Does height matter to you? Short love interest

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So I'm seeing this guy who says he is 5ft8 and I'm 5ft 7. He's not, he's like a few inches shorter than me. Aibu for letting this out me off a bit/alot? I feel like a giant when we cuddle and like over powering idk. I only ever where healed shoes boots etc and love a nice pair of strappy heels I literally do not own one pair of flat shoes. The guy is really nice but my head can't seem to get over that I feel a bit uncomfortable that he's shorter than me. Help?

You like what you like and that's ok. Some women aren't bothered by height and some women are. A big part of physical attraction for me is a tall man so personally I won't compromise. In terms of other attributes lying is a massive turn off so lying about his height would be a double no.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4152931-would-you-date-someone-shorter

My DP is 5'3", same as me - in fact, I'm a tiny bit taller than him, which is a first for me

Personally I love the fact we're the same height, and although I've always gone for MUCH taller men in the past, there's something lovely about being with someone who's equally short.

Yet if it's a dealbreaker for you, then that's fine. You have every right to not enter into a dating scenario/relationship that doesn't suit you.

It would now. My second husband was slightly shorter than i (5'7"). He definitely had "little man" syndrome and was a bullying little nightmare, as I found out to my cost.

@bourbonne

All men lie about their height. There are basically three sizes of man, and it's vanity sizing:

"I'm 5'8"" = I'm 5'5" ish.

"I'm six foot" - I'm taller than you are (but not six foot)

The above two categories describe most men. Then there are actual tall men, who don't go on about their height.

Haha so true. My OH never mentioned his height when we spoke online..turns out he is over a foot taller than me at 6'5.

IME there is some truth in this!

www.thedailymash.co.uk/news/society/tall-man-thinks-its-an-achievement-20190215182505

It would put me off on initial impressions, shallow but that’s how I feel.

It's never bothered me. I've dated several people shorter than me. Most people I've dated have been within a couple inches of me (5'5").

However, I've never dated anyone thinner than me. I like a good set of shoulders (and thankfully did not regret that when having children as much as I feared ).

It's not unreasonable though personally if you really like the guy and this the only thing, maybe try different cuddling positions? I know when I've dated people with a significant height difference there has been some awkwardness in finding something where we're both comfortable.

Not for me. I don't think its something I even consciously think about, I just don't find short men attractive at all.

It's one thing not finding short men physically attractive, but some comments on here, and on the other recent thread, verge on a pathological dislike of them.

My husband is 5'8. Never really thought of him as short.

I struggle more with being fatter than him than him being a distinctly average height.

Absolutely no. It would feel like dating a child. If it bothers you enough to post then it's always going to bother you, if not now, then long term.

@CryingHelps

Absolutely no. It would feel like dating a child. If it bothers you enough to post then it's always going to bother you, if not now, then long term.

I'm only 5ft 2in and to be honest would feel like a little girl, not a woman, with someone much over 6ft tall.

The lie would put me off more than anything TBH.

I am not attracted to shorter men and to be honest, it would put me off too. I dated someone my height (5 ft 6) and I did find his height off putting. DH is 6 ft and I feel protected with him. There's nothing wrong with having a preference so YANBU to me.

If you’re not attracted to him, there’s nothing more to dwell on. He’s not the one for you

The suicide rate with short men is strong with this thread.

In the interest of not being shallow Ive dated shorter men. I’m 4f11 so in theory it shouldn’t matter. Always end up with 6f guy tho. The heart wants what it wants. I think subconsciously I’m concerned about the real possibility of proportional dwarfism in my family.

Tall guys do make me feel petit and protected and it’s so nice not to not always need to get a stool to reach the cupboards 😂😂😂

You don’t owe him your attraction. If you can’t get past it, it’s obviously something that is important to you, just like any other trait- you’re not being mean or out of order. Don’t beat yourself up over it at all.

Just as a side note, I’m an Amazon, I always thought I could never go out with a man shorter than me. Now I’m with a man a good 4 inches shorter than me and I actually love it- I even wear my big goth boots with him. I call him my hobbit!

But you don’t owe any man anything. You date who you want and what you’re attracted to. No ifs ands or buts :)

He’s also twice my age so we do get some stares... let em look I say! Take a picture, it’ll last longer!

I met a guy through OLD who said he was 5 foot 7 or 5 foot 8 on his profile. He was the same height as me, around 5 foot 4.
We did date for 6 months but I don't wear heels.
It is bit sneaky though, like me saying my B cups are D

I am 6”3, my husband is 6”1. I married him, so obviously I don’t have a problem with it.

If hes a good match in every other way you may one regret losing him over something so superficial. But you only like what you like and can't be forced to fancy him if you just don't. Heels are overrated tools of the patriarchy;)

FFS. I'm under 5 foot and DH over 6 foot. I don't feel like a little girl. You do know that not all nationalities have an average height similar to the UK? Some average heights are 5 foot or under. I'm sure an entire nation doesn't feel like or seem like children.