In-laws have declined the vaccine... AIBU?

[HotGlueGun]

So my in-laws (early 70s) have declined to have the vaccine. They are in our childcare bubble and so we see them regularly. They also ask us to do their shopping. WIBU to a) stop doing their shopping for them and b) reduce/ stop their contact with the kids? I'm really cross about but appreciate that they have free will and it's their choice. But resent having to do shopping for them... it's like they are happy for us to be at risk and aren't prepared to take reasonable steps to reduce their vulnerability and eliminate the risk for themselves/ the wider community.

When you say childcare bubble, do you mean they're doing free childcare for you? If so I don't think you can complain about doing their shopping.

What are their reasons for declining?

What are their reasons?
I suppose while you doing their shopping they perceive they at little risk
I’d not be enabling and doing their shopping anymore but I guess you need their help with childcare?

Do they plan to go out again at any point? Otherwise you are more of a risk to them.

Tell them to shop online. No reason at all you should be shopping for them.

So the childcare is as hoc and we could manage without it... they want to do it, rather than we need them to do it, especially now the schools are closed.

Their reasons are that someone once told them that if they can avoid having a vaccine, then they should. Also concerns about how the vaccines are stored and whether they will be injected with something not stored properly.

They do not have internet access/ a television... so hear snippets of info and make them their own.

Their choice not to have it and your choice to not continue with their shopping.

I think you’re being hypocritical. This is not what childcare bubbles are for, so you are increasing their risk by not saying no to it.

Well I don't know about the childcare stuff but I wouldn't be doing their shopping for them!

Who is this “someone”?

@Greenmarmalade I don't think it's hypocritical at all. Can you show me the gouvernement guidance that says this is not what childcare bubbles are for please?

Surely a child care bubble IS for childcare?

I wouldn't approve of their choice. But it is up to them. I don't think I'd stop doing their shopping as they are elderly.,

@AnneLovesGilbert exactly. Who knows who it was. And it would've been 20+ years ago when they were working

They need to do there own shopping not put you at further risk

Not having the Internet isn't excuse they can put the radio on watch the news to gather information

I think they are being daft - but since they are considerably more at risk than you are (and I assume that you have to shop anyway since you also need to eat) then that is their choice so I think you are being unreasonable. Instead of paying "tit for tat", can't you speak to them, or to their GP, about the misinformation they have heard and find a way of having a rational conversation about this.

Maybe if they realise that when lockdown is eased it won't be safe to see their grandchildren (either for childcare or just socially) or their friends who have had the vaccination then they might think again.

@HotGlueGun

So the childcare is as hoc and we could manage without it... they want to do it, rather than we need them to do it, especially now the schools are closed.

Their reasons are that someone once told them that if they can avoid having a vaccine, then they should. Also concerns about how the vaccines are stored and whether they will be injected with something not stored properly.

They do not have internet access/ a television... so hear snippets of info and make them their own.

They absolutely won’t be injected with a vaccine that hasn’t been stored properly.

I don't think the childcare bit is an issue- if you were happy for them to provide childcare before a vaccination, the situation is still the same. However, I don't see any need to shop for them, so I would let them do that themselves.

Just ask them why they want to put you and ergo their grandchildren at risk when they chose not to have something that could protect their family.

I am strongly of the opinion that everyone has.free choice whether to have vaccine or not but if that free choice makes extra work for you (doing their.shopping) that is a different matter

Meh, no ones really being U here. They don't want the vaccine, the vaccines don't stop you being able to transmit the virus. Ultimately their choice.

At that point they can't use covid as an excuse not to do their own shopping, but also is it not an even swap? They do childcare, you do shopping?

choices have consequences. If they choose not to have the vaccine, the consequence is that you will stop doing things for them as they have refused to make themselves safe.

I don’t think I would be doing their shopping for them. They can’t rely on other people to take risks on their behalf if they aren’t willing to take the vaccine. They need to stand by their decision and run their own errands.

If they are fit and well and did their shopping previously and are capable of doing it now, I don't see why they can't. If they are not going to have the vaccine then how long are you going to continue to do their shopping for? Covid isn't going to disappear, I think the best we can hope for is to get it down to flu levels each winter or similar, so when are they going to deem it safe to be out and about?