Do you think most couples who get married in their twenties last?

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I've phrased it clumsily, sorry. Do you think couples who meet and marry in their twenties generally are seen to be more successful marriages?

I can't imagine marrying that young, I'm nothing like the person I was in my early twenties. Broke off an engagement and shudder at the fact I nearly married a massive twat. But that's on me clearly, like I say I was really immature

I'm fascinated by people who marry young and successfully grow together with their spouse, just can't imagine that experience at all! I do think it's seen as the 'right' timeline to aspire to in general.

I doubt it. I married at 18 and was divorced at 23. Married again at 26 and it is better second time round.

I wonder whether rather than age it is a readiness. I wouldn’t have married in my 20s because I wasn’t ready. I knew that and I think many others feel the same. Likewise there are some who want to settle down and feel they are with the right person to do so, and continue to have happy marriages.

Almost all my friends married in their mid 20s and are still married 20 years later, with no (outward) signs of any problems.

I hope so I was 24 and DH 29 and so far so good (ish)

Isn't it quite normal to get married in your twenties? The vast majority of married couples I know were married in their mid to late twenties.

There’s quite a big difference between 21 and 29. I was 29- hope we stay married!!

I was 29, so I hope so! Had known DH for 8 years beforehand

@SnowFields

I wonder whether rather than age it is a readiness. I wouldn’t have married in my 20s because I wasn’t ready. I knew that and I think many others feel the same. Likewise there are some who want to settle down and feel they are with the right person to do so, and continue to have happy marriages.

Yep maybe this is it, the importance of being ready. I definitely wasn't! But then there is the element of chance also I suppose, when you meet the person and you definitely want to marry them.

I think so. You’re a grown adult at say 25, it’s not as if you’re a kid of 16. We all seem to want to be teenagers forever these days.

Agree with @SnowFields, it’s about readiness. I knew I definitely didn’t want to get married before the age of 29-30, even if I fell head over heels for someone. After that, I was just ready.

No idea, I got married in my early 20's. Married for over 30 years now

I got married at 23, still happy together 16 years later 😁

Moved in with my DP when I was 21 and got married 6 months later.

We've now been together 36 years

@PoppiesinOctober

Isn't it quite normal to get married in your twenties? The vast majority of married couples I know were married in their mid to late twenties.

Yeah that's what I'm saying (badly!) in that it's seen as the norm. Then there's people like me who took longer!

I was 26 and DH 24, were still together and happy nearly 20 years later. All our friends got married at similar ages and are all still together too.

But plenty of ‘Facebook friends’ are divorced, lots before they were 35.

Mid to late 20s really isn’t that early. The sort of people who want to marry either before living together or before having a child are quite likely to marry at that age (not all obv).

Many of the people I know who married in their 30s already had a kid and viewed the marriage as a nice extra or for financial stability rather than an essential.

All of the dozen or so couples I know who married before 25 are still together 15 years later, except one. They all viewed marriage as very important.

20s is the decade when a lot can change. My parents married at 21 and are still happily married 46years later. I wasn't ready until I was older, met someone at 28 and married age 30. People now are often still studying or only just starting their careers in their early 20s as we now expect people to be in education until age 18, often 21.

I was 22, DH was 25 when we got married, it’s our 30th anniversary next year. Most of my friends got married around the same time/age, all but one couple are still together.

Married at 27, divorced at 39. Remarried at 40. Still going strong.

I met DH in 2005 at the age of 19, he was 21. We married at 24&26, in 2010. We've had two kids, lived in three countries, bought houses together. I'd say we've grown together.

I was in a group of five friends back then. We all met boyfriends at a similar time. One pair has been married for 11 years. One couple lasted university, broke up. Friend met someone else, been happily married since 2013. One was in and out of relationships when young... But met and married her now husband a few few years ago. The last was 'engaged' back then, but broke up and has had a string of relationships.

I think there's all sorts of factors at play. Luck is one.

We married in our early twenties, we are still happily married, but all our friends that got married around the same time are now divorced.

In my friendship/acquaintance group everyone who got married younger than 27 is divorced now.

Everyone who got married 27 and above is still married. So that definitely means you need to be 27 or older to stay married

For reference, I am the one who got married at 27 (16 yrs ago)

I got married at 26, DH 29, we'd been living together for 6 years, together for 7 before we got married. We quite like getting married at that age as we had 5 years of just being married before we had DC. All good so far, fingers crossed we last!

I hope so! Married late 20s, but together since 22 (met at 17). Now mid-40s. Very happy so far!

My parents got married when my mum was 19 and dad 21. They celebrate their 40th wedding anniversary this year.

I know a few who all married in their later 20s, out of the 5 couples 2 have had serious problems and 1 doesn't know the wife used to cheat on him every weekend until about a year before they got married 🙈

I wonder if it's a generational thing too?

I myself didn't feel ready until I was about 31/32 but I'm as single as it gets so it won't be happening anytime soon!