There needs to be more kindness on both sides
Fuck off the the “kindness”. What that really means is let others trample all over your wants and needs because theirs are more important. “Kindness” can not be a two way street.
But to address your concerns, most women and trans women I know co exist fine. These transwomen wouldn’t dream of inserting themselves into womens spaces or insisting they get what they want, sod everyone else. They are nice, thoughtful people who use the accessible bathroom or the toilets in the 5th floor no one else uses if others are uncomfortable. All they want is to live their lives in the way they want, causing as little upset to others as possible.
women are fine with that, and most will absolutely stand up for their rights to be treated as they wish.
It is the TRA’s and their demands to be let into womens space, to take away womens access to protected jobs, education, awards, even safety .to be validated by women allowing them to do what whatever they choose and bend over and praise them for doing it.
Anyone who threatens another person with their penis, whether they call it a ladydick or not, is exhibiting male violence and ends any right they have to be allowed into female spaces. I lost count of the “suck my big fat ladydick” and my ladydick in her mouth would shut her up” type threats toward jkr.
Personally though I think “non binary” is the norm, not the exception. Gender isn’t a binary, sex is. I am non binary because i don’t always dress in heels and skirts, and i don’t like all that is pink and glittery. I like science, maths and jeans. I don’t know many men or women that subscribe exclusively to the male/female stereotype, and it would be a sad world if they did. Back to the days of women doing all the housework and putting pretty ribbons in their hair, while the men go out wearing their trousers and doing a hard days graft.
Get rid of gender and all the pink and blue shit and a lot of the non binary genderqueer stuff disappears overnight...