I dont want to share babies 1st time at zoo with mil, fil and her sons?

[Sophie1029734]

Hi everyone. My mil wants to go to the zoo when lockdown lifts with her, the fil, her 2 sons, their 2 girlfriends, me, the baby and partner. No one one really likes the zoo, its more for the baby.
I dont want to feel at competition, trying to talk to my child with MIL talking first. I dont want to have to move from the pram by 1inch and mil grabbing the handles. I have a bit of anxiety and I dont want to feel anxious haveing all these people focusing on me and the my child, like I'm in a spotlight. I want to just enjoy takeing her, not have to constantly pass her about and share it. Plus I'd rather go when my kids older, maybe 2 or 3 so she can truly enjoy the zoo. I want to it to be just us. Is this selfish. AIBU?

@GingerBiscuit21

OP, please read this back in a year. Or once you have a second child. Seriously.

Baby's first trip to the zoo isn't a thing.

Your anxiety says more about your relationship with your family than about their behaviour. Maybe that's what you need to think about.

THIS. You'll cringe about this in a year. I was like this too. So embarrassed now 😂

At this age your baby won't really even notice they're at the zoo let alone remember, go on the family day out, then when your DC is a bit older go just you and your DH and child, that's the one the child will remember, and will be engaged in.
DH didn't come to DSs first trip to the zoo, he was about eight months and it was for my niece's birthday ( brother, SIL and my parents), I was on mat leave DH was working , we went later when DS was 20 months with PIL and even that I'm not sure he'll remember fully. He's nearly two and a half now and loves animals so we're very much looking forward to taking him when they open, but in all likelihood it'll be with family or friends. The children have more fun and actually adults without children often like an excuse to go to the zoo, we used to take my niece a lot before we had DS!

YABU. It's not a competition. If she showed no interest she'd be wrong too.

It will be a total non-event. Your little one won’t remember it, so it won’t matter who is there. I took DC1 to the zoo every Friday and the aquarium every Sunday from the ages of 8 weeks to 2.5 years. We then moved countries. He is now 6 and doesn’t remember any of it 😭 Or all of those damn baby Gymboree and musical monkey classes. So basically I didn’t need to be baby tour guide at all 😂 Actually I had an amazing time, but I’m astonished he remembers nothing!!

I’ve had two babies who are now respectively 13 months and 5 years and I only learnt today from this thread that “baby’s first time at the zoo” is a thing. I’m trying hard to remember my 5 year olds first time at the zoo - right it was when my dad visited from 3 continents away for ten days and we went with him. Now that’s a memory.

I’d probably say “oh yes when she’s a bit older that’d be lovely”. And let it drift, possibly doing something like this in a few years.

Take her quietly by yourself during the week in the meantime.

@sweetpotatopie12

It's just the zoo, I wouldn't be too precious about it, you will have plenty of firsts with your child

This ^