled arse into work when ill because I couldn't afford to be off - SSP was (and I believe remains) shite. The workplace heroes can do one, however.

It made me angry when people turned up at my house with a cold even before covid. Now that it is covid, I would tell them they actually cannot come in if they turned up with a cold. Not that we are actually allowed in eachother's houses are we?

You are being massively selfish and unreasonable

You are. If your kids aren't well enough to be in school, then they're not well enough to be risking infecting other people! If you are in England, and you and your friend are not in a childcare or support bubble, you aren't really supposed to meet indoors anyway, and certainly not if there is illness in the house. Apart from all the other reasons why your friend might not want your kids' cold, if she develops symptoms, even if they're just from the cold, she may have to self-isolate until she gets a negative test.

Why do you think its ridiculous?

Yabu op I’m embarrassed for you!

Both me and DS (5) tested positive for covid last month. We both had a cold. No fever and no cough.

Get your kids tested!

OPs not coming back is she 😂

Of course you are!

You. And how do you know kids dont have covid?

Massively selfish and unreasonable. Get your kids tested for gods sake.
No wonder you have skulked off!

You are. You shouldn't be visiting anyway

It's literally illegal whether or not any of you have a cold. So yes, YABU.

@AnneLovesGilbert

You are. And I hope this last year changes how people view sharing their germs with others who might then catch them.

If this is a reverse, don’t be so annoying.

So you’re hoping we’ll eradicate colds then?

You are. There/s no reason for her to risk catching a cold.

Echoing others I've no idea how you thought your friend was unreasonable.

first of all you havent said where u live but if uk you cant go round her house anyway

and secindly if our kids are ill enough to be off school then theyre not well enough to go round playing with other kids

The best thing to come out of COVID, for me, is people leaving their horrible snotty, stiffly colds at home.

I’ve had ear issues since I was a child. Grommets when I was 5, again at 7, and again as a adult, because every time I get a cold, my ears block up, often for weeks, and my hearing is seriously impaired.

It frustrates my family, and makes working in an office, talking to colleagues and sitting in meetings virtually impossible.

I haven’t had a cold in over a year. I used to get 3 or 4 a year.

It’s been utter bliss.

YABU.

@Soubriquet sorry to jump in, I’ve been here for ages but what’s a reverse x

This can't be a serious question