Piss off, Pam!

[FuckingFabulous]

A relative- 'Pam'- has pissed me right off this morning on Facebook (yes, I know, the root of all evil.)

And actually, it's not even just Pam, there are a few of them but she's the worst one!

Basically me and DH are group 6 for the vaccine. Me due to caring responsibilities for our DD and DH due to an underlying health condition. DH got the jab this morning and I reposted an article about how well the U.K. is doing with their vaccination programme and mentioned DH was currently having his vaccine and I'm having mine in a few days.

Straight away, Pam comments "so many young people having their jabs- what magic key have you all got to jump the queue? I'm Over 50 and I work with the public but I can't just waltz in like some! Oh well"

I just replied that I couldn't speak for anyone else but DH and I are in group 6, me for caring and him for health reasons and were invited to book, so there has been no queue jumping, and I realise it's frustrating to wait to be called when there are so many hopes riding on it. She then commented "So because you're a parent with normal parenting responsibilities, you are saying you have got rights ahead of me, a person over 50? Don't make me laugh."
I didn't reply because I was fuming as she knows full well that I have a round the clock caring role for my daughter (and she's a woman who wouldn't even have her own 20yo DD home to recover from surgery as it was "above and beyond" her responsibility ) so I was reeling from the audacity of her! I went to make a coffee and consider my response to her. I was all for politely telling her that she's being judgemental and although she's disappointed, it's not kind to be so dismissive when she's well aware of the difficulties I face at home, but then when I looked again, I saw it had all kicked off a bit!

Pam has posted another comment saying "And what's Mr FuckingFabulous's magic key condition?" Another older female relative chimes in then with a heart reaction and a comment of "I'd also love to know this, Pam! Beggars belief!!" Pam shoots back with "last time I checked, being an idiot wasn't on the list of conditions!" Cue about five laugh reactions from older relatives and comments like "this is why I love you, you say it like it is, Pam!"

DH has ADHD. Not sure if all older relatives know this but Pam, the one who called him an idiot, does indeed know!! I've had to speak to her and her husband before when they both expressed an opinion that ADHD and ASD don't exist and they're excuses for poor performance. And it is not even the condition which entitles him to a jab. Several people have also commented to her and some of the others that their comments are disgusting and Pam has been popping on a copy paste reply of "I am entitled to my opinion - it's a free country still."

So Pam has dismissed my caring responsibilities and taken the piss out of my DH for his ADHD. I have deleted the thread and spoken to my mum about it and she said it's best just to leave it, we don't want bad feelings in the family. Um, what about MY feelings? Or DH's??

WIBU to message Pam and tell her how bloody vile she is?? I should do it to all of them really, but I doubt it would have any impact.

There are some real twats on this thread, and I don’t mean the OP.

It’s not hard to see why disability hate crime is on the increase and why the parents of disabled children and those with underlying medical conditions have had the hardest time through this pandemic.

We’ve already had posts saying that the vulnerable should just stay locked up and if they or the elderly die then they were probably going to die soon anyway just as long as those without underlying conditions can go to the pub and book their summer holidays.

As for why did the OP post on facebook that she’d had her vaccine, why the fuck shouldn’t she? I had mine two weeks ago and I checked in at the hospital where it was done. I had about 46 likes and nothing but positive comments, some of which were from people who have also had vaccines because they have underlying medical conditions.

And for those who say that vaccination is a sensitive subject, is it really? So you’re upset that you’re not over 80 or living in a care home or that you don’t have a health condition which puts you at risk of serious illness or death? Well don’t you have a difficult little life. Here’s the thing.... be careful what you wish for. I mean if you’re lucky you might fall seriously ill soon and then you can jump the queue like the rest of us and have the vaccine.

Honestly this pandemic has brought out the absolute worst in people.

Couldn't agree more AP.

If you haven't had the vacinnation , be thankful you don't need it yet!!!

@garlictwist

I am not sure why you felt the need to post you'd had the vaccine? It is a sensitive issue and many people are worried waiting and not knowing when their turn will be. I would have kept quiet out of respect for that.

I work in Adult Social Care. We have been encouraged to put a "sticker" on our social media and in our work email signatures saying we've been vaccinated to encourage others to take up the vaccine - there has been a low take up rate amongst some groups of care workers so it's positive for them to see that others have been vaccinated and it's ok.

OP Pam sounds horrendous.

Feeling a bit sorry for Pam Ayres now!

Here's one of her poems

I don’t understand the posts asking why you posted about having the vaccine!

It’s not as if we’ve not seen it constantly on the news, encouraging people to get vaccinated when asked to do so, seen celebrities being given the vaccine! There’s a proportion of people not being vaccinated through misinformation or fear, I think the more people who spread the news that they’ve had the vaccine, the better!

It’s up to you how you interpret someone’s post! I’d look on as it being a great thing and one everyone should post about, shout about!

Oh and Pam’s a twat!

Ruled she mentioned it because Pam called her DH an idiot because of his adhd and she assumed that was why he was called.

However he was called for a respiratory problem.

Read the opening post as it explains it all

Oh and I’ve had the vaccine too as I’m in the CEV group!

@Weallfloatdownhere

The righteous indignation on this thread, largely resulting from a lack of basic comprehension skills, is hilarious 😂

Can't deny it's kept me amused on another lockdown night in 🤣🤣

@RuledbyASD and everyone else who is concerned they've been missed or that they ought to be eligible-

www.nhs.uk/conditions/coronavirus-covid-19/coronavirus-vaccination/book-coronavirus-vaccination/

Here. You can book your vaccine here if you're eligible. It's been encouraged for weeks if you have an underlying condition but apparently carers and those with learning disabilities can also use this to book if they're registered with a GP and eligible. If you're not, take it up with your GP. People who have been offered vaccines or people who have had them aren't responsible for you not having had one yet.

And for all the indignant on here who think people are queue jumping because of disabilities.

Please feel free to have my ds (16) group 6 vaccination.

He and I will also donate his genetic condition that is found in 1 in a million people worldwide.

He's already 1 in a million to me (his mum) I don't need him to have a degenerative condition similar to MND or a vacimne to prove it.

Anyone? No?

Good. Zip it then

Christ what a thick cunt your aunt is. How the evert loving fuck do people think you can just “jump the queue” does she think you’re bunging bribes to the doctor to get ahead? Absolute fucking morons.

Pam^ thinks she ought to have it before people with a clinical need because she's 56^

Pam needs yeeting in to another orbit.

@ itsgettingwierd I have a master plan. We could all do a trade off for our vaccine slot.

So we all put our conditions into a box and then those who feel they should be entitled to the vaccine can have a lucky dip, then they get a health condition, but in exchange for that they get a vaccine.

But it’s a lucky dip, so you don’t know what vaccine you’ll be getting, but you do know that you’ll get a vaccine.

So they could end up with a serious physical disability, or a respiratory condition or a heart condition or maybe even cancer. But that doesn’t matter, because they’ll be getting the vaccine....

Who’s in?

You don’t know what health condition you’ll be getting

@RootyT00t

Couldn't agree more AP.

If you haven't had the vacinnation , be thankful you don't need it yet!!!

Exactly!

Good on you OP, you don't need people like her in your life

@FuckingFabulous I am so impressed you posted that embroidery. I imagine the level of satisfaction from that must have been immense

(And Pam is a fuckwit of the highest order)

I am so angry for you and I would have to let rip at Pam. And given the nature of her attack on you, I would do so publicly with a Facebook post explaining how disappointed you are with bitter, hate-filled family members. I would explain why you are in group 6, why you made the post and finish by commenting that all those who've been nasty have shown you their true colours and won't be having anything to do with you in future. Make the post so that no one can comment on it.

It's not the high road but seriously, stuff the high road. Embarrass her publicly. She's a vile woman and deserves it.

@AlternativePerspective

@ itsgettingwierd I have a master plan. We could all do a trade off for our vaccine slot.

So we all put our conditions into a box and then those who feel they should be entitled to the vaccine can have a lucky dip, then they get a health condition, but in exchange for that they get a vaccine.

But it’s a lucky dip, so you don’t know what vaccine you’ll be getting, but you do know that you’ll get a vaccine.

So they could end up with a serious physical disability, or a respiratory condition or a heart condition or maybe even cancer. But that doesn’t matter, because they’ll be getting the vaccine....

Who’s in?

Yea lucky dip is a grand idea.

After all all those entitled in group 6 didn't get to choose which disability they got or how it affected their lives. They just got what they were given

I read so many threads where cf behaviour is tolerated ('I don't know whyyyy I didn't say something, I was soooo shocked but I would now I'm older" etc in a Mavis Riley voice in my head😁) so good on you for firing back and then blocking the ridiculous lot of them!!

Well, fair fucks to you that was quite the comeback!

I can't believe you didn't read all their replies, you're a stronger woman than I. Well done for blocking them, you don't need that shit!

@FuckingFabulous You are indeed fucking fabulous! Well done to you!

(If you're taking orders, I'd buy several of that embroidery from you. I know quite a few people who that would make a lovely gift for. )

Seems like there's quite a few "Pams" lurking about.

Aren't there just? A Pam-demic, if you will...

@BrightYellowDaffodil

Seems like there's quite a few "Pams" lurking about.

Aren't there just? A Pam-demic, if you will...

Outstanding