To think he should pay more board?

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My DH's son lives with us. He moved in 4 years ago, and lives on benefits due to MH problems. It is not expected that he will move out for several more years.

We all agreed it would be fair if he contributed £50 a week towards his board. Later he wanted more storage, so we bought a shed for £689 - he pays £5 a week to rent it, but we own it. Other than that, he has not increased the amount he contributes. He has had an increase in his benefits, but it was for increased needs, not a cost-of-living increase AFAIK.

If you have a relative living with you, how often would you expect them to increase the amount they pay - if ever?

How much do yours pay?

WIBU to ask for an increase, basically?

He can't live with his mother. She's ill and has no spare room.

When he moved in, we discussed finances. I can't remember how much he got then, but we all agreed £50 was fair. He isn't running up a big credit card bill. He wouldn't try to hide that from us.

He won't be inheriting our house. He'll inherit one-sixth of it, so unfortunately he'll have enough money to lose all his benefits, then have to start claiming again when it's gone.

He isn't being nasty, but to him everything feels so hopeless, what's the point in anything? He has had a breakdown, lost everything and he can't see any way to start again.

I have started pushing him to make more effort and he is trying.

I'M LEAVING THE THREAD NOW, but thanks for all your contributions.