To have told my in-laws that they’ll have what they’re given and like it?

[GoJetterGirl]

Right,

So, talking with in-laws On FaceTime who are in the age category for the first round of Covid vaccinations... and convo went like this...

DH- have you heard about vaccinations yet?
FIL- Not yet, but when they call I’ll tell them it must be the Oxford one as I don’t want a foreign vaccine!
DH- I don’t think you get a choice...
MIL- They will for your father dear, he can be quite insistent...
DH-
ME- ummm, no, you’ll be offered a vaccine, you among millions are waiting for these vaccines and you think you have the right to be picky?! You’ll take what they offer you and like it!
MIL- promptly bursts into tears “why is she being mean to meeeeeeee”

DH thinks I’m being unreasonable as I’ve had enough of his rule flouting, idiotic, entitled. argumentative parents and I’ve finally snapped and put them in their place...

(Those of you who followed my sons journey will
Understand my snappy attitude towards them)

Ps- the daily mail and any journos can piss off too....

Her reaction was over the top but it sounds like you are trying to pick an unnecessary fight with them.

Not unreasonable at all. People who are "quite insistent" must be a PITA for GPs etc. If I had a choice I would choose the lovely pfizer vaccine with higher efficacy. I know both have been developed by multi-national teams (like most labs) and produced abroad. That's how good science happens.

I am so sorry they are still causing stress @GoJetterGirl.

In all fairness with all the grief they gave you in the past I do think you have a right for you all to go NC with them.

I'm with dh , you were very rude and they're not children to be told what to do. Just butt out of the conversation if they get on your nerves. YABU.

This is so annoying! We are all staying in, having our liberty curtailed to protect the most vulnerable & the NHS and the people who are most likely to require hospitalisation won't take the vaccine?! Give me strength. And your MILs dose - I'll gladly have it!!

I think have a right to prevent them causing hurt to your child by your child seeing the way they (in laws) treat you. Not that you should go NC if that doesn't work for you, but I think you should think of it as an option. Certainly DH should speak to them only in ways that don't force you to interact with them at all.

I think a third COVID vaccine got the approval today, so that further reduces their chances of getting the Oxford one :)

GoJetter I remember your previous threads
It's just the latest in a long line from them, isn't it?
It is quite funny that she thinks she can buy her way to the front of the queue.

@GoJetterGirl

why not just smile and nod, no need to always be known to be right. You know you're right, isn't that enough?

Read my previous threads and you’ll understand why my patience is remarkably short when it comes to these idiots.

The thing is they will always be the victims and find a way to blame you. I found playing batshit bingo in my head helped or you could make a wall chart.😂

If this "I don't want a furrin vaccine" bollocks is not vanishingly rare than I think families of the idiots holding that view have a duty to point out to them that they are being stupid and should not waste HCPs time in trying to insist. It's complex enough rolling out the vaccine to the millions who need it without jumped up racists trying to make those sorts of demands.

You were very rude!

With a vaccine you take what’s offered - or not - vaccines are being dolled out centrally so no one has a choice at that moment in time - declining what’s on offer simply means a longer wait or no vaccine . Doubtless your FIL’s GP would be clear about this .

@MutantNinjaCovid

No, I don’t read the daily fail...

Sympathies OP they sound awful.

Re: people wanting the 'Oxford' vaccine (said in queens accent) and not the pfizer one - yes eldest DD has had a fair few of these while calling to make appointments.

Idiots.

Ask your dh not to come into your office disturbing you when he’s face timing. Them calling twice a day is too much. Can you ask your dh to reduce this? It would drive me crazy.

@GoJetterGirl they sound horrible but you need to find a new way to manage them that doesn’t upset you. If you can’t be absent when they call I suggest you emotionally disengage and treat them like entertainment if possible.

• I’m going to tell them I’ll only have a British vaccine
• Great idea pops go for it!

• they won’t let me have a British vaccine
• shocking - you should definitely complain. Have you called the press?

And did you say they call twice a day? Tell your DH once a week is fine. Twice is your limit. They need to back off or he needs to talk to them when you and your DC are not around.

Remembering your previous threads, they haven't changed and I'm amazed your DH still has anything to do with them. I would have replied to the why is she so mean to me comment by saying because you are a selfish, unpleasant cow who needs to grow up.

I would suggest telling him that he needs to stay out of the room you are in while he's talking to them.

I’m putting a lock on the office door,

I’m getting quite sick of hearing them right now and it’s not as if we can be ‘out’ when they call, so I’ll be telling DH that I need to not hear them when he is on a call with them. As you can imagine after their behaviour over the past 4 years the sound of their voices and MIL’s entitled whining and crocodile tears gives me the rage

@GoJetterGirl, What do you need right now in this situation? Space? Calm? If you PiL are broken (at least, appear that way to you) you can't fix them, so the kindest thing you can do for yourself is distance; physically and mentally, Otherwise they will drain all of your happiness and create unnecessary drama.

You deserve love and respect. If that is missing, removing yourself is often the most logical answer. Let your husband deal with them... the old a Polish phrase "Not my circus, not my monkeys." is apt here.

I remember your previous threads and their foul comments to you and how they treated you during your DS's cancer.

Your DH should be eternally grateful that you've not gone NC with them. Agree with others that your DH should stay out of the room you are in when he is talking to them.

@MooseBeTimeForSummer

A quick Google suggests the Oxford vaccine is made in India ....

The quick google is wrong, as it is being made in Keele, Staffordshire.

(unless the early doses are being made overseas before the Keele manufacturing facility is ready)

I’m getting quite sick of hearing them right now and it’s not as if we can be ‘out’ when they call

Of course you can. We can still go shopping, go for walks etc

Perfectly possible to be out!

@DeliaOwens

What I want the most, is them to leave us in peace, now, I’m
Not one to agree with any Tory Policy, but, the fact they were locked down in a different tier to us at Christmas meant they couldn’t just turn up
And surprise us meant that my first Christmas without angelJetterBoy was at least as calm as I could have hoped for this year

I didn't know the backstory and thought they sounded like entitled idiots - since read the backstory and fuck me, they don't deserve any of your patience! DH should be actively shielding you from any interaction with those arseholes. Let the stupid woman boo hoo.

Perfectly possible to be out!

Not when you’re shielding because you’re CEV and I won’t be stupid by going out trying to avoid people who shouldn’t be making pains in the arses of themselves in my home and my work from home space...