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Original poster

To be super upset. Travelled from a safe list country

221 replies

starrain · 26/12/2020 12:00

Iv just come back from a country yesterday which is on the safe list and has less cases than the uk. My pregnant sister lives with my mum and I wanted to go and see them today as my daughter is itching to see them and my niece.
Iv kind of been warned off and told dont come because iv been travelling and be cautious. But there is no where on the govt rules to quarantine or isolate after travelling from this country. My mum said she doesnt mind but my sister most likely does mind but won't just come out and say it. I kinda get it but at the same time I'm actually so so upset. I had got them gifts and was going to give them and also my daughter got all ready to meet them now I have to tell her no:(

OP posts:
Nottherealslimshady · 26/12/2020 12:27

I'm pregnant. I wouldn't be in contact with someone who's been through an airport. There's no one in the world more important than my baby, I wouldn't put our health at risk no matter how much I wanted to see someone.

LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 26/12/2020 12:27

I feel.bad for your daughter. How long are you here? Can you get a COVID test?

MrsBrunch · 26/12/2020 12:27

You can't mix households indoors anyway. Did you not discuss this before you travelled?

LittleWhiteFeather · 26/12/2020 12:28

Stop being so bloody self-absorbed.

Original poster
starrain · 26/12/2020 12:28

Wer in tier 3 but they are in my bubble. We are very quick to believe and trust what the government tells us regarding covid cases and tiers etcetc which we should. But the govt has also put certain countries on safe list AND allowed travel without quarantine for a reason. So how come we only believe the parts we want to believe. My point is, if there was danger in any kind of travelling then there would be quarantine from every form of travel.

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Mdmd · 26/12/2020 12:30

I would only meet you outside too. Sorry.

Bringonthebloodydrama · 26/12/2020 12:30

Why would you want to put your family at ANY risk though? I've had it. It was horrible.

MrsBrunch · 26/12/2020 12:30

Well, you asked and their answer is 'no'. Even if you are in a bubble your risk has obviously been increased by your choice to travel. You can't have it both ways.

littleloopylou · 26/12/2020 12:31

YABU

Orf1abc · 26/12/2020 12:31

This isn't just about overall case rates, but your degree of contact with other people. If you've been on a plane, in a holiday resort, through an airport etc, then you have a high number of contacts and should not add to that number.

As others have asked, what tier are you in? In most areas indoor mixing is prohibited.

NoSquirrels · 26/12/2020 12:31

Well, your level of comfort in risk-taking is clearly set much lower than most. That’s fine for you but you can’t expect others to agree.

Nomoresleeps · 26/12/2020 12:32

Well it’s not a very safe bubble if you have been travelling abroad and then want to go straight back to mixing with family including a pregnant woman.

GreySkyClouds · 26/12/2020 12:32

YABU.

CabinClose · 26/12/2020 12:32

Thank God for sensible people like your sister. We’ll only get the pandemic under control via people like her standing up to their more selfish family members.

emilyfrost · 26/12/2020 12:33

YABU. It was your decision to travel during a pandemic (which is a ridiculous thing to do anyway) so now you have to face the consequences of that.

You are a much higher risk because of that decision and so of course people aren’t going to want to spend lots of time around you.

Nomoresleeps · 26/12/2020 12:33

When was the last time you saw them?

littleloopylou · 26/12/2020 12:33

"if there was danger in any kind of travelling then there would be quarantine from every form of travel."

Wrong. The point is to reduce risk. All travel increases risk, but some destinations present less risk than others.

There is a balance between keeping the economy going/allowing essential travel and reducing cases.

earlydoors42 · 26/12/2020 12:33

There should be quarantine from all travel and should have been all along! Just be a use the government is too stupid to put good rules in place doesn't mean you should be seeing people straight off a plane

Jay2020 · 26/12/2020 12:33

Plenty of things have been in the rules, but noy necessarily a safe decision if pregnant or otherwise vulnerable. It's legal to smoke, but I wouldn't advise your sister to start smoking just because it's legal.

Kaliorphic · 26/12/2020 12:33

I'm sorry op. It is all so rubbish isn't it.

FourTeaFallOut · 26/12/2020 12:33

Wer in tier 3 but they are in my bubble

Well, you took your bit of the bubble through an airport and onto a plane. Didn't you bother asking if they would want you anywhere near them on your return?

Honeyroar · 26/12/2020 12:34

The government might deem travelling to those countries as safe, but it’s not as safe as limiting your contact with others and staying home as much as you can - which is basically what we’re meant to be doing as much as we can. Some of my family members don’t take it very seriously and are here, there and everywhere (even though they’d say they’re being safe and following rules) and I’m keeping my distance from them.

Ilovenewyear · 26/12/2020 12:35

They are in my bubble
Cool story bro.

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 26/12/2020 12:36

@FourTeaFallOut

Wer in tier 3 but they are in my bubble

Well, you took your bit of the bubble through an airport and onto a plane. Didn't you bother asking if they would want you anywhere near them on your return?

How can they be in your bubble if your married and they love together? A childcare bubble doesn’t mean you can socialise.
Mdmd · 26/12/2020 12:36

How are they your bubble? You live abroad! You’ve travelled on a plane and all through an airport.