To have told my in-laws that they’ll have what they’re given and like it?

[GoJetterGirl]

Right,

So, talking with in-laws On FaceTime who are in the age category for the first round of Covid vaccinations... and convo went like this...

DH- have you heard about vaccinations yet?
FIL- Not yet, but when they call I’ll tell them it must be the Oxford one as I don’t want a foreign vaccine!
DH- I don’t think you get a choice...
MIL- They will for your father dear, he can be quite insistent...
DH-
ME- ummm, no, you’ll be offered a vaccine, you among millions are waiting for these vaccines and you think you have the right to be picky?! You’ll take what they offer you and like it!
MIL- promptly bursts into tears “why is she being mean to meeeeeeee”

DH thinks I’m being unreasonable as I’ve had enough of his rule flouting, idiotic, entitled. argumentative parents and I’ve finally snapped and put them in their place...

(Those of you who followed my sons journey will
Understand my snappy attitude towards them)

Ps- the daily mail and any journos can piss off too....

You sound hard work OP.

@FreshFreesias

You sound hard work OP.

Really!!!!!

Go read all the threads by OP

HTH

Your PILs continue to be epic horrors then :(
Disengage, get DH to put earphones in so you don't have to hear them. Hopefully you and DH (and me) will get vaccinated all the quicker if people are being picky.
Can't believe it's been nearly a year

I don’t care whether you are reasonable or unreasonable. All I want you to know is that I know of your son’s journey on this earth over the years on Mn . And my heart broke for you the day he passed away and still break for you. If I as a stranger feel my heart breaking for you then my god your heart which carries your son must be in insurmountable pain. Take care. I think of you often.

@FreshFreesias
Check history and read the full thread . Op is anything but hardwork

I don't get the 'you'll take what they offer you and like it' - not trying to be goady but 'like it'?

I would have just smiled and nodded and ended the call at the earliest opportunity rather than get into an argument for no real reason.

Surely you don't have to be involved in these calls and it can just be left down to your DH?

Why do either you or your husband have anything at all to do with them? Yes they’re his parents but that’s the very reason why they shouldn’t treat you the way they do in the first place. You owe them NOTHING and I’d have gone NC way before now. Your little boy won’t thank you for making him have a relationship with them

You all deserve do much better than this 💐

Flame me now they bring little to your life enjoy pissing them off.

oh its these fucking jebends again. Tell them they're scum from me.

Sorry to hear about your DS, OP.

Regarding your OP, patients at our PCN centre truck up and get what they are given. They'll be asked the consent questions but those are not used to pick and choose which vaccine.

It might be different once for-profit pharmacies operate, as it may be in other PCNs.

You are right based on our PCN.

Good luck with disengaging.

Hi GJG.
Sending you a warm hug, from a candle lighter.
They can get to fuck, and they probably will if they refuse the vaccine.
Where was their car made, I wonder?

By the way, PMSL at the notion of discriminating between vaccines based on forrin-ness. There are differences in technology between mRNA and chimp adenovirus but forrin-ness did make me smile sadly.

It could be an insistent FIL could get his way, equally that will be at the cost of making a vaccinator's life harder, some of whom have been freezing themselves silly and stood for 14 hours in cold ad-hoc premises managing complex protocols that have changed daily. (And without regular tea or coffee). Fortunately, most of the often-frail elderly have been in admirable good spirits.

Good old natural selection.

Their business to do or say as they please. You don’t have to agree with it, but let them do what they want to do.

This isn't a thread about a MIL. It's a thread about the profound loss of a child. I'm so sorry OP. There are no words. 💐 Let your DH deal with the in-laws as perhaps they are an important part of his grieving. God bless.

It's a shame your dh doesn't back you up more. You'd think he'd had enough, too.
I can't imagine what you have been through, and I remember your thread.
You need dh to at least consider your feelings and be tactful.

Your in-laws will not hold anyone up but themselves if they are insistent on the Oxford vaccine.

If a doctor offers them the Pfizer vaccine and they say "No, I want the English one," the doctor will just shrug and offer the Pfizer to someone else. It will be your parents in law who will have to wait for an Oxford vaccine.

So it’s them, not vaccines?

It’s their bodies. They can have what they like when they like. Just as you can.

Wouldn’t waste the emotional energy. They’ll find out that you’re right.

They can have what they like though possibly not when they like, @Thewinterofdiscontent. If their clinic has pfizer and are unwilling to provide AstraZeneca then they may have to wait.

Not read the full thread but YABU. Yes, they're being silly about the vaccine, but you just sound as if you like winding them up and points scoring. And then posting it on here makes you seem rather childish imo.

ah OP, I read and cried at your threads. So sorry for your loss
having read your previous threads, yanbu. I'm amazed you're still in contact with them.
Hope you're managing, I can't imagine how lost you must feel.

So sorry for your loss @GoJetterGirl, it must be so hard. But I'm glad you managed to have a calmer Christmas, more in line with what you wanted.
Stuff the PILs! This seems to be causing you such stress and its not fair.
Your DH has said he agrees they are too much. Twice a bloomin day is TOO much for people who make everything about themselves. I hope you can talk to DH and tell them to back right off. Its reminding you of all the aggro at a vulnerable time, twice a day. (and he's not to throw you under the bus... its from both of you) In fact don't even say call less, just say we are busy working so you can call on Tuesday at 6 pm and maybe Thursday. no argument.
As for whining why are you so mean to meeeee, from some one who doesn't seem to have any consideration for the feelings of others.. whilst I'd normally say ignore it, I think in this instance, you should just start saying exactly what you think. Why bottle this up it anymore?
She's beaming her self into your life twice a day.
Id be tempted to say loudly in the background, "surely that's not them on the phone again! Some of us have jobs to do"

Well you sound so tightly wound....anyone else would laugh it off. You aren't their parents, speaking to them like shite if you ask me. In fact I strongly suspect your version of events is a little...one sided....

You shouldn’t have to still have to be putting up with their shit