To think Mumsnet isn't any better than Tattle life?

[DebbieDowner101]

The site claims to be "commentary and critique of people who chose to monetise their lives as a business and release it to the public domain"

From my time on the site I've found it to be just that. Honest, and well measured critique of someone who has chosen to market themselves and/or their families online.

The threads I've seen via Instagramers claiming to be bullied has just been people giving a perfectly reasonable negative opinion on them, or something they have done. Surely if you are putting yourself online to gain followers you accept the good and the bad, and that not everything negative is bullying, still just an opinion?

Mumsnet on the other hand claims to be a resource of support for parents, but I regularly see posters jumped etc usually on a perfectly reasonable post.

AIBU to think Mumsnet isn't any holier?

thebear1 so they are united in their bullying of someone else collectively.. how is that any different/better. People are OBSESSED over there just scanning through the threads over a few days the same posters and on posting non stop all day every day it appears. Weird.

Both horrible in their own ways.
Tattle has threads with posts like “can’t believe she wore those leggings, her legs look like sausages” about a woman who has done literally nothing other than be slightly annoying. Posting selfies of instagrammars that have been edited to make them look horrible, and nit picking about stuff that is so fucking boring. “Can’t believe she had that for lunch!!”
Some of it is what I imagine playground gossip to be.

Tattle is a vile website, PP are right these people are totally obsessed. Its really weird, it's almost narcissistic in the fact these people cannot see anything wrong with their behaviour and constantly talk each other up with progressively more stalkers behaviour. Honest and well measured critique my arse.

Tattle is the only website out there keeping tabs on some of these so called influencers . Some are scamming people out of money and Tattke is just about the only place where it's being watched. For that reason alone I defend it.

I only post on one or two subjects there and they are friendly and supportive ones such as Food and Drink.

I don't venture on many threads but do follow the Jack Monroe one as I have long been suspicious of her behaviour .My suspicions of her activities have been proven and I think she's a bit of a grifter.

The Hinch thread scares me. ...but I never followed her anyway.

Most of the Insta shammers deserve being called out by Tattlers. If they're not shilling crap from Alli Express that's been repackaged with a massive markup, they're breaching travel restrictions and Covid regs left right and centre, all the while bleating about people bullying them, or being trolls. Or photoshopping all their photos. Ugh.

I once read the Harry and Meghan thread over on Tattle. It was absolutely crazy, it is worrying what some people believe!

I’ve had a look at some Tattle threads about Instamums and they’re very snide, descend into critiquing everything about that person’s parenting (‘omg how much food is she serving her daughter?’ ‘Why is her son running around at 7pm naked after Bath time?? That’s not how to settle them for bed’). That’s just the way it is - because the posters are invariably following every Instagram story, they end up criticising the most bizarre things. That kind of commentary would be shot down here with a ‘mind your own business’.

I think it's vile from the few threads I've saw... Do people not have anything better to do than bitch about people on Instagram?

It's also where I found out what a Dubai porta potty is, so err, thanks Tattle.

Oh nooooo, me too! On the Chloe Khan / Chloe Mafia thread

No one has to have an Instagram page or YouTube channel. These bloggers are not doing it for charity, they are exposing their lives (and the lives of their children, who get no choice in the matter but to have their every moment shared) for money and freebies. It's all about the £££s. The ones who don't get offered stuff repeatedly tag companies in their posts or contact them until their begging results in 'gifted' items.

If they don't want the minutiae of their lives dissected don't post it all over the gram!

It’s where I found out about the Dubai porta potty’s too 😷 IMO tattle is like a very trashy gossip magazine about Instagrammers. Guilty pleasure to have a nose at but take everything you read with a pinch of salt.

I was banned within 5 minutes 😳 it's a site where they can slag off people and if you don't agree or stick up for someone you get banned - a vile bullying site

I like Tattle. There's a nice gender critical thread running that doesn't seem to be the target of TRAs or slack-jawed handmaidens parroting "TWAW" all over the shop.

Tattle is the only website out there keeping tabs on some of these so called influencers . Some are scamming people out of money and Tattke is just about the only place where it's being watched. For that reason alone I defend it

I know from the IG threads on here that is just the "cover."
I get that people want to know that the influencers they watch but apparently don't like "just want to know that they are disclosing their ads properly" but you'll know if you've spent any time on any of those threads if people start to actually talk about the ads (which they profess it's all about, they just want transparency - yeah right)
, for all those that are there'll be a hundred or so more pulling apart looks, saying kids need taking away, blah blah etc.....
It's just a cover for attacking and bitching about others.

@Sheleg

I like Tattle. There's a nice gender critical thread running that doesn't seem to be the target of TRAs or slack-jawed handmaidens parroting "TWAW" all over the shop.

Oooh I take it all back then Sounds even lovelier NOT

There's plenty of attacking and bitching about people on here...have you never read a MIL thread?

I wouldn't want strangers commenting on how I raise my kids, what I wear, or the state of my house, so I don't advertise it on the gram. Simple really.

I’ve never posted on Tattle but read some of the threads. The people often seem to be nicer to one another in posts and their security is far better than MN. However, I’ve met some lovely people through MN in RL.

There's plenty of attacking and bitching about people on here...have you never read a MIL thread?

There's a bit of a difference between an anonymous MIL nobody knows who it is they're talking about from someone wanting some advice, and threads dedicated to a specific person pulling apart their looks, their children's looks, their parenting etc......

so I don't advertise it on the gram. Simple really
That's just kind of enabling bullies though?
"They're putting themselves out there so they deserve all they get!"
Doesn't make it right.

It’s highly unsavoury to be an adult woman incessantly bitching about another woman’s appearance, age and mannerisms. I suspect Tattle posters know that; which is they a) like to pretend they’re undertaking a purely noble cause, or b) admit that it’s a guilty pleasure that they would never confess to.

If your teenage daughter made relentless fun of another girl’s appearance, then said ‘well she shouldn’t be flaunting pictures of herself on social media if she can’t take it’, I doubt people would be as sympathetic.

Some of the MIL threads would be pretty identifiable to any family members.

I don't think anything on Tattle is bullying. Saying for exampl that someone who's had (but denies) multiple plastic surgeries looks terrible is honest comment. I've certainly never seen any comments about children's looks on there and anything like that isn't tolerated. One idiot influencer who's currently on holiday with her sunburnt baby has been called out for not keeping her out of the sun, but no one has said anything about how the baby looks (only that she's bright red, because she is).

If any bullying goes on, it mostly comes from influencers themselves...encouraging their followers to abuse and doxx anyone who dares criticise them, to write to those people's employers, involve their families, make the same comments they're bleating about.

And these influencers aren't in the public eye because they're an actor, singer or sportsperson. They don't need an Instagram page. Why the need to share with everyone what you do all day? (Other than that it's an easy way to make a living if you can't be bothered to get a proper job )

Have just clicked on a random thread in the IG section, 30 seconds, see this post. Completely unhinged. The consensus on MumsNet is that Health Visitors should be taken with a pinch of salt and can say all sorts of rubbish at times. But you have posters handwringing and espousing extreme opinions that they probably don’t believe in, just to keep tearing into an Instagrammer.

The hinch stuff is despicable.

So is some of the stuff about much lower level influencers.

It strikes me as a bunch of nasty, jealous, arseholes to be honest.

Hold on a minute. Have the people who decide to talk/post negatively about other people on any site never been taught 'if you've got nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all' surely to live in a live and let live world would be nicer? Why do they have the right to say negative things just because somebody wants to post something about their life or their family online? Just scroll on by or block if you don't like it surely?

What's despicable about it?

WRT Hinch, personally I'm much more offended by her blatant breaches of Covid guidelines, manipulation of her sheep, exploration of her child, and claims that her fame just happened when in fact it was carefully engineered by her and her husband from day 1. Oh and all her cleaning tips were stolen from other people/ sites. Much like her mate Stacey Solomon nicked all her craft ideas from Pinterest.

@Grenlei

You've just illustrated beautifully what's despicable about it.

All that stuff about her child hating her? Makes my skin crawl.

It's an appalling site.