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To report her Covid breach?

342 replies

ArabellaRockerfella · 15/02/2021 00:19

I admit I'm a bit bitter and prone to thoughts of revenge so I could do with some rational thoughts here.
My recently ex husband has a new girlfriend. She records her and her child's life on Facebook. It's all on public, no filters!
In January her parents drove 300miles to visit her for 'much needed cuddles'
She has just driven 300 miles with her child to visit them for a half term break. It's all mud masks and lovely walks and mummy time!
It's really grinding my gears! When some of us are playing by the rules and not driving 10 miles to see our loved ones.
I really want to report her as I know her address, car reg etc.
All public on Facebook!
To report a Covid breach though you have to give your own details and my ex has a temper! I don't want my name to be implicated.
Should I just leave it alone and get a life?
What would you do?

OP posts:
Emeraldshamrock · 15/02/2021 01:09

How many times a day are you looking her up From tomorrow none, you can do this.

Mally2020 · 15/02/2021 01:23

most of you clearly do not understand the rules and are stupid. No she cannot travel 300 miles even to 'build a bubble' it has to be in same area. Report her.

jazz1995 · 15/02/2021 01:27

You sound like my neighbour Hmm

I’m 25 with a 13 month old DD facing being taken to court by her dad who insisted he wanted nothing to do with her after being harassed by his mother and having to get the police involved. It hasn’t been fun.

DD woke up at 4am yesterday full of cold and was crying her head off. I had to get my best friend (who is my support bubble) to come and console her for an hour so I could have a bath and refresh because I was close to a nervous breakdown.

My neighbour gave us both all sorts of abuse when she left saying she was “calling the police”

You never know what’s going on behind closed doors.

Mind your fucking business.

Mally2020 · 15/02/2021 01:30

@jazz1995 not really the same though is it?? if your bestfriend is coming from the same area as a single parent and you are confident they are not positive that is fine but not from 300 miles away or outside the same city, especially not to put a child at risk,

MrsT777 · 15/02/2021 01:30

@jeaux90

It's a single adult household. She is allowed.

Also, get a life.

Not 300 miles away she isn’t!!!
jazz1995 · 15/02/2021 01:33

Mally- what if she doesn’t have any friends locally? I lived in London until DD was 7 weeks old and moved because I knew a lockdown was coming. If I didn’t- I would be stuck on my own in a city where yes I had friends but not like the ones I can rely on where I am now.

For all we know her parents are they only friends she has

Inkpaperstars · 15/02/2021 01:38

I may be wrong but I don’t think she can have both OP’s ex and her parents as a support bubble.

I wouldn’t report though, just because of the dynamic here and who she is to you...I think you will end up regretting it and feeling worse.

She does sound annoying and careless though re both Covid and social media. Your ex has not found himself any prize here.

You will get through this OP x

TrickorTreacle · 15/02/2021 01:39

@ArabellaRockerfella - No, not a friend.

Then why you friends with this OW on Facebook?

angelfacecuti75 · 15/02/2021 01:45

Er. She is allowed to visit her kids . You can do this i thought without reproach .
Its not up for discussion.
She is a single parent household too so she will be allowed a support bubble too.
Whether he is your ex, she is a cow, and he is a baalamb (/word that sounds like it vaguely), it is none of your business.
So what ? She visited her daughter.
She didn't commit murder in the 2nd degree .
My advice : block her , move on with your life however hard the break up was , resentment and jealousy wi not serve you well, eat you up inside and mar any chances of your own happiness.

angelfacecuti75 · 15/02/2021 01:46

Will*
I said my comment in your interests op, not to offend .

jazz1995 · 15/02/2021 01:51

It doesn’t say whether or not she is physically seeing OPs ex at the moment though? And even if she is- I’m still saying go easy!

As a single parent if I ever meet someone it will be a long long time before I rely on their support to help with my DD! Call me dramatic but for all we know they have been together for 5 minutes and it isn’t unreasonable for a single parent to want support from someone they can trust and rely on! And a new relationship isn’t the place for that.

OP I’m sorry but think you need to get over your ex and stop stalking his girlfriend on Facebook.

PeggyHill · 15/02/2021 01:52

I would report her if the issue is that you genuinely are concerned about this "covid breach" and would do the same in any other situation with someone who isn't your ex's new partner.

If you're just sitting there feeling bitter and resentful then I would just block her on social media and put it out of your head. Move on from it.

Mally2020 · 15/02/2021 01:59

jazz1995 it really doesn't matter, I live in london to finish my studying and continue work atm and I don't have any friends or family here , just don't break the rules it's selfish.

Mally2020 · 15/02/2021 02:00

angelfacecuti75 not 300 miles away, people like you are causing this lockdown to extend.

Mally2020 · 15/02/2021 02:01

angelfacecuti75 and yes putting people in a different city at risk of a deadly virus is essentially intended manslaughter jesus christ.

jazz1995 · 15/02/2021 02:03

Are you a single parent Mally?

Not to mention we haven’t got a fucking clue what’s going on in this family’s personal life.

PeggyHill · 15/02/2021 02:05

Whether he is your ex, she is a cow, and he is a baalamb (/word that sounds like it vaguely), it is none of your business

I am intrigued... baalamb?

donewithitalltodayandxmas · 15/02/2021 02:07

I wouldn't report but she can't have a support bubble with op ex and her parents , and not childcare either as someone suggested , she is breaking rules lets not pretend .
You can only have one bubble

katy1213 · 15/02/2021 02:07

Get a life, as others have said. He's your ex - he's entitled to have a girlfriend. Which is what's really bugging you.

donewithitalltodayandxmas · 15/02/2021 02:11

Get a life, as others have said. He's your ex - he's entitled to have a girlfriend. Which is what's really bugging you

Maybe read all op had put and you might understand why

jazz1995 · 15/02/2021 02:17

@donewithitalltodayandxmas

Get a life, as others have said. He's your ex - he's entitled to have a girlfriend. Which is what's really bugging you

Maybe read all op had put and you might understand why

Not sure what your trying to say? By her own Admission OP is bitter and unless she comes back and drip feeds that her husband was having an affair with this woman and her child is actually her child as well she needs to grow the fuck up and move on with her life.
jazz1995 · 15/02/2021 02:18

Not to mention OP I don’t think you can get away with this without making yourself out to be a stalker.

Ex will ask how you found out and when you reply “oh I went on her Facebook” he will (rightly) call you a stalker.

donewithitalltodayandxmas · 15/02/2021 02:24

@jazz1995 well she is breaking rules though, seeing Op ex dh and visiting parents , you can't have too bubbles , what if we all did that , would that be ok ?

donewithitalltodayandxmas · 15/02/2021 02:25

@jazz1995 how would they know who reported , don't think the police will tell

jazz1995 · 15/02/2021 02:26

@donewithitalltodayandxmas you can’t report anonymously.

If you were a single parents in a brand new relationship- I say yes.