Should I sue Abusive ex *[content warning: concerns domestic violence]

[Bestservedcold1]

I have a severe neck injury from several years ago when my abusive ex-partner smashed my head against a brick wall on the night he proposed.

I had to have spinal surgery a few years later to correct this, but still suffer with pain & it does affect my day to day life quite a bit and the spinal problems I have are gradually becoming worse again & is likely to continue becoming worse.

I left him shortly before our wedding day, after he again lost his temper, pinned me up against a wall spitting in my face, with his finger in my face, then trapped me in the bedroom and then chased me down the stairs.

More recently and quite out of the blue after all of these years, he sent a malicious letter to some third parties, making up all kinds of lies & false allegations about me, such as saying I am mental and alleging I own him a lot of money he claims I scammed from him.

I am extremely resentful that my injury he caused is a debilitating lifelong injury & I have to suffer the pain, financial losses, flashbacks & PTSD from my relationship with him, while he gets to carry on his life as normal.

I am considering suing him / writing him a letter asking for compensation for my injuries. I am not even sure he is aware of my spinal surgery.

The malicious letter sent years later caused me a great deal of distress & triggered all kinds of flashbacks & health problems for me.

What should I do?

OP anger is one of the steps to mental healing. Anger is healthy, and it’ll see you through for a time. I hope you get the justice you deserve, because this bastard absolutely deserves to pay for what he’s done, but don’t hold on to anger forever

I don’t think that anyone is unsympathetic to the OP. She sounds like she’s been through some pretty tough times with multiple domestic abuse relationships and now being left with physical and mental health issues. It must be really difficult to accept that he’s going to not be held accountable for what he did. Sometimes it’s cathartic to rant and hopefully this thread is allowing her to vent her anger and she can try to move past it and rebuild her life.

@Slumberdoon

I’ve not read the whole thread to be fair...

OP has not been given a hard time. She has had an honest assessment of the legal landscape which she hasn’t liked, but it has been delivered with honesty, kindness and sympathy. She has been quite rude to some posters for no good reason other than she is understandably very troubled.

We are mainly women on here, of course posters would not be giving a hard time to someone that has suffered DV. 😢

I don't think that there is any point in continuing to try to explain to the OP that she has no case. That has been explained at least 50 times on here. I would just offer sympathy at this point as she has failed to understand what has been explained numerous times.

OP, you really would get more justice by allowing yourself to let it go.

Hello everyone. We're going to close this thread to further posts now as we don't think it's helping anyone, least of all the OP.

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