AIBU to think that lesbians deserve a dating app that caters exclusively to lesbians?

[Glinner]

Recently I opened an account with the app Her to bring attention to the many straight men invading lesbian dating apps by claiming a 'lesbian', 'queer' or 'trans' identity.

Given that lesbians are adult human females exclusively attracted to other adult human females, am I being unreasonable to believe that lesbians deserve spaces of their own, both online and in the real world?

Another lesbian and I totally agree with you

I agree but probably going to be shouted at for trans phobia

Yanbu but you know that already. Get your tin hat strapped on nice and tight.

Giggle? Her has been all over twitter for its policy...

But you’re a man who defines himself as a man. So you already invaded what is supposed to be an all female space. And you did it in a way that was really aggressive and to be honest makes Gender Critical people look like insane extremists.

So YABU for how you’ve done it.

I’m also sick of married couples with a bicurious wife. I’d rather fill a Costco trolley with canned good, then roll it over my bare feet.

It’s not that long ago a woman got sent to prison for having sex with a straight woman while she pretended to be a man. Deception.

So surely if a man is saying they’re a woman to have sex with a lesbian the same should happen? 🤷‍♀️

I say this as a Gender Critical person who is attracted to both men and women and yeah, would have (pre marriage) liked a place just to find women. But not to find you making a point.

Yanbu, and many people may disagree with the way you've done it, and say it is 'aggressive', but in my view you highlighted the issue perfectly. These men ARE aggressive otherwise they wouldn't be invading female spaces

You are not being unreasonable and are a bloody legend for sticking up for us. What I can't get over is the amount of people DELIBERATELY missing the point. There is NO WAY they think that you're genuinely in there with an ulterior motive. They are going to feel so bloody embarrassed and ashamed by their conduct/cowardice/lack of logic all this in the years to come.

www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/crime/gayle-newland-trick-friend-sex-pretend-man-jailed-six-years-prison-cheshire-court-a7850936.html

Six years in prison.

Oh duh, didn’t see the OP name... I’ve seen ‘in faith’ accounts that were more 🤔🤔🤔 to be honest...

@DeusEx

But you’re a man who defines himself as a man. So you already invaded what is supposed to be an all female space. And you did it in a way that was really aggressive and to be honest makes Gender Critical people look like insane extremists.

So YABU for how you’ve done it.

It's already been invaded. This has just highlighted something that is already happening.

YANBU.

Could we make one?

No, YANBU.
Lesbians are women attracted to other women. They deserve spaces, online and in real life, that are exclusively for females.
They have boundaries, and when those boundaries are broken, they deserve not to be labeled transphobic or accused of having genital preferences when they reinforce those boundaries.
I noticed that there was a wave of lesbians who joined the app with your face as their profile picture in the days that followed, so many obviously felt the same.

@DeusEx

But you’re a man who defines himself as a man. So you already invaded what is supposed to be an all female space. And you did it in a way that was really aggressive and to be honest makes Gender Critical people look like insane extremists.

So YABU for how you’ve done it.

Pippa Bunce is a man who defines himself as a man....a few days a week. Society has gone along with this - to the point of the Financial Times describing him as an 'inspirational woman.' We can't make these points by being polite and restrained anymore, it's got us nowhere an we're losing rights every day. If this (very funny) stunt makes GC people look like 'insane extremists' it's just a sad indication of how batshit the whole thing has become.

No, YANBU.
Lesbians are women attracted to other women. They deserve spaces, online and in real life, that are exclusively for females.
They have boundaries, and when those boundaries are broken, they deserve not to be labeled transphobic or accused of having genital preferences when they reinforce those boundaries.
I noticed that there was a wave of lesbians who joined the app with your face as their profile picture in the days that followed, so many obviously felt the same.

Well said 👆👏

Yes exactly what @Expectant88 said

It wasn’t invaded, the app makers said their intention was an inclusive space. Once again, Linehan is playing women as if we’re stupid.

Women complain - they get death threats and aren’t listened to anyway.

It wouldn't occur for me to go on lesbian dating app if I were a bi curious wife. Surely theres apps/sites for that.

Its just the same another invasion of gentitically born - female only safe spaces.

I think it's blindingly obvious that biological women who are attracted to other biological women should be allowed a dating app for that. Women who are in that class might refer to themselves as lesbians, queer or gay women.

I also think it's blindingly obvious that Mr Linehan has shown how effortless and check-free it is for any bloke to join up to an app such as the one he easily joined, which are supposed to be services for same sex attracted biological women.

Let's not forget the Stonewall definitions are very wide indeed of what supposedly constitutes what these days.

But same sex attraction, to same sex attracted people, remains same sex attraction. I personally believe it to be homophobic to try to convert people away from that view.