Husband has a nap, I'm pregnant and no nap allowed

[OneNapForMeNoNapForYou]

It's as tedious as it sounds.
Husband brings toddler back from shops 2 days in a row late, obviously toddler's had power nap so refuses actual nap. Over tired screaming baby.
I say on the second day of this happening that he can deal with the fallout. I'm pregnant with no.3, ill most of the time, throwing up, migraines etc.
Went for a lie down as migraine as ever if I'm tired.
He's obviously not happy he's having to look after toddler, stamps in afyer 1.5hrs, no asking how I am, no conversation, I'm woken up with bright light as he announces he's off to fix the lawnmower.

Toddler left in kitchen as I come out asking what the fuck.
He's already outside.

I yell after him asking if it's really normal to just run out the door and leave your wife I'll, of course then I look mad yelling.

He had naps all last week where he slept all afternoon til after 5pm, I didn't angrily throw kids at him after 1.5 hrs like a petulant toddler.

Maybe 2021 I start treating him how he treats me.

OP, you sound so lovely.

Probably too lovely in the face of a selfish waster.

Such a vulnerable time to be pregnant, and to be so unwell.

He's a prick, a nasty prick.

Please seek support from your GP.

You so neeed minding..

Really reminds me of my exh.

I never got to have naps, or to be ill or to be the one who was exhausted. Even when pregnant as you are.

I remember a time when dd was ages 1 and had chicken pox, and was up all night with the itching. Of course I was the only one seeing to her at night (even though this was a weekend, not bf). On the Saturday he wanted to go for a nap in the pm - even though he was due to go out that evening and leave me alone caring for dd (which was ok in itself). Instead of getting cross I suggested that he take and hour and then I take an hour, to which he agreed.

Of course when the hour was up he refused to get up and said he didn’t care when I reminded him of the agreement.

Just one of many examples of napping selfishness!

Even when we were in the process of separating, he would come over “to spend time with the kids”, and promptly go to sleep on the sofa!

What I’ve learnt is when a man you have children with is absolutely determined to be completely selfish, there is very little you can do about it. Except leave. And then expect contact to cause unending nightmares of course.

OP I also admire your spirit responding to prats with unhelpful repetitive comments.

I haven't any sensible advice but I do think that since you are breastfeeding and pregnant, keep an eye on your calcium and Vit D levels. If you're not getting enough in your diet your body will extract calcium from your bones to give to the developing baby, obviously if you're feeding a third party too the demand on you will be so much higher (and well as iron and protein etc, again that's obvious). The one year old doesn't really need the milk from you, so if you can change their bedtime feed for ordinary milk it might take the baby's focus from you? I had to do similar to wean my baby completely.

I really feel for you, this is a rubbish situation you're in.

Seems I missed some drama.
I really need to check calcium and vit d i agree.
Will up the milk consumption.

Dh definately wanted 3rd baby, not sure he enjoys the growing process as he has to pick up the house tasks but I can't do much about that.

He's off to buy something else for a lawnmower today and is pacing around keen to leave, half day through his saying he needed to go get it I had to run to the bathroom to throw up, I'm here now alone, wondering when the next wave will be.

Weaning will happen soon, 18mths has to be cut off as I'm sore, I just want to get into bed at night, not sit with a baby chewing on me. They'll be fine and dh can settle them, it'll be good practice for when I give birth and I'm not there. I can't settle toddler's and newborns all night. They usually sleep through so I can't imagine a big issue.

Thanks again.