Aibu to send him for more mince?

[EatTheMince]

DP went and got all the ingredients for tonight's dinner which he is going to cook. We don't live together but are in a bubble so eat together a lot.

We are on a strict cut cycle before the gyms reopen so counting calories and macros. I obviously get a lot less calories than he does though. He tries to eat 2500 and I get 1400.

He is making chilli and he has bought pork and beef mince rather than lean mince beef. I wasn't going to say anything but when logging the calories this morning (I plan my day out in advance) I figured out that it is significantly more calorific. I mean if we had lean mince I could have chilli rice and a mini naan for less calories than just the chilli made with the other mince.

I couldn't help myself but mention it and BF has agreed to go any get more mince but I feel like an absolute brat! Usually I would just be great full that someone has bought and cooked a meal for me and eat what I am given but I am really trying to focus right now.

So YABU - it's only one meal you should have kept quiet.

YANBU - he knows you are on a strict calorie allowance and should get the lean mince.

Don't get hung up on Instagram bodies a lot of these people are either juiced up or do have eating disorder or edited their photos heavily. Enjoy lifting, eat the macros that are right and safe to your goals and body weight and just be in awe that the body is an incredible thing. Mine let's me lift 3 times my bodyweight and I don't have abs 🤣

So you are eating a restrictive diet of only 1400 calories and do 3 workouts a day burning 700 cals, which means you are on 700 cals a day. That’s not healthy or sustainable and your bodybuilder boyfriend should know this. Please use an independent trainer or nutritionist to work out your macros. You can do this online, it’s not rocket science. Look after your own body. Lift weights and go for a mental health walk but cut the HIIT. Your bf sounds controlling and you seem slightly naive and obsessed.

@ineedaholidaynow

So you wanted some fake body image, then wonder why people are saying you have a disordered eating habit to get that image

Stop being logical

This is no way to live a life OP.

I hear you OP, I'm getting into the world of heavy lifting....my diet is 100% everything.
Next time try mince turkey in your Chilli. It's the leanest meat and has high protein value.

@Nelia5

So you are eating a restrictive diet of only 1400 calories and do 3 workouts a day burning 700 cals, which means you are on 700 cals a day. That’s not healthy or sustainable and your bodybuilder boyfriend should know this. Please use an independent trainer or nutritionist to work out your macros. You can do this online, it’s not rocket science. Look after your own body. Lift weights and go for a mental health walk but cut the HIIT. Your bf sounds controlling and you seem slightly naive and obsessed.

Doesn’t sound healthy at all.

Think your partner is a keeper, I think it's lovely he is supportive over what you eat, my husband is the same as we are both on different eating regimes and we cater to each other also.
As long as he knows you appreciate the effort he went to then all is fine and you are not being unreasonable.

@EarringsandLipstick I have, and I’m always seriously sceptical when people start posting about diets that limit this, that and the next thing (even cut and bulk diets). They’ve been shown to not be healthy, to not lead to the weight loss and muscle bulk that has been promised and to ultimately severely damage the dieters relationship with food when they realise they’re yoyoing around the place. I wasn’t asking her those questions to suggest she had an eating disorder, I was asking because if thinking about dieting and what she eats is taking up a lot of her mind space (to the extent she’s worried about what kind of mince she’s eating) then perhaps she might want to consider an alternate program because getting that fixated on it can lead to a problem. But no one should express any kind of concern for something they’ve had experience with before no?

@Nelia5

So you are eating a restrictive diet of only 1400 calories and do 3 workouts a day burning 700 cals, which means you are on 700 cals a day. That’s not healthy or sustainable and your bodybuilder boyfriend should know this. Please use an independent trainer or nutritionist to work out your macros. You can do this online, it’s not rocket science. Look after your own body. Lift weights and go for a mental health walk but cut the HIIT. Your bf sounds controlling and you seem slightly naive and obsessed.

The whole point of a calorie deficit is that you use more calories than you burn.

1250 calories = the amount I use just being alive
750 calories = the amount I burn off exercising

If I only eat 1400 calories that means my body burns its fat stores to fuel the deficit. That is the entire point.

It's not supposed to be sustainable it's a diet which I am following for 6 weeks but it's the basic principle by which all diets work.

Are you Chloe Madeley OP?

I would have stretched the meal with lentils to reduce the overall fat content per serving, and frozen the leftovers for another meal

It’s only one meal. I’d have put up and shut up and just had a slightly smaller portion.

My first reaction was that ywbu and ridiculously obsessive.

Actually though reading all your other comments I think that I wish I had just a fraction of your dedication because I could certainly do with some.

It's great that you and your partner are on the same page and enjoying your hobby together. It makes a nice change from all the posts where the husband has an obsessive hobby that makes the poster feel neglected and fed up.

Your daily meals sounded great and healthy not like starvation.
I'd love for someone to make me pancakes in the morning and lemon merangue muffins!

You did like you have an eating and exercise disorder. Unless you're a professional athlete letting food and exercise rule your life like this is odd.

@Losingthechubrub

I would have stretched the meal with lentils to reduce the overall fat content per serving, and frozen the leftovers for another meal

I don't have lentils in, I don't think I have ever eaten a lentil and I wasn't cooking. I honestly wasn't planning to say anything. I did notice straight away that it was pork and beef and didn't say anything, it's only when I put the macros in that I expressed my shock at just how much higher the calorie content was.

@Okbussitout

You did like you have an eating and exercise disorder. Unless you're a professional athlete letting food and exercise rule your life like this is odd.

It's lock down, our social lives have pretty much stalled, we can't go out to eat, we can't go to any fun places. What better time is there to diet than when you aren't missing out on anything.

Having something to focus on has kept us sane.

@GrandDuchessRomanov

Are you Chloe Madeley OP?

Had to google her and whilst no I am not her, I wouldn't mind her figure!

I'm surprised how many people are so upset about someone else calorie counting.

To lose weight you have to offset calories in to calories out, I have lost 5 stone and almost at a healthy weight for my build.

I'm assuming the OP doesn't have 5 stone of fat to lose though @6demandingchildren

Mentioning it for next time - fine

Having him go out for more - unnecessary and petulant.

I'm not allowed to know the exact secret recipe
How does this work when you're so strict about logging macros and calories?

Aibu to send him for more mince?
No because you very clearly said he offered to go.

Here is the attention you ordered.

@SmallPrawnEnergy

I'm not allowed to know the exact secret recipe How does this work when you're so strict about logging macros and calories?

Aibu to send him for more mince?
No because you very clearly said he offered to go.

Here is the attention you ordered.

Because he works out the macros and tells me what they are. For example the lemon meringue cups I posted have the following macros.

My DP does weightlifting and also similarly plans out macros on an app and it means we need to think a little bit ahead, and I weigh out his portions if I'm the one cooking (we both cook an equal amount) and has done 'cut' phases before. So I know the situation you're talking about... I still think YABU.
Unless you're an olympic level athlete/this is your job.

It's one meal, you're spending a nice night with your DP who doesn't live with you. Eat the regular beef mince. There's more to life and while its nice your DP is into the same things as you and supports you in this and overall you generally both do it diligently.....there's more to life and I'm assuming he brings more to your life than this.

*It's lock down, our social lives have pretty much stalled, we can't go out to eat, we can't go to any fun places. What better time is there to diet than when you aren't missing out on anything.

Having something to focus on has kept us sane.*

This is my point. I'm not trying to criticise or judge, and its good to have something to focus on. But maybe try focussing on spending a nice night together with the slightly inadequate mince. I think having a hobby is good, but diversity is also important. Maybe try having a few other things to focus on too?