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DD using tarot cards

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silverjackal · 18/02/2021 14:08

I've made it very clear to my DD that I don't approve of her getting involved in tarot readings, divination, etc. and I certainly don't want her bringing home tarot decks. She went ahead and bought three (!!) decks without my permission, using the money I gave her for emergencies.

This happened a couple of months ago, but she only told me she bought them last week. According to her they "help her" and she's using them to inform her A Level options of all things! (I genuinely don't know if she's joking.)

I told her she has to get rid of them and she reacted very angrily, but I honestly don't know what else she expects? She bought them without my permission, using her emergency money, and seems to have an unhealthy dependency on them.

If anyone has advice I'd appreciate it.

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SchrodingersImmigrant · 18/02/2021 15:43

@user54328876 gosh no. Firstly, they were open minded, secondly, not religious bone in our house. I think that would play role too a little.

Yes, tv does get these things out there a lot.

WhySoSensitive · 18/02/2021 15:44

Maybe you should ask her about them and have a reading.
Open your lovely narrow minded eyes to something she finds comfort in.

bluebellscorner · 18/02/2021 15:44

OP in principle I agree with you, your house your rules etc, and it’s also unacceptable that your DD used emergency money for her purchases.

To put your mind at ease, please read up a bit on the cards. The Devil doesn’t necessarily symbolise the actual devil, the card has a meaning beyond this and isn’t necessarily a ‘bad’ card. Same with death- it can symbolise new beginnings etc - and the hanged man - wisdom.

I don’t own any cards and I don’t consult anyone for readings or similar but I know about the cards as my sister was into them and used to do readings for us back in the day. I find them very interesting but it’s not for me

BidensWingWoman · 18/02/2021 15:45

So she used emergency money.

Does she have access to money outwith money for emergencies? If she does, then yeah, you are right to be annoyed. If thats the only money she gets though, then she's going to spend it on things she wants.

BabyBee93 · 18/02/2021 15:45

@TwilightSkies

it's rather the fact that a child is consulting cards which explicitly depict 'death', 'the devil' and 'the hanged man' to name a few.

You should google the meaning behind those cards. They’re symbolical, not literal. Kind of like the bible Wink

👏👏👏 this made me LAUGH

OP you're being a bit silly. They're just cards and you'll push her further in their direction the more you try and keep her away...that's teenager 101 Wink

pigsDOfly · 18/02/2021 15:47

At that age two of my kids were goths.

Teenagers go through phases, they often find things that they think are a bit 'out there' attractive. It's generally harmless.

Can't see her coming to any harm with a few packs of Tarot cards.

AryaStarkWolf · 18/02/2021 15:47

@Sparklfairy

They're tarot cards, it's not a ouija board Hmm

They can be useful for reflection purposes and looking at things from different angles. You're being controlling and ridiculous.

Even if it was a Ouija board, it's not real fgs Grin
Cccc1111 · 18/02/2021 15:47

Harmless at that age. I was interested in that kind of stuff at that age. I also had a book about how to create circles of protection when I was a little younger than that - I found it interesting, but reading it also randomly scared the crap out of me to ever try anything beyond tarot cards, palmistry and reading tea leaves.

Lovemusic33 · 18/02/2021 15:48

I think she's old enough to make her own choice. I own tarot cards and do readings for friends for a bit of fun, I don't see the issue as long as your dd doesn't make big decisions based on the cards drawn.

rooarsome · 18/02/2021 15:49

She could be exploring archetypes, which is not against Christian teaching. Did you know that tarot informed a lot of 15th century holy practices?

Wedlock · 18/02/2021 15:49

@pigsDOfly

At that age two of my kids were goths.

Teenagers go through phases, they often find things that they think are a bit 'out there' attractive. It's generally harmless.

Can't see her coming to any harm with a few packs of Tarot cards.

There aren't enough goths around these days. I miss them.
Lovemusic33 · 18/02/2021 15:50

At that age I was messing with ouija boards and carried on until I was 18/19 (would probably do it now). Tarot cards are pretty harmless.

KarensChoppyBob · 18/02/2021 15:50

It's all linked isn't it? Like the Pagan celebrations being reinvented as Christian festivals.

jambeforeclottedcream · 18/02/2021 15:50

Yabu

If you hadn't dragged your heels and banned her from buying them in the first place she wouldn't have used her emergency money in the first place

Also as others have said they're tarot cards not illegal drugs & alcohol

SchrodingersImmigrant · 18/02/2021 15:51

Even if it was a Ouija board, it's not real fgs grin

👀 That's a ploy by the evil spirits. Don't you know? So people would mess about with it and released them.
Like Twilight was a ploy by vampires to get young people joining willingly. Shine like a diamond in a sunlight my arse. All a trick, I tell ya!

amixedbag · 18/02/2021 15:51

Wouldn't you rather your DD use tarot cards to trigger a bit of self reflection and introspection and self-knowing, independent of whether they work or not - rather than "using" something else?

draughtycatflap · 18/02/2021 15:53

The next time she ‘consults’ the decks put on a fright wig and run about like you are possessed. If she takes umbrage tell her the devil told you to piss on her breakfast.

DishingOutDone · 18/02/2021 15:54

God help you then OP with that sort of attitude. I take it you’re not a Catholic if that sort of imagery upsets you ...!

Wedlock · 18/02/2021 15:55

She'll be consulting her magic 8 ball too.

'is my mother ridiculous?'

'it is decidedly so'

Toomanybedrooms · 18/02/2021 15:55

Let her have her own beliefs.
I think you’re being controlling!

FolkyFoxFace · 18/02/2021 15:55

At that age I was a goth, heavily into the Anne Rice books, and my best friend and I made ouija boards, built alters, and had loads of tarot cards.

Neither of us remotely believed in it at the time, but it was fun. The objects were beautiful and it was something different, plus good for a weekend scare. We're now perfectly well adjusted adults with husbands, families, and careers.

The best thing my parents did was allow and even mildly encourage it all - they knew it was just a bit of fun, and that it would have pushed me into myself and away from them if they'd acted the way you are. Teenagers need individuality - leave her alone and stop being a misery!

Biscoffaddict · 18/02/2021 15:55

My DM bought me my first deck of tarot cards. Get a bloody grip OP, they are just a bit of fun!

malmi · 18/02/2021 15:57

Ouija is actually a Hasbro board game suitable for ages 8 and over ( shop.hasbro.com/en-us/product/ouija-game:86117134-5056-9047-F5E1-46EB2553A56A ).

I'm sure your teenage daughter is going to be fine messing about with tarot cards.

speakout · 18/02/2021 15:59

What are you afraid of OP?

binkyblinky · 18/02/2021 15:59

OP, perhaps take an interest in your daughter's interests instead of preaching something you clearly know nothing about.

You sound horrible and controlling. Your poor daughter.

P.s - also a Christian -your daughter isn't summoning up Satan, she is trying to find her way in an already confusing world. Stay with her, support her, or you'll lose her.