AIBU - I moved a vase

[PineapplePrincess]

That’s it. I moved it. From the living room to the sitting area in the kitchen.

Cleared the kids stuff away, as no one had touched the stuff in over a year and they were collecting dust. Plug sock was visible, so arranged a lamp, vase and old fashioned phone in a way that would hide it and look nice.

Not wedded to it, but thought it would do till I find something better.

Of course husband lost the plot. Doesn’t like it. Okay fine, I asked him to suggest something better or said to just leave as is till we could maybe buy something - but no wasn’t happy.

Ended in a shouting match, as he’s trying to put the vase back - I’m trying to keep it where it is. Apparently I make all the decisions when it comes to decor (I don’t) and never consult him. I didn’t think we needed a conversation to move a bloody vase.

Really....?

Is it a sentimental vase?

Bizarre reaction

Is he controlling?

Nope, not sentimental. Bought it for £15 from a Xmas market (altho not really Xmassy) a few years back.

We had two, but the other broke without this much fuss.

Are you attached to the vase? If not, you could chuck it at his head!

He sounds like a prick.

Sounds way OTT then.

He sounds bananas. Does he often react like this?

What? Is he a bully in other aspects of your life too?

Why do you say 'of course he lost the plot' as if that's usual? It's really not.

Is he normally like this, or is this covid-related stress?

Wow 😳 I’m glad my partner gives no shits for how I arranged things. Yanbu, he is being silly,

@AfterSchoolWorry - generally no, but he can be funny about random stuff.

This is the second episode like this. We had one about a year or so ago where I’d been threatening to buy a radiator cover for the hall. Then finally did it (it was on offer at a whopping £15, looked simple but classic).

When it arrived he told me he didn’t want one. I thought he’d change his mind. I explained the price and that I would put it together and if it was awful it could go in the bin. I built it and it looked really nice and was quite practical for the space.

He hated it and told me. He didn’t speak to me for a week.

Everyone has their stress point - yours is The Vase. It could be a lot worse - i won't say how; but it's good to let rip your shit under stress.

YABU for asking - it's a vase, you're both UR, just smash it and laugh about it, together.

That’s a bit weird, I move stuff every few weeks. I get bored of looking at the same stuff. Neither my husband or daughter comment, they just roll their eyes and laugh. Neither could give a shit. My daughter will comment if she thinks something doesn’t work someplace, my husband couldn’t give a crap.

Is he making a point he doesn’t get a say?

He hated it and told me. He didn’t speak to me for a week

That’s just plain odd.

He didn’t speak to me for a week

I'd have divorced at this point.

OP that's really strange behaviour from your DP. You don't have to live where you're worried about being ignored because you've bought/moved stuff in your own house!

This is not normal behaviour from him but also why did you engage in a shouting match over something you didn't seem that fussed about.

I once bought a Xmas decoration without my EXH. This was brought up in an argument 10 years later. He's my ex now

How you can have any respect for him is beyond me. What a manchild.

He hated it and told me. He didn’t speak to me for a week

It’s not just odd. It’s controlling and abusive.

He sounds....... very Vase invested 👀

Is he controlling in other areas, or is it his house? Ie just his name on the deeds.? is he like this about other things? Where he can’t cope with changes?

What a weirdo