To get a refund for these presents

[ToniTheDonkey]

My OH told me he was going to spend Xmas Day at my house and told me what he wanted to eat. I spent £170 on food including meat (for him - I’m veggie) and alcohol (I’m teetotal). He turned up at 1.30 on Christmas Day empty handed and has not yet offered any money towards the cost of the food.

After dinner he opened his presents - I’d spent about £300 on him. There were a couple of presents he said he didn’t like. He could have been polite and not said anything. Knowing my OH, when he packs his stuff to go home, he’ll leave behind the presents he didn’t like. WIBU to take those presents back for a refund and keep the money to offset the cost of the Xmas food?

Dunno. But why are you door matting yourself to this twat?

You are only being unreasonable if you carry on letting him treat you this way.

Does he have any good points?

Yes. Take them back. Then have a think about whether you are getting enough from the relationship to want to continue.

I think you should let him go entirely and not come back to offset however much time, money and love you've already wasted on this arsehole.

There is no reward for allowing yourself to be treated like this.

Why are you with him?? He sounds like an entitled selfish child.

Sounds like my ex. A user & negging you to get you in line to use you more. Get rid!

Return the gifts, spend the money on something nice for yourself and consider if you really want to continue a relationship with someone so thoughtless.

I would be taking them all back to be honest.

I'd return all his presents with an attitude like that!!

A freeloading user.

Return the gifts,and him,from where they came from.

Yes! While you are there see if you can also get refund on OH xxx

I'd be returning him, quite frankly or exchanging him for a decent model.

You spent £170 on food and drink for 2 people?

YABU because you should be returning all the gifts for a refund!

Why would you settle for such a selfish partner?

It sounds more like you need to have more upfront conversations about money generally. You're totting up the (literal!) butcher's bill on your relationship, but really this needed to be a conversation at the point where you were discussing your plans for the day and were planning the shopping list.

Take the whole lot back and then lock the door when he leaves.

You need to ask yourself what made you accept yourself being a mug.

Tip a trifle over his head and tell
Him what an ungrateful lazy bastard he is . Then kick him out.why do you put up with this?

While it sounds like he is not a very considerate person, I would be appalled if my partner cooked me a meal and then asked me to help pay for it.
But yes return the gifts and keep the money.

I know you’re using colloquially, but he doesn’t sound much of an other half, does he? Ungrateful part time cock lodger more like.

Wow - I would never let any man treat me like this.
Can't get over the shit that some people put up with.

What a fucking areshole. Start the new year without him op

Take them all back, dump him and kick him out today.

Why are you with this man? It doesn't sound like he has much respect for you