To think at 46 my friend isn’t too old to be having a baby

[Tellmelies65]

My lovely friend has just announced she’s pregnant with her first at 46. She just didn’t meet the right person until now. A friend we have in common has messaged saying how outrageous it is.

Your friend needs to wind her neck in and stop being a prick.

I actually agree, I think it's pretty selfish.

Sorry but I agree...not that I would say it out loud and it's pretty shitty of your friend to say so

Nothing to do with the mutual friend !

Gitvyo say, it wouldn't be my choice. I think it is too old but who cares what i think?

I agree she’s too old. Her choice obviously but still selfish.

God people are so rude

It is old to be having a baby but your other friend is rude and should keep her opinion to herself.

Yes, wouldn't say it to a friend but also think 46 (or 47 when the baby arrives?) is too old.

Some friend they are. Tell them to pipe down and support your other friend in her pregnancy.

Oh you're as young as you feel.
I wouldn't choose to do it but so what?!!

It’s very easy for a woman who has never known the pain of being childless against one’s will to make nasty comments.

Ignore and just be happy for your friend that it wasn’t too late for her.

There will no doubt be an influx of the ridiculous “personally, 30 was my cut off so I do judge/ anything over 35 is unfair on the child imo” comments. But of course from women who met the right man at the right time.

I think it’s fine. More importantly,
so does her body. So that’s the main thing.

I’d be giving the “mutual friend” a piece of my mind.

I had my last baby at 42 and would have had more if able. People’s pregnancies are not anyone’s business.

It is old but if it was too old I presume she would be unable to conceive.

I take it the mutual friend has messaged you rather than the pregnant friend? It's not 'outrageous' by any lights. They obv have a talent for hyperbole.

I wouldn’t comment on it, ever. I do think things will be hard for her, and I think it’s a shame that the child will have elderly parents when they’re only in their 20s themselves. But that doesn’t mean they won’t be happy and give a child a good upbringing.

I'd be happy for her! Women love to judge others. Before contraception this was not uncommon btw, both my grandmothers had babies at 45.

Your other mate is turn8ng something that is none of her business whatsoever, into an unpleasant drama.

I would agree that 46 is too old. More for the possible repercussions for the child rather than the parent. However, it is a comment I would have kept to myself.

Well she’s pregnant now, it doesn’t make any difference whether it’s right or wrong. I don’t think it’s as rare as women would like to believe for women to have a late baby. My MIL mistook her last pregnancy for the menopause at a similar age.

I hope she has a healthy, uneventful pregnancy.

It’s older than most mums..and for that she may struggle slightly, but I would never dare to voice that opinion to a friend

It would be a congrats and that’s it

Your friend is being rude, it’s something you may well think but shouldn’t say.

I personally would found it difficult to have a toddler and the start of menopause at the same time but I’d never say that in real life.

Why is it too old?

I think that’s too old

my friend had her one and only child at 45 - she's a great mum and still doing well 14 years later!

Though I wouldn’t openly say it about a friend

She'll be utterly exhausted. I know someone who did this, very close to me, it has been challenging. She doesn't parent like I did at 37. I also don't think she parents well. She did it for her.

But rude to discuss it (your other friend)