Husband's pants

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Hello!
So, I'm in a bit of a dispute with my DH. He was upset not to have clean pants ready in his drawers. Laundry is one of my chores (We split the housework between he and I, but I still end up doing more as I keep things running day to day with all the cooking, laundry, dishes). I didn't consider it such a big deal for him to fetch a pair from the dryer and carry on drying it quickly using our blow dryer. But he flipped and has been going on about it for the past two days, interrogating me about whether he will have clean pants in his drawer or if he'll have to blow dry another pair tomorrow? Eventually I lost my patience and said if he were that concerned, he could wash them himself. He flipped and dropped his tea and cup all over the kitchen floor (threw his toys out of the pram). I don't get it. There have been plenty of times in my life where I've needed to hand wash or quickly dry items of clothing. I earn three times what he does, so it's not like this is my contribution to the house. Just now I told him that I wasn't tidying the tea fro. The floor, he said he'd already done it but then said we weren't going to eat lunch together and got really cross. I mean, this is childish, right? I'm still doing his laundry and he now has a dozen pairs of pants in his drawer so I really don't get the upset. I'm generally very forgiving and understanding and believe in being happy rather than right... but how can I be wrong about this???

So you do more of the chores, even though it should be shared fairly? Sounds like a good opportunity to even it out by letting him do the laundry from now on.

Sounds like a massive overreaction to not having any clean pants.

I generally do all our laundry, but I expect people to put clothes they want washing in the laundry basket.
DH has run low on pants before if he’s been leaving his dirty clothes in the corner of his bathroom, but he knows fine well the deal with the laundry basket.

If he had been putting all his pants in the laundry basket, and he was still running low, then I’d expect him to say something about it before he was completely out of pants.

And he is a ridiculous manchild. Can't drive, can't manage his own underwear - what is he actually for?

😂

He has a right to be slightly annoyed but he has no right to throw his food all over the place.

The concept of wanting to fuck such a specimen is mind boggling. You find a male throwing an aggressive tantrum appealing enough to stay with it?! 😂 he can wash his own panties from now on. Hey presto, he’ll be throwing little tantrums about another ‘issue’ within hours. Aim for better next time, eh.

The pants that broke the camel's back, I think.

It would piss me off if something was someone else’s job and they didn’t do it and it was inconvenient to me, especially if it’s two days in a row.

Laundry is my job in our house and if either of us didn’t have underwear ready to wear then I’d be failing at my chore, so I think your in the wrong. Equally, if all the dishes were dirty and I couldn’t find a clean fork, my DP would be failing at his chore. If you distribute tasks then I think it’s fair to expect them to be done. I’d be pretty peeved if I had to blow dry some pants cause the chore was left undone.

@sweetpetrichor harsh. OP says it was a one-off lapse.

If my DH wasn't staying on top of the washing I would check if there was anything going on/had something else taken priority. We do the dishes/washing division but we also help each other by saying something is running low, take over the task for a day if shifts or other things have gotten in the way.

The next time he fucks up you should make a massive deal about it for days to see how he likes it.

You work full time and yet you do the bigger share of chores.

Fuck his pants.

"Laundry is one of my chores (We split the housework between he and I, but I still end up doing more as I keep things running day to day with all the cooking, laundry, dishes.".
These are the main 3 chores so it's hardly a fair split!

@HugeAckmansWife

Is just pants.. Just cloth. Why 'ugh'? Seriously?

If you mean my 'urgh' above your post, it was for this guy's agressive tantrum and entitlement. When he was on his last pair of pants he should have stuck a load in himself. Division of chores doesn't mean you can never help our or help yourself! Sounds like the OP is doing the majority of the chores too.