to be offended by this joke?

[Fruityherbaltea]

My baby is 6 months old. I visited family recently and a family member fed him a bottle in my presence.

My baby was moving a lot so the family member said: "You have to hold still, otherwise I will stick in the bottle the wrong end" while grinning.

I was quite offended by this joke and thought it was inappropriate. Am I justified being offended or am I being precious?

I think you're being precious.

I don't think they meant it as if they would do it on purpose just if the baby was wriggling they would do it accidently.

People say all sorts of shit to babies they meant no harm.

Precious

Precious.

Very precious - sorry

Well I wouldn't be amused by a comment like that and probably wouldn't be able to hide my 'lack of amusement'.

Definitely precious. Is there a backstory with this particular person that makes you overly sensitive to their comments?

I think it's a bit knobbish but people do say random rubbish, especially if they haven't held a baby in a while and they are stressing about dropping them! I think a frown and move on.

I think you're being precious. It wasn't a threat, just saying they were squirming so much it might happen by mistake. Harmless imo.

Very precious. I wouldn't have given it a second thought. I'm sure most people have said much worse during the six millionth wake up in the middle of the night.

Offended? What's the world coming to.

Not precious.
I think it is totally inappropriate and quite alarming IMO.

I wouldn't like it either

What?

I don't think you are being precious at all. It's a really weird thing to say.

V over sensitive. You need to learn some tolerance for the nonsense people sometimes spout 🙄

In what way is that offensive

The person who said it is the sort of person I'd not see again though. I don't want to spend my time with anyone who is dumb enough to say stupid things like that, it doesn't even make any sense.

Given the circumstances I assume this is someone in your bubble, parent or PIL?

Oh good lord. Do you really think they meant anything by it? This is your PFB isn't it?

Previous. It wasn’t a threat, just the baby moving so much makes feeding more difficult.

Depends on my relationship with the family member and whether I had felt uncomfortable about other things they had said.

This is hilarious, its threads like this that make me realise MN is a parallel universe to the one I live in. How can Anyone be offended by this?

Good grief.
Very precious.
And the PP who wouldn't stay in contact with someone who says something so stupid must have a really sheltered and intellectually precious life upon that Olympian hill!!!

@TidyDancer

Yes, there is a backstory. This person is my father.

When I and my three siblings were growing up, he was quite addicted to pornography. I think the Internet wasn't around yet or was still in its infancy, so it was mostly magazines with graphic pornography. My father very often looked after us on a Saturday, so that my mother could clean our flat.

We had a big cellar and my father had a room in the cellar where he kept all of the magazines. They were mostly stored in boxes, but some of them were laid out in the open and my father made no effort to hide them from us and sort of exposed us to it. There was no physical abuse though.

My parents divorced when I was 10 and my father left us.

I still haven't resolved my complicated feelings around my childhood and my father.

Maybe that's why I'm so sensitive when he says stuff like this. If it had been my sister, I probably would have moved on without batting an eyelash.

This has given me my biggest eye roll of the morning. Is this your first OP? You’re going to have to toughen up.

It was a crap joke, but move on FFS!

Without the massive backstory I was on the fence. I definitely would have found it odd but not necessarily offensive. With the backstory YADNBU. That turns it into something I'd find far creepier.