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ArabellaRockerfella · 2021-02-15T00:19:51+00:00

I admit I'm a bit bitter and prone to thoughts of revenge so I could do with some rational thoughts here. My recently ex husband has a new girlfriend. She records her and her child's life on Facebook. It's all on public, no filters! In January her parents drove 300miles to visit her for 'much needed cuddles' She has just driven 300 miles with her child to visit them for a half term break. It's all mud masks and lovely walks and mummy time! It's really grinding my gears! When some of us are playing by the rules and not driving 10 miles to see our loved ones. I really want to report her as I know her address, car reg etc. All public on Facebook! To report a Covid breach though you have to give your own details and my ex has a temper! I don't want my name to be implicated. Should I just leave it alone and get a life? What would you do?

Bluntness100 · 15/02/2021 18:04

I understand you wanting revenge but she's the wrong person, it was your ex who cheated on you, not this woman

The op hasn’t really clarified this. If he was cheating. Clearly he ended it. I get she said she was left for a younger model, but as she doesn’t seem to know who that was, it’s possible that wasn’t the case.

Because she’d know. She’d know exactly who the younger woman was. It it wouldn’t be someone he got together with years later.

Suzi888 · 15/02/2021 18:13

I very much a support bubble is 300 miles away! she shouldn’t be doing what she’s doing BUT it’s not healthy for you to be looking at her fb. If you report, your ex is likely to be livid which you don’t want. It’s a bit of a no win situation really isn’t it. You’ll probably end up sending her a friend request by accident if you keep looking her up.

Suzi888 · 15/02/2021 18:14

*doubt

OfTheNight · 15/02/2021 18:29

@ArabellaRockerfella - ignore all the shitty posts, stop sucking lemons etc. Some on here cannot wait to tear each other up, especially when you’re feeling shit already.

It is shit. It really fucking hurts. It makes you feel, why wasn’t I good enough? And when you’ve spent your time looking after the kids and how they manage it, sorting out the practical side, dealing with the other family and friends you might not have had time or inclination to think about you. He’s made you feel shit, so you might (if you are anything like me) feel you don’t deserve to move forward. You might feel scared to leave the hurt behind because that’s the last remaining thread of a situation that you felt happy and secure in. Counselling isn’t always a silver bullet either.

So be nice to yourself OP. You know reporting her wouldn’t be a good move, so you’re not. Fucking good on you! You are realising that you need to step away from him and this woman. Fucking good in you. You are thinking about how to challenge an unhelpful mindset. Fucking good on you - keep that shit up. Seriously well done, positive steps.

Dontjumptoconclusions · 15/02/2021 18:34

In answer to your other question OP, you can give your name etc when you report someone but the police don't tell the offender when/if they visit.

I reported my neighbours, twice during covid earlier in 2020. I absolutely hated them and have since moved. They breached all sorts of violations and when the police visited their house, both times they were in the midst of breaking the rules.

The police just told them that they had been reported but didn't say from who,and got on with the investigation. Sadly no fine though.

42goingon90 · 15/02/2021 18:38

All this fuss and she wasn't even the other woman! You want 'revenge' on her for the crime of entering into a relationship with a man who has an ex? Bloody hell.

42goingon90 · 15/02/2021 18:41

@Crankley

Please listen to the good advice you've been given and ignore the pathetic, curtain twitching busybodies on here who obviously have empty lives.

You are only hurting yourself by looking at her FB and it's irrelevant if she puts everything on FB and has no filters.

I understand you wanting revenge but she's the wrong person, it was your ex who cheated on you, not this woman.

So posters are curtain twitching busy bodies for responding to a post asking for opinions, but OP isn't, despite FB stalking and finding out the address and car number plate of a woman who has done nothing to her but dare to date her ex husband? I'd love some more insight into your logic here.

SnackSizeRaisin · 15/02/2021 19:16

Seeing close family is surely pretty normal and a lot of people are doing it. I know of plenty anyway. It's hardly the same as having a party. Yes maybe bending the rules - but you don't know her mother's situation - maybe her mental health is poor. Or maybe they've both had covid already and feel it's safe.
Stupid of her to put it on Facebook though.

FedUp79 · 15/02/2021 21:18

I get you’re upset but in the grand scheme of things would dobbing her into the cops really achieve anything? Focus on yourself and those close to you rather than what this woman is doing. Take care

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ArabellaRockerfella · 15/02/2021 23:30

[quote OfTheNight]@ArabellaRockerfella - ignore all the shitty posts, stop sucking lemons etc. Some on here cannot wait to tear each other up, especially when you’re feeling shit already.

It is shit. It really fucking hurts. It makes you feel, why wasn’t I good enough? And when you’ve spent your time looking after the kids and how they manage it, sorting out the practical side, dealing with the other family and friends you might not have had time or inclination to think about you. He’s made you feel shit, so you might (if you are anything like me) feel you don’t deserve to move forward. You might feel scared to leave the hurt behind because that’s the last remaining thread of a situation that you felt happy and secure in. Counselling isn’t always a silver bullet either.

So be nice to yourself OP. You know reporting her wouldn’t be a good move, so you’re not. Fucking good on you! You are realising that you need to step away from him and this woman. Fucking good in you. You are thinking about how to challenge an unhelpful mindset. Fucking good on you - keep that shit up. Seriously well done, positive steps.[/quote]
Thanks. You get it :(

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saffire · 15/02/2021 23:45

Why are you obsessing over her? Get over it, move on or you're going to do yourself damage.

Your ex is your ex, let him live his live and you live yours. The greatest revenge is him seeing that you're happy and not giving a shit about him.

RootyT00t · 16/02/2021 20:34

@saffire

Why are you obsessing over her? Get over it, move on or you're going to do yourself damage.

Your ex is your ex, let him live his live and you live yours. The greatest revenge is him seeing that you're happy and not giving a shit about him.

Lots of empathy there.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 16/02/2021 20:39

Revenge for what though. What harm has she ever done to you. I know she’s with your Ex but that’s what he is an ex. Are you still holding a candle for him. It doesn’t make you the devil if you are

saffire · 18/02/2021 09:42

@RootyT00t I have empathy. I have been in the situation of being cheated on, so I know it's not healthy to be obsessed with who your ex is with now.

The best form of revenge is for your ex to see that you are happy and coping without them. Moving on with life, blocking the OW and not checking her SM everyday is the first step.

LadyOfLittleLeisure · 18/02/2021 09:46

Why do you have your ex husband's new girlfriend on Facebook?

RootyT00t · 18/02/2021 09:49

@LadyOfLittleLeisure

Why do you have your ex husband's new girlfriend on Facebook?

She doesn't

Mockolate · 18/02/2021 09:54

@LadyOfLittleLeisure

Why do you have your ex husband's new girlfriend on Facebook?

She doesn't, she's got public posts so she keeps going for a look.