To not find it unusual that my children still live with me

[Tellmelies65]

My children are 23 and 25 and both still live at home. When I’m asked how old they are.people often remark that they are quite old to be living at home still. They pay rent and do household chores. I would have thought most young adults are better off living at home.

I agree, I would prefer mine to live at home and save etc. Nothing strange about it at all

Assuming they've got some sort of plan for the future, I don't think it's that unusual these days.

I mean, do they work? Have they got goals? Saving for a deposit?

If they're just loafing about 'doing chores' then yeah that'd be a bit weird.

It's going to be increasingly common!!! The housing market is unaffordable unless you save hard, have a partner also saving hard and you both earn a decent amount.

It’s sensible for saving, but not great for life experience.

Other people's opinions are really relevant

If you are all happy with the situation that is all that matters

It doesn't very unusual to me. I can imagine raised eyebrows at 33 and 35 but not at their current ages

Not unusual. If they are happy who cares. Life's too short. Do what works. Usual doesn't mean successful or happy.

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So ridiculous. Who are those weirdos saying that?
Its going to become more and more common place as time goes on. Especially with the fallout from coronavirus etc.
Ignore them OP x

but its not usual imo.

It’s so common now days. I live in Australia and the cost of housing is insane. With most young people completing higher education these days a lot are only starting there careers in their early to mid twenties. If possible they are better of staying home and saving if they can.

My SIL is 24 and still lives with MIL. My cousin is 23 and lives with his parents. I don’t think it’s unusual a lot of people are saving for houses

I think it says a lot about you that they're happy to still be with you 😊.

Enjoy it !

I wouldn't even raise an eyebrow at a 40 something living at home. The way things are now if you can live at home and everyone is happy with it then why not? It's different if the adult child is taking advantage and not pulling their weight but if they do then everyone else needs to butt out.

I would really hope that my kids love me enough and feel happy enough to live at home for that long when they’re older. Surely it means you’ve done something right and have a close enough bond? (If they have jobs and pay their way, if they’re general spongers that’s a different story!)

Tbh I think the real so many young people are caught in the rental trap is because of this weird need to be seen as an adult by moving out and becoming independent.

If more young people stayed home longer and built savings I think we'd see a lot less people in debt and trapped in the insecurity of renting than we are now.

How do you find out if you'd enjoy living in a big city, or a beach town or somewhere remote if you just stay with what you've always known?
I find it thoroughly depressing.

Mine are 26 and 23. Both frantically saving.
They both cook and help around the house and garden.
I'm loving it.

Nowadays they'd be hard pushed to buy a house with prices as high as they are. And renting is money down the drain. So it makes sense to live with you for the time being.

I'd hope that they'd be saving for a deposit at some point through.

Probably jealous

My boys are 25 and 23 and my daughter is 18. Eldest went to uni in Northampton and never came home. He made a life for himself there and is happy. Middle son, moved in with his long term girlfriend in August as we all saw new lockdowns coming and they missed each other so much during the first. Daughter is at uni in Brighton and can't come home due to us being in tier 4.

It's all horses for courses though. It depends on their hopes, dreams and plans for the future. As long as you and they are happy, who cares?

I do feel sorry for young people my 20s (and in fact late teens) were so much fun living all over the UK and abroad and experiencing so much. My first flat was £120 a month shared with a boyfriend in Oxford in 1994 you would pay 10 times that now.

@jay55 so is paying an inflated price to cover somebody else's mortgage and not having enough money to live on.

Most only move out if they have a partner as they can afford to with 2 wages. Not sure that should be considered a personal success. If they split from the partner they often end up back in the family home.

My sil is only just moving out. She's 37. My DS lives st home no plans to move out, she's 39. Another relative is 40 and lives at home.

I don't know if it's 'normal' but it's pretty common for single people.

Ex H was living at home at 25, this was 24 years ago. Should have run for the hills.

It's not strange to me at all. I know loads of people, even 25 years ago when I was at the starting out stage, who lived at home at that age.