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To report her Covid breach?

342 replies

ArabellaRockerfella · 15/02/2021 00:19

I admit I'm a bit bitter and prone to thoughts of revenge so I could do with some rational thoughts here.
My recently ex husband has a new girlfriend. She records her and her child's life on Facebook. It's all on public, no filters!
In January her parents drove 300miles to visit her for 'much needed cuddles'
She has just driven 300 miles with her child to visit them for a half term break. It's all mud masks and lovely walks and mummy time!
It's really grinding my gears! When some of us are playing by the rules and not driving 10 miles to see our loved ones.
I really want to report her as I know her address, car reg etc.
All public on Facebook!
To report a Covid breach though you have to give your own details and my ex has a temper! I don't want my name to be implicated.
Should I just leave it alone and get a life?
What would you do?

OP posts:
donewithitalltodayandxmas · 15/02/2021 03:32

@jazz1995 not if you choose to not be listed on it ,

donewithitalltodayandxmas · 15/02/2021 03:36

After all this time do people still
Not understand childcare bubbles and their purpose and they are not for socialising ??

StephenBelafonte · 15/02/2021 04:57

Get a life. And stop facebook stalking your ex and his new girlfriend.

brownet · 15/02/2021 06:08

After all this time do people stil lNot understand childcare bubbles and their purpose and they are not for socialising ??

Apparently not

brownet · 15/02/2021 06:09

It's completely normal to FB stalk however it's not healthy & I would stop. I wouldn't report because you just need to try & remove yourself from the situation.

Orchidflower1 · 15/02/2021 06:30

@ArabellaRockerfella

So sorry you’re in this situation.
If you report, they will not know who did it- it’s no different to reporting another crime. Tbh if the new gf is so public with her breaches it’s a wonder she’s not already been reported.

BonnieDundee · 15/02/2021 06:40

Thats the problem when you've been left for a newer model

You dont need revenge. If hes got a temper, they have both done you a great favour.

namechangefail2020 · 15/02/2021 06:41

Bless you, sounds rubbish for you but as everyone has said for it's not worth it. I'm also getting annoyed with all the single people I see with numerous bubbles. They seem to think living alone means you do what you want because you're so hard done by. They actually end up seeing more people than those of us with a family but sticking to the rules. Very annoying

NerrSnerr · 15/02/2021 06:50

@SquirtleSquad

She can have a support bubble and a childcare bubble. The two don't have to be the same bubble household.
She hasn't left the children with the grandparents- she's there as well socialising with them so it can't be a childcare bubble.
NerrSnerr · 15/02/2021 06:51

@tangoboxing

Not 300 miles away she can't.

^ yup she can. There is no distance defined in law for any bubble.

She is already in a bubble with OP's ex though so it doesn't matter about distance- she shouldn't be in another bubble.
NerrSnerr · 15/02/2021 06:55

@jazz1995

It doesn’t say whether or not she is physically seeing OPs ex at the moment though? And even if she is- I’m still saying go easy!

As a single parent if I ever meet someone it will be a long long time before I rely on their support to help with my DD! Call me dramatic but for all we know they have been together for 5 minutes and it isn’t unreasonable for a single parent to want support from someone they can trust and rely on! And a new relationship isn’t the place for that.

OP I’m sorry but think you need to get over your ex and stop stalking his girlfriend on Facebook.

In an update the OP said she is driving to spend every other weekend with the OP's ex.
CupoTeap · 15/02/2021 06:56

Please block her for your own good. Start a thread on relationships to talk instead of looking at her fb

wanderings · 15/02/2021 06:58

You’ll get far more people on your side if you post this in the Coronavirus topic, where it should be. (Although even there, the snitches are starting to become unpopular.)

NerrSnerr · 15/02/2021 07:03

@emilyfrost which one is the childcare bubble? Going to visit the OP's ex every other weekend or doing face masks with her mum?

This is one of the reasons there were still big infection rates during this lockdown because people have been seeing who they want, mixing with multiple households and just telling everyone they're in bubbles. So many selfish idiots who don't give a shit about others.

Borisjohnsonshairbrush · 15/02/2021 07:09

Please dont op.

My dps ex caused so much stress and made life a misery. I still despise her 6years later. Be the bigger person

Bookwords · 15/02/2021 07:12

Honestly you need to keep off FB. It's making you feel awful.

Hadjab · 15/02/2021 07:12

I'm not bored, I'm a front line worker. That's what makes me more angry

Be honest, being a frontline worker has absolutely fuck all to do with it. If you’re going to report anyone for anything, then maybe direct your ire at your ex...

FrostyChocolateMilkshake · 15/02/2021 07:14

OP I think you're getting a really hard time on here. Anyone else in your situation would feel bitter too - good on you for admitting you feel bitter and want revenge!
However if I were you I would not report this woman - you probably wouldn't want to report her if she was a friend or colleague? I would swiftly block her on Facebook. What you don't know won't hurt you.
Sorry you're going through this Flowers

brownet · 15/02/2021 07:29

My dps ex caused so much stress and made life a misery. I still despise her 6years later. Be the bigger person

I don't understand this, why are you comparing the OP to your dp's ex? Did she report you for lockdown breaches?

GiveMeNovocain · 15/02/2021 07:29

I'm sorry you're unhappy about your relationship ending but the police aren't there to help exact revenge on people who we don't like. As a front line worker I'm sure you hate people who abuse public resources.

brownet · 15/02/2021 07:32

Be honest, being a frontline worker has absolutely fuck all to do with it*

Doesn't it? One of my friends is an a&e doctor & is really upset when she sees neighbours breaking rules.

If you’re going to report anyone for anything, then maybe direct your ire at your ex..

Is the ex breaking lockdown?

SquirtleSquad · 15/02/2021 07:34

@brownet

Be honest, being a frontline worker has absolutely fuck all to do with it*

Doesn't it? One of my friends is an a&e doctor & is really upset when she sees neighbours breaking rules.

If you’re going to report anyone for anything, then maybe direct your ire at your ex..

Is the ex breaking lockdown?

She's not frontline NHS, she's a primary school teacher according to all of her other posts..
brownet · 15/02/2021 07:40

I'm sorry you're unhappy about your relationship ending but the police aren't there to help exact revenge on people who we don't like. As a front line worker I'm sure you hate people who abuse public resources.

This doesn't make sense. How is the OP wasting public resources?
Are you in England? Covid breaches & the associated fines are a thing? Have you not seen any press stories?

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.bbc.co.uk/news/amp/uk-england-nottinghamshire-55963093

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.kentlive.news/news/kent-news/absurd-ways-people-been-caught-5003710.amp

I don't think the OP should report but to pretend that what the OW is doing is fine & the OP is a time waster is nonsense.

brownet · 15/02/2021 07:42

She's not frontline NHS, she's a primary school teacher according to all of her other posts..

And? So it's ok for a NHS worker to be annoyed by it?

I wfh & am very little risk so how can I judge others who are more exposed getting annoyed?

OverTheRainbow88 · 15/02/2021 07:44

Our neighbours packed up their bags and car and went to their holiday home this morning for half term... annoying, yes. Would I report it? no.

And we have a new variant of concern here.