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DD using tarot cards

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silverjackal · 18/02/2021 14:08

I've made it very clear to my DD that I don't approve of her getting involved in tarot readings, divination, etc. and I certainly don't want her bringing home tarot decks. She went ahead and bought three (!!) decks without my permission, using the money I gave her for emergencies.

This happened a couple of months ago, but she only told me she bought them last week. According to her they "help her" and she's using them to inform her A Level options of all things! (I genuinely don't know if she's joking.)

I told her she has to get rid of them and she reacted very angrily, but I honestly don't know what else she expects? She bought them without my permission, using her emergency money, and seems to have an unhealthy dependency on them.

If anyone has advice I'd appreciate it.

OP posts:
Thatwentbadly · 18/02/2021 14:10

She shouldn’t have spent the emergency money for that I would be removing the cards and make her pay back the money but at 15/16 she shouldn’t need your permission to buy them.

AnnLouiseB · 18/02/2021 14:12

I think the only thing you have a right to be annoyed about was her using emergency money. Otherwise you’re being controlling and overbearing about a daft but ultimately harmless hobby. Lots of people use tarot cards as an aid to meditation, so you can see why she might find it helpful while ruminating over gcse choices.

Does she have pocket money or an allowance? Just wondering why she used ‘emergency funds’ rather than her own money.

ooohbriefcase · 18/02/2021 14:13

I told her she has to get rid of them and she reacted very angrily, but I honestly don't know what else she expects?

If she's a level age, she should be able use her own money for what she wants. They're tarot cards not crack cocaine. She doesn't have to get rid of something just because you told her too. If she didn't like something you owned that you bought with your own money and she told you you HAD to get rid, you wouldn't take any notice.

OrigamiOwl · 18/02/2021 14:15

Using the emergency money isn't acceptable, but she shouldn't your permission to buy them (with her own money).

BonesJones · 18/02/2021 14:15

Well you are weirdly controlling!

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 18/02/2021 14:15

You outright banned something, pretty harmless, that she is interested in. Of course she went behind your back and bought them and hid it from you.

Choose your battles wisely or you'll turn everything into one.

DahliaRoses · 18/02/2021 14:16

Lighten up, it’s only a bit of fun- she’s hardly summoning the devil!

lazylinguist · 18/02/2021 14:16

Confused Obviously they're a load of nonsense, and she shouldn't have used emergency money, but generally a teenager should be able to spend their money on what they want, however silly it is, as long as it's not dangerous, illegal or offensive.

limpingparrot · 18/02/2021 14:19

We used to do tarot readings with our GCSE English teacher before the lesson started.

Devlesko · 18/02/2021 14:20

I'm a tarot reader, what is your problem with it?
I have a lot of 18 year olds asking for readings and if she's looking at A level choices she must be 16?

I wish mine was interested, not to an unhealthy level but as another string to her bow.

I think sometimes people have the wrong idea about tarot and think it's something evil, but it's a faith like anything else.

UrAWizHarry · 18/02/2021 14:21

If she used emergency money then yes you can be annoyed about that.

The cards themselves are harmless nonsense though. You can't summon imaginary demons using mass produced shite.

Bmidreams · 18/02/2021 14:21

Oh god, I remember dream dictionaries and horoscope diaries! We were so desperate to know our future. She's wrong for spending your money though.

PlinkPlink · 18/02/2021 14:22

I would suggest you guide her towards her heart on that one rather than pieces of card with pictures on them. Because that's what you banned - adult Pokemon cards 🤨

I loved stuff like that when I was her age. I loved Wicca and Paganism and when I finally got to uni, I was free to explore that and find myself.

It helped me in many ways. And I learnt about that religion and many other religions... it was very broadening.

I'm not a pagan now. I don't consult tarot cards. But I carry alot of the wisdom that went with it. I remember alot of the celtic history (which is pertinent to my heritage)...
But in time, the fascination wore off and I stopped.

If you ban something that isn't worth banning, you're going to make it more fascinating to her.

As above, pick your battles.

Sparklfairy · 18/02/2021 14:23

They're tarot cards, it's not a ouija board Hmm

They can be useful for reflection purposes and looking at things from different angles. You're being controlling and ridiculous.

HeidiHaughton · 18/02/2021 14:24

I advise you to let your daughter have an interest that's harmless. This is not worth making a fuss over.

BrumBoo · 18/02/2021 14:25

Spending emergency money on crap is rude and silly.

Teenager spending money on general crap, I mean that's what they do. She might as well have bought Top Trumps or Uno cards for what they're worth (at least they're fun).

ClangingChimesofDoom · 18/02/2021 14:26

Honestly, its not worth getting yourself het up over it.
At that age I would have spent the emergency money on vodka so you must be doing something right Smile

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 18/02/2021 14:26

You'd have thought she might have forseen this issue...

MerryDecembermas · 18/02/2021 14:26

Get a grip. I used Tarot cards age 17 to 24ish and they massively helped me grow into adulthood. Yes some people put a load of woo bollocks around it but at its heart Tarot is a psychological tool that can be incredibly helpful.

ChaToilLeam · 18/02/2021 14:27

You created the situation by making such a song and dance and forbidding her to have the cards. She shouldn’t have used emergency money but otherwise I can’t see the harm, it’s just superstition. I was the same at that age and wisely, my parents just nodded and said “That’s nice, dear”.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 18/02/2021 14:28

She shouldn't have spent the emergency money.

I think you're being ridiculously OTT about not letting her have tarot cards though. Obviously they're a crock of shit but it's harmless really.

TwirpingBird · 18/02/2021 14:28

@ClangingChimesofDoom

Honestly, its not worth getting yourself het up over it. At that age I would have spent the emergency money on vodka so you must be doing something right Smile
I agree. It could be much worse OP. Leave her to the tarot cards. She isnt doing any harm.

I would be peeved about the emergency money. But her own money, she should be able to spend as she pleases. She is nearly an adult.

combatbarbie · 18/02/2021 14:29

Are they tarot cards or angel cards? Either way I don't get the problem, they don't summon spirits 🙄

CanofCant · 18/02/2021 14:30

I remember my mum reacting like this when my brother brought a copy of the satanic bible into the house when he was a young teenager.

She had been brought up Catholic and though she was no longer practicing she couldn't shake off the fear that had been instilled in her as a young child. I was surprised at how strongly she felt.

Do you feel the way you do because of a religious belief? Tarot cards seem to be quite mainstream now with everyone trying their hand at them.

sunflowersandbuttercups · 18/02/2021 14:30

Spending the emergency money was silly.

But otherwise, why does it matter? Tarot cards aren't used to summon the devil!