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Original poster

To be super upset. Travelled from a safe list country

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starrain · 26/12/2020 12:00

Iv just come back from a country yesterday which is on the safe list and has less cases than the uk. My pregnant sister lives with my mum and I wanted to go and see them today as my daughter is itching to see them and my niece.
Iv kind of been warned off and told dont come because iv been travelling and be cautious. But there is no where on the govt rules to quarantine or isolate after travelling from this country. My mum said she doesnt mind but my sister most likely does mind but won't just come out and say it. I kinda get it but at the same time I'm actually so so upset. I had got them gifts and was going to give them and also my daughter got all ready to meet them now I have to tell her no:(

OP posts:
LouiseTrees · 26/12/2020 12:04

Meet the mother in a park if you can?

Original poster
starrain · 26/12/2020 12:06

My mum can't really come out, she has bad arthritis and the cold doesn't help. sigh I just feel really sad and left out.

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Notcontent · 26/12/2020 12:07

I am not too concerned about COVID myself but if I was worried about getting it then I would probably not want to come into contact with someone who has just been travelling because air travel by its nature involves close contact with lots of people - at the airport, on the plane, etc.

LouiseTrees · 26/12/2020 12:07

Not even meet outside in her street socially distanced?

AnyFucker · 26/12/2020 12:09

If I was your sister I would be keeping you at a distance too.

You can't have it all ways.

RealMermaid · 26/12/2020 12:10

You're being pretty unreasonable. You've been travelling presumably through airports etc so you're going to be higher risk and your sister is pregnant! Of course she wants to be extra careful. Wait for a couple of weeks and then go see them.

dementedpixie · 26/12/2020 12:11

I wouldn't want you around either if I was pregnant. You would have been in close contact with others in the airport and on the plane regardless of whether your destination has fewer cases than the UK

MrsAmaretto · 26/12/2020 12:11

If I was pregnant there’s no way I’d want someone who has spent time in Airports and on a plane near me. I don’t think it’s unreasonable for her to be cautious.

The fact that you’ve travelled from a supposed “safe” country wouldn’t make a difference to me.

beany5 · 26/12/2020 12:12

Sorry but I would be avoiding you as well, especially so with your sister being pregnant.

dontdisturbmenow · 26/12/2020 12:12

I don't blame them. I wouldn't want to meet with you either.

You chose to go abroad, your choice indeed but respect people choice not to see you for 10 days.

Thisisworsethananticpated · 26/12/2020 12:13

We are in tier 4
It’s the rules , not personal
Meet in a local park
Why did you come ? Didn’t you see the news !!!!!

Thisisworsethananticpated · 26/12/2020 12:13

Or do a distanced door stop sop and wave 👋

Aprilx · 26/12/2020 12:14

I don’t think there is anywhere in the UK where it is ok to meet other people in a private setting inside. Anyway you have been travelling, moving through airports, train stations or whatever. I would not mix with you either.

Angel2702 · 26/12/2020 12:15

There aren’t many areas now where you are allowed to visit people indoors so it’s unreasonable to expect them to let you visit. With travel you will have been in contact with many people so are higher risk regardless of which country you travelled from.

OverTheRainbow88 · 26/12/2020 12:15

How long are you back? Can you wait a week and then see them?

missrks · 26/12/2020 12:16

You're putting yourself at risk too! It's a shame but most of the UK are on the same position xxx

FourTeaFallOut · 26/12/2020 12:16

You make your choices and take your risks, you can't expect other people to absorb them to save your feelings.

SpilltheTea · 26/12/2020 12:16

Sorry, but I'd avoid you too. You've been at the airport and in close contact with others on planes etc. You can't be surprised.

Marasme · 26/12/2020 12:16

@Thisisworsethananticpated - I guess the OP returned home?

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starrain · 26/12/2020 12:17

I'm not being unreasonable because I havent said anything to her, just saying I'm upset. I personally wouldn't have minded. What's to say they haven't picked it up from someone at work or supermarket shopping in the UK where the cases are way higher than any country. I should be isolating from ppl here. Yea think I should have extended my stay. Dismal here

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IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 26/12/2020 12:17

I’d wait two weeks as well with you going away. Case number is irrelevant as you’ve been through the airport etc.

I’d also only agree to outdoors as most areas now can’t have indoor guests.

Tinkywinkydinkydoo · 26/12/2020 12:18

Do you live abroad and have travelled back for a limited period of time? Or have you been on holiday and live permanently here? I’d be avoiding you as well sorry after being around so many other people in a confined space, especially if you’ve been on a trip and can see your parents after isolating

Willyoujustbequiet · 26/12/2020 12:18

Yabu. I wouldn't want someone who has been on a plane near me if I was pregnant

Mrgrinch · 26/12/2020 12:18

YABU. You do realise the pandemic is getting worse don't you?

Cheeseboardandmincepies · 26/12/2020 12:18

YABU. I’d avoid you too. You choose to go on holiday knowing the risks.

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