Aibu to send him for more mince?

[EatTheMince]

DP went and got all the ingredients for tonight's dinner which he is going to cook. We don't live together but are in a bubble so eat together a lot.

We are on a strict cut cycle before the gyms reopen so counting calories and macros. I obviously get a lot less calories than he does though. He tries to eat 2500 and I get 1400.

He is making chilli and he has bought pork and beef mince rather than lean mince beef. I wasn't going to say anything but when logging the calories this morning (I plan my day out in advance) I figured out that it is significantly more calorific. I mean if we had lean mince I could have chilli rice and a mini naan for less calories than just the chilli made with the other mince.

I couldn't help myself but mention it and BF has agreed to go any get more mince but I feel like an absolute brat! Usually I would just be great full that someone has bought and cooked a meal for me and eat what I am given but I am really trying to focus right now.

So YABU - it's only one meal you should have kept quiet.

YANBU - he knows you are on a strict calorie allowance and should get the lean mince.

YABU. One meal in a week of healthy eating is neither here nor there.

YA also BU to post about diets and calories. The only thing more boring than another persons dream is other persons weight loss regime.

You sound fun!

This sounds like an awful way to live

I'm a fattie though, so probably just jealous in part of your willpower!

Just eat what you have and go for a run!

I'm sensing that a lot of posters don't see exercise as fun, we do it together, we enjoy it, we laugh a lot while we do it, we chat and joke and get a bit competitive. It's an enjoyable way to pass time.

We also cook together, eat together, watch TV, chat, cuddle. It's not like we spend every hour of every day discussing macros and planning our next work out.

I am curious what everyone else is filling their time with during lockdown. Wouldn't mind reading a good book though to be fair, I've not had a good read for ages.

@minniemoocher

Just eat what you have and go for a run!

I hate running would rather walk for 3 hours than spend 20 mins running.

Do you regiment your sex life the same way you regiment your diet and exercise? Do you have to build it in to your strict routine?

Christ on a bike there's some miserable people on this thread , someone doesn't automatically have disordered eating if they are calorie counting confused

Ach you know MN when it comes to eating (and being in an abusive relationship which someone tried to shoehorn into the thread a few pages back)

Op, anyone who knew what cutting meant would have known immediately what you meant and why you were doing it.

Just ignore the posters who are falling over themselves to make it something else.

@ineedaholidaynow

Do you regiment your sex life the same way you regiment your diet and exercise? Do you have to build it in to your strict routine?

Yea pretty much, half hour in the morning, 40 mins in the evening, a proper long rough session on a Friday night and occasionally when we should be training if we can't help ourselves.

@ineedaholidaynow

Do you regiment your sex life the same way you regiment your diet and exercise? Do you have to build it in to your strict routine?

Oh and I log it in the diary too

YABU

YANBU OP. Your only problem here was asking on MN.

Good luck with your goals!

I hear you OP.
Many will be aghast at someone taking their diet and fitness seriously

I would have been mildly annoyed but then see it as an opportunity to have my perfect dinner of a huge pile of steamed veg (with a little bit of soy sauce and wasabi!) followed by Greek yoghurt and berries.

So many expressing horror will be on the weight loss board bemoaning their lockdown weight gain

YABU

I mean this in the nicest way just you need to get a life

I can remember being very young too. I also would follow obsessively whatever my latest was in to. Luckily I outgrew such unhealthy behaviours.
It'll wear off OP. In twenty years time you'll read this and roar with laughter at yourself.
In the meantime, let him carry on moulding you until you come to your senses. It strokes his ego.
Enjoy your dinner

I always thought pork mince had LESS calories than beef mince.

No comment other than OP, respect for the way you’ve handled all the flak. Considered eating does not mean disordered eating.

@YellowandGreenToBeSeen

No comment other than OP, respect for the way you’ve handled all the flak. Considered eating does not mean disordered eating.

Thanks, I've found it quite entertaining and mildly touching.

@braceletsandbangles

I can remember being very young too. I also would follow obsessively whatever my latest was in to. Luckily I outgrew such unhealthy behaviours. It'll wear off OP. In twenty years time you'll read this and roar with laughter at yourself. In the meantime, let him carry on moulding you until you come to your senses. It strokes his ego. Enjoy your dinner

We are both mid thirties with me being the older of us. I was interested in strength training before we met and was paying a personal trainer though only started taking it seriously when we started training together.

I love you op. I wish I was anything like you tbh!

I was raised with ‘good’ and ‘bad’ foods and ‘greediness’ and ‘fat talk’ and I hate the effect it’s had on my life.

If I hadn’t had a bloody grade 1 cystocele (pelvic organ injury) I’d love to get into lifting, I know a lot of very cool, smart women who do it to be strong and fit - I admire you!

@EatTheMince your diet must make you very chill because I would NOT have been that polite to that very patronising post!
You should try lentils by the way! Lentil soup is lush. They're a complete protein apparently so probably could fit into your way of eating nicely.