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To think Harry threw Meghan to the lions

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Arielsvoice · 09/03/2021 16:00

OK apologies its another thread on this but hear me out

So I've watched the interview and I think Harry actually comes off looking much worse and that Meghan is actually suffering because he's a pretty shit partner.

On watching it and if you take what she says at face value:

Why didn't he tell her what it was all about given that she said she didn't know anything about the royals?

Why didn't he warn her what happened to his mother if she was that unaware?

Why didn't he arrange mental health support given he's had a therapist on speed dial for years?

Why didn't he stand up against Kate if she made Meghan cry?

Why have another child if he knows that there won't be any security for Archie?

Why not sort out a realistic plan to support himself before leaving rather than making knee jerk reactions which put his wife and child at risk?

So many questions that actually make Harry look like a pretty shit husband. To me he seems to be the one that is responsible for putting Meghan into the situation she's in now and then to make himself look better throws his family under the bus rather than take responsibility.

YANBU - Harry needs to take some responsibility for Meghan's experiences

YABU - he is not to blame for what happened to her.

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DynamoKev · 09/03/2021 16:01

no point commenting MN are deleting 99%

mummywantstobeslim · 09/03/2021 16:07

I think we are all pretty sick and tired of all the h and m threads lately 🙄

x2boys · 09/03/2021 16:13

I think they came out of it pretty well tbh and they looked like a strong couple,I think they also showed how pointless the concept of a royal family is in this day and age .

NeedanIdea · 09/03/2021 16:26

I think he has been a supportive husband but perhaps didn't think of it from her perspective in the early days. They have advisers for everything, perhaps he thought that M would be advised by others and just 'pick it up'. Also he's been wanting a way out for a while so perhaps was focused on that rather than seeing how it must have been for her coming in.

Gadzookery · 09/03/2021 16:28

Agree with OP. in fact she was well aware of the Diana story - press reports say she and a friend watched the funeral many times.

But yes, agree, Harry should have stated earlier what being in the RF entailed.

NiceGerbil · 09/03/2021 16:33

I think she was totally unprepared as well and had no idea what the reality would be like- no freedom at all really.

Interesting points OP and on reflection I agree.

Susie477 · 09/03/2021 16:36

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GreenSlide · 09/03/2021 16:39

@Gadzookery

Agree with OP. in fact she was well aware of the Diana story - press reports say she and a friend watched the funeral many times.

But yes, agree, Harry should have stated earlier what being in the RF entailed.

That's a bit creepy, who watches a funeral on repeat Confused

JadeSeahorse · 09/03/2021 16:41

@x2boys

I think they came out of it pretty well tbh and they looked like a strong couple,I think they also showed how pointless the concept of a royal family is in this day and age .
This!
HyacynthBucket · 09/03/2021 16:42

I do not believe a word of what she said in the interview. Most of it is verifiably untrue (but not the racism allegation which may be something or nothing). She should have done her research about joining the royal family, and he should have told her beforehand what to expect.
As for her coming over better than him - no. They both behaved abyssmally, but she is more calculating than him, and it is all part of a act. I had an open mind about her before, but now can see that she is not to be trusted.

TakeTheCuntOutOfScunthorpe · 09/03/2021 16:45

YANBU but I think she is equally guilty.

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MariaAngustias · 09/03/2021 16:48

@HyacynthBucket

I do not believe a word of what she said in the interview. Most of it is verifiably untrue (but not the racism allegation which may be something or nothing). She should have done her research about joining the royal family, and he should have told her beforehand what to expect. As for her coming over better than him - no. They both behaved abyssmally, but she is more calculating than him, and it is all part of a act. I had an open mind about her before, but now can see that she is not to be trusted.
This a million times over - next episode, The Divorce, coming soon.
EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 09/03/2021 16:50

Divorced within 5 I'd say, with a child an American court would deem (with reason) a Californian

Rockbird · 09/03/2021 16:51

Who knows what the real story is but if she was truly suicidal (and I have no reason to think that's not true), I am really struggling to understand why she wasn't given help. Harry and William are patrons and supporters of many mental health organisations. They've done TV shows about it, Harry was having counselling. There is zero defence for her not being given the help she needed. For that alone he is a shit husband.

Nospringchickendipper · 09/03/2021 16:53

My DH and I were having a conversation about this earlier and I know that if I’d told him I was feeling the way Megan said she felt he would have moved heaven and earth to get me the help I needed.

Gadzookery · 09/03/2021 16:54

That's a bit creepy, who watches a funeral on repeat confused

@GreenSlide

I'm sorry; I misquoted - it was the wedding that was watched many times.

ReverendRicketyCricket · 09/03/2021 16:54

@DynamoKev

no point commenting MN are deleting 99%
Quite rightly so imo

You are extremely unreasonable OP both in starting yet another bloody thread about this but also using the 'vote' function as if it were a poll. It is not. YABU for the thread and the content of it.

Gadzookery · 09/03/2021 16:55

@EineReiseDurchDieZeit

Divorced within 5 I'd say, with a child an American court would deem (with reason) a Californian
Agree!
Littlecaf · 09/03/2021 16:55

I actually have sympathy for her and I think it’s cruel to minimise her experiences and demean her because he had mental health issues but wtf was he doing in all this time? He didn’t notice his wife needed help and ask his own counsellor for some help?

I find it hard to believe William and Kate we’re not able to help either.

Odd family.

The racism though is appalling and just awful.

KatieB55 · 09/03/2021 16:56

Didn't they engage their own obstetrician for Archie's birth & declined the royal doctors? Surely they could have done the same with a mental health professional?

eddiemairswife · 09/03/2021 17:02

I think Harry needs to sort himself out and find something he likes, to devote his energies to. He doesn't seem to have any interests outside his immediate family and bemoaning his raw deal in life. His father has his organic gardening and farming; his aunt has her horses; his uncle has philandering with young women!! Surely, an education at a renowned public school should have given him something, or would the local comp have been better for him?

x2boys · 09/03/2021 17:03

Diana also had well documented mental health issues ,and I don't think she got any help with them either ?
I think now he's outside looking in he can see how pointless it all is