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Original poster

To report her Covid breach?

342 replies

ArabellaRockerfella · 15/02/2021 00:19

I admit I'm a bit bitter and prone to thoughts of revenge so I could do with some rational thoughts here.
My recently ex husband has a new girlfriend. She records her and her child's life on Facebook. It's all on public, no filters!
In January her parents drove 300miles to visit her for 'much needed cuddles'
She has just driven 300 miles with her child to visit them for a half term break. It's all mud masks and lovely walks and mummy time!
It's really grinding my gears! When some of us are playing by the rules and not driving 10 miles to see our loved ones.
I really want to report her as I know her address, car reg etc.
All public on Facebook!
To report a Covid breach though you have to give your own details and my ex has a temper! I don't want my name to be implicated.
Should I just leave it alone and get a life?
What would you do?

OP posts:
Veuvestar · 15/02/2021 00:22

Presumably she’s a single person household? Maybe she needs support, you really don’t know

FlibbertyGiblets · 15/02/2021 00:22

Honestly block her on Facebook. Then you can't look. Don't waste any more energy on her choices.

MissMarpleDarling · 15/02/2021 00:22

Report

12frogsincoats · 15/02/2021 00:23

Yes. Get a life.

jeaux90 · 15/02/2021 00:25

It's a single adult household. She is allowed.

Also, get a life.

SquirtleSquad · 15/02/2021 00:25

Bitter.. your words, not mine.

Mockolate · 15/02/2021 00:25

YABU.
You don't know her circumstances, just what you "think" you know and say yourself you're prone to revenge Hmm Biscuit
She could be in a support bubble for all you know, pretty [angry[ to cause shit and upset just because you're "bitter" and "out for revenge."

Mockolate · 15/02/2021 00:26

@jeaux90

It's a single adult household. She is allowed.

Also, get a life.

Also this - if it's a single person household, with a young baby/child, you're allowed a support bubble. Butt out and leave alone.
OrigamiOwl · 15/02/2021 00:27

Sounds like she's a single parent household (unless your ex lives with her?). If she is the only adult in the house she is entitled to a support bubble.

I think I'd block her in Facebook and leave it. It's very hard for officials to prove covid breaches as the law woolie (what's essential, single parents household as an excuse, caring for a parent etc...)

SuperHighway · 15/02/2021 00:27

What has she done to you that you want revenge for? Just leave it OP.

Beaniecats · 15/02/2021 00:28

Please don't

firesidetartan · 15/02/2021 00:29

Should I just leave it alone and get a life?

God yes. Absolutely.

Why are you looking at her Facebook page in the first place Confused

Gra18 · 15/02/2021 00:29

I really dislike this; in that people are using covid as a way at getting at people. I wouldn’t report her, you don’t know her situation.

It looks like you ex husband is moving on and maybe you should try to as well. You are only upsetting yourself.

RootyT00t · 15/02/2021 00:29

@jeaux90

It's a single adult household. She is allowed.

Also, get a life.

She is not allowed to have someone drive 300 miles - you also do not know that she is a single adult household.

But OP you do need to block her.

Original poster
ArabellaRockerfella · 15/02/2021 00:30

What is considered a support bubble?
She has been driving 20 miles to spend every other week with my ex.
How many support bubbles can you have?
And 300 miles to see your mum? Really is that ok?
I know I do probably need to get a life and get off Facebook.
Thats the problem when you've been left for a newer model. :(

OP posts:
JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows · 15/02/2021 00:30

I totally get why you have the urge to - I'm also feeling "why the fuck are you allowed to do that and I have to stay inside" - but it won't end well. Not to put too fine a point on it - but you will only come out of it looking like the bitter ex, even if you're not. It's never good to be the bitter ex

RootyT00t · 15/02/2021 00:31

@ArabellaRockerfella

What is considered a support bubble? She has been driving 20 miles to spend every other week with my ex. How many support bubbles can you have? And 300 miles to see your mum? Really is that ok? I know I do probably need to get a life and get off Facebook. Thats the problem when you've been left for a newer model. :(
Her mum drove to see her.

OP, you are so bitter about this. Would you want to report if she wasn't with your ex?

JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows · 15/02/2021 00:31

Thats the problem when you've been left for a newer model. :(

Thanks

I've been there and get the insatiable desire for revenge. But don't do it OP. You're better than that.

SquirtleSquad · 15/02/2021 00:32

She can have a support bubble and a childcare bubble. The two don't have to be the same bubble household.

RootyT00t · 15/02/2021 00:32

How do you know her car reg OP?

RootyT00t · 15/02/2021 00:32

@SquirtleSquad

She can have a support bubble and a childcare bubble. The two don't have to be the same bubble household.
Not 300 miles away she can't.
jeaux90 · 15/02/2021 00:32

watch the Adam Wagner videos on the law/guidance there is nothing in there that says you can't have a support bubble over x miles away for example.

BogRollBOGOF · 15/02/2021 00:33

It plausibly sounds like a single parent support bubble, so nothing concrete to report at all

Block and concenteate on your own life.

Original poster
ArabellaRockerfella · 15/02/2021 00:34

@RootyT00t

How do you know her car reg OP?
She has no filters on her social media! All there for the world to see!!
OP posts:
RootyT00t · 15/02/2021 00:34

Right.

I assume you're not friends with her on facebook though.