Crikey no, YANBU unreasonable at all. You have taken on the entire mental and family load. He works full time, but he’s acting like a 1950’s husband without any of the alpha male bits.
You can’t make your dh do these things. But I do feel using his mental health to do nothing is really unfair. We have to push ourselves. You are pushing yourself. What would happen if you did the same?
Who is looking after you? Who would look after you if you were taken ill?
And to the people, saying yabu. I am really surprised at some of these answers. Sahps usually get told their partners need to pull some weight around the house, let alone a mum of 3, who has worked for years and a dh, who doesn’t drive. It’s as though some people think teens don’t need parenting.... and they do just in different ways.... and it’s lockdown right now so they need it even more.
Off the top of my head, ops workload has increased. She’s there to motivate 3 teens at home and by the sound of it, her husband as well, caring for her her children’s and husband’s mental health (teen mental health is taking a bashing atm), ensuring everyone has the basics to study, helping out with studies, shopping more for food (she ‘s the only driver), communicating with the school, more housework overall.....
Ever since her children were born, every single trip to the dentist, doctor, hospital, hobby, activity, soft play centre, cinema, to take one of the children to meet a friend, to buy clothes and much more was made by op. And she works. This for 3, yes 3 children.
Yet 19% of people think op is bu I despair.